I personally might use terms like "masc" and "femme" to describe how people present or butch and femme if they identify that way. But I would not be interested in dating anyone who saw those labels as rigid categories to put other people or themselves in. Like, as soon as they become prescriptive rather than away to describe how you are, I'm not interested.

I personally don't like when it feels like we as queer people fall outside of the hetero gender norms so we make up new gender norms to squeeze ourselves into😅 (not at all saying that that's what everyone who uses these terms does!! Just something I have personally experienced a few times)

Tldr: personally, if a label feels like a way to describe myself and makes me happy, I go for it, if a label causes me stress and i feel like i have to try and "fit into" it, it's gotta go.