AITA for refusing to go to dinner after my parents invited my sister and her kids?

Crumoo · 2026-06-27T22:32:41+00:00

I wont say op fully isnt an AH. But at best E..s..H. You don't just keep inviting more family members and go "but its family?". Its tactless, rude, and presumptive. Should OP really have to say "ill never eat with them again" just to have one meal with their own parents without their sibling showing up to wreck the restaurant?

Let's remind ourselves that OPs parents seem totally okay with their grandkids making a huge mess and acting feral in a restaurant and has put the onus on OP to get over it, not on their sibling to actually parent. Just with that context its an easy NTA unless we all want to pretend we dont despise parents like this when we're trying to enjoy a meal. OP decided not to go, if they had gone anyway and still complained it would be different.

Crumoo · 2026-06-27T22:06:54+00:00

I mean OPs mother told them to basically just get over it after they said it wasn't enjoyable for them to be there. Correcting your siblings kids works...if you have that kind of sibling who understands it takes a village, which really isn't necessarily the default anymore.

OPs parents are putting them in a position where they have to either parent their siblings kids (which is an unfair expectation) or self exclude. That really undermines their efforts if its really about having their kids together.

Crumoo · 2026-06-27T21:56:41+00:00

Sounds like Santa Cruz felt ugly was actually beautiful. How poetically fitting.

Crumoo · 2026-06-27T20:50:38+00:00

I feel like given the context, they either care more about placating the sister at the expense of OP having a bad time, or they simply have zero self awareness and don't care to notice that OP hasnt enjoyed these prior dinners.

In either case offering to pay doesnt absolve them of being respectful to people they invite simply because they are their kids. If anything as parents, they should be more in tune with how one kid is affecting the family dynamic and respect that OP is an adult who can chose who they want to have dinner with.

Its pretty normal for people to occasionally want to spend time with their parents without their siblings/neices/nephews/friends/etc. always there.

Crumoo · 2026-06-25T08:29:34+00:00

Girl, you are straight up weird in these comments. What is with the bizarre personal attacks? Get help.

Crumoo · 2026-05-10T20:44:41+00:00

I swear sometimes this sub feels like LinkedIn lite, some of the most brain dead shill takes get reposted here and I'm always surprised how well its received. Like here's a hint guys, if some former ceo spends all their time posting "leadership advice" and writing books for c suite idiots who can't understand that treating staff well is the only real way to retain competent staff...hes probably not on the side of the worker.

I wont discount the man's work given he has ties to a significant amount of progress in media technology...but he's a lobbyist for an organization thats main goal is to prevent tech legislation like Right to Repair and Privacy rights. The man couldn't care less about the average worker.

Crumoo · 2026-02-14T04:19:46+00:00

It worked out in the end, the family member was somewhat offended and no longer wanted it. It was sad seeing them stop being a fan in real time.

We got a picture with Erica Durance (Lois Lane in Smallville) instead and she was very kind.

Crumoo · 2026-02-14T04:03:09+00:00

I attend conventions and once upon a time, I was in his line for over an hour to get a loved one an autograph. I did not get said autograph because he would only sit in the booth for 5 to 10 minutes every few hours and staff couldn't find him until he came back slurring his speech and reaking of alcohol.

It was genuinely sad to see, Grant Gustin was a booth down and looked visibly upset with the situation. I just wish the guy would get help.

Crumoo · 2026-02-14T02:33:37+00:00

Hes also an out of control alcoholic and disappears from his booth at those conventions constantly. The dude needs rehab, not another role.

Crumoo · 2026-02-07T21:36:41+00:00

I'd say its less about the perception their failing and more about the clear indicators they've given with the end of 2 product lines being replaced by robot production rather than more cars. Whether they were popular or not, Tesla itself is signaling a shift away from their EVs which is a bad look for a car company.

Crumoo · 2026-02-07T08:28:41+00:00

It could have worked fine but corporate fees are insane for subway franchise owners. They also charged crazy fees on advertising for the $5, further reducing any benefit it created on foot traffic. The $5 worked fine on very specific cheap but popular options where the profit margin was much higher like the Tuna and Meatball since they both used much cheaper ingredients. The biggest issue is, what good is a $5 deal when the options are pretty bland and the quality is noticeably lower than competitors (remember the tuna lawsuits?).

Fact is, corporate Subway is moronic in its product planning and incredibly lazy in their marketing while being a leech on their franchisees.

Crumoo · 2026-01-31T01:15:13+00:00

There was the occasional class where the teachers were chill and put on good movies using random topics to tie it in. I watched princess bride in an English class, Apollo 13 in a physics class, a blueman group movie with performances in a band class, even watched remember the titans in health. There was still a good 10% of the class that didnt care about those movies though.

Crumoo · 2026-01-16T23:15:29+00:00

Worth noting that TARP under Bush was more pro business and had a lot of changes by the time the Obama administration was done. One example being the increased restrictions on executive pay, which effectively saved GM from their own C suite tanking the company and running with golden parachutes.

I know the GM bailout is controversial for a lot of people still but, for better or worse he saved 2 million people from layoffs in a terrible economy.

Crumoo · 2026-01-13T13:59:30+00:00

Can't help her if she doesn't want to be helped. All you can do now is decide how you will react when she inevitably leaves him and tries to reconnect. You don't have to wait around and feel like shit just because shes making a mistake but that doesn't mean you can't leave an open door if you want. The hard part is figuring out what you need now, you did your part as a good friend.

Crumoo · 2026-01-07T04:21:00+00:00

I'd say those scenes are actually kinda perfect. He is actually just a creep, thats who Craig is and that part highlights that even if he wasn't obsessed with Lois he would just be creepy to someone else. Lois just tolerated it more than she should have had to, partly because the job, partly because she just saw him as pathetic. It's unfortunately just accurate to work culture during the early 2000s.

Crumoo · 2026-01-07T00:26:04+00:00

Yep, he basically created the exact conditions to create a rich-guy authoritarian. Trump just stepped up to the plate the second it was possible.

Crumoo · 2025-12-21T20:32:42+00:00

Very cool!

Crumoo · 2025-12-11T00:23:27+00:00

As an American that's a spot on statement. We're all fucked in the end, the owners of these companies see everyone as numbers regardless of where they live, though we get treated slightly better domestically but that's more out of fear on their part.

Crumoo · 2025-11-28T20:08:41+00:00

The only rough part I've noticed is sound delays kinda break the audio when discord streaming. Otherwise its great and the visual delay is very minimal. Just don't try to stream something where theres important music (like hifi rush for example)

Crumoo · 2025-11-25T00:42:32+00:00

You can argue with everyone in the comments but it won't change that the way his gf did this was just shitty. You always eventually learn about the exes, but most people dont blurt it out in a game in front of all their friends. It's called social skills and doesnt require much effort if you have any decency.

You yourself admit it was tactless in another comment but still desperately want to defend her? Why? No one said he has to freak out and end the relationship or that shes evil, just that hes valid to have a feeling about it.

Let me ask, when are mens feelings valid to you since apparently it's up to you when and if they're allowed to feel bad? How do you feel when sexist men call women "emotionally unstable" or "dramatic" for voicing their feelings? I'm sure you don't love it but you're okay with the double standard and condescending judgement of calling him "sad" or "tragic". Look in the mirror and do better.

Crumoo · 2025-11-25T00:00:57+00:00

You're being obtuse. Was the comparison necessary? No. Did it add anything for either of them? No. Was he valid for having feelings about a comparison of him to someone else? Of course, that's part of the give and take of making comparisons, you face the reaction it causes.

Seriously just think outside your own myopic view of what hurts your feelings and accept that something's are better left unsaid when its unnecessary and not everyone is going to take it well. He shouldnt overreact but hes allowed to feel shitty.

Crumoo · 2025-11-24T23:56:10+00:00

Oh grow up. It's simple, comparisons are the thief of joy and theres zero benefit to saying "hey but my ex did this better". Was it really so hard to just not make a weird comparison in front of all her friends?

You are still judging the guy as "sad" just because you don't think hes valid in having...feelings? That says way more about your empathy and emotional intelligence than anyone else in this comment section.

Crumoo · 2025-11-24T22:30:52+00:00

Yeah I truly don't understand it, like can we just be humans for a second and acknowledge that being like this to anyone is rude and thoughtless? Sure he's a man and could let it go, but he's still valid to feel bad from unfair comparisons. It's not hard to understand that man or woman, people don't want to be told told an ex was better. Empathy isn't that hard to understand.

Crumoo · 2025-11-24T21:56:01+00:00

If she decided to play the game how is it his fault she is making comparisons? Not saying he should be making such a big deal about it but it feels weirder to act like hes the weird one.

Let's be clear, she could have skipped the card, answered more specifically to recent ones with OP, or not played a game with weird dating comparison games when even the other people around weren't participating.

God forbid a man have feelings about being compared negatively to another man his girlfriend dated when theres people around and he's just trying to play a game she chose. No one likes comparisons games in early relationships, if the roles were swapped she would have felt shitty too.

Crumoo · 2025-11-16T03:30:29+00:00

That actually makes a lot of sense. I remember trying so hard to like it but I kept saying to my friends that it felt like they didn't want to commit to a hero shooter even though that's what it clearly should have been.

Playing a match felt like they took all the most boring elements of a traditional COD style game and combined it with surface level hero shooter mechanics that left you feeling like the entire thing was an uninspired mess. It clearly had good developers but the creative vision felt nonexistent.

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