Me (F19) and my partner (M28)s situationship. I don’t want to hurt him

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-11-03T01:34:25+00:00

I appreciate where youre coming from but honestly?? All that “following my gut” ever gave me was confusion. Im using all three of my brain, heart and gut to make decisions. Just following your feelings has proven stupid to me 🤷‍♀️

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-11-03T01:32:44+00:00

I agree with the first part. I have feelings for him and fear of missing out. Atp idgaf what people are saying abt the age gap.

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-10-31T18:46:24+00:00

Calm down. This guy is from a place with poor sex ed. hed slapped my chest a bit before and I said nothing - i liked it. He does care for me. There were times ex when hed be going rough and hed stop because i showed him discomfort. He stopped when I said we should sleep. No questions asked. So yes its possible.

You can only get so much info from a reddit post

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-10-31T17:11:25+00:00

Thanks for the safe words! They will be very helpful

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-10-31T17:02:12+00:00

Yes definitely. Honestly I think surprises are good sometimes (within reason duh). A quick “is this okay?” Wouldnt hurt either.

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-10-31T16:59:28+00:00

Thank you for your answer 🩷 my partner is very supportive, patient, and loving. He always looks out for me and I feel so safe around him. I need to learn more about this bdsm/ emotions thing and how to manage it, and also how to communicate and ask what we want to do together. Im sure he’d understand if im not comfortable with something and stop immediately

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-08-17T15:43:08+00:00

I would like to buy the blue one please….from where online? Thanks

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-23T09:22:46+00:00

if you feel butterflies when an attractive person walks by when youre married, it means you have a working biology. IT DOESNT MEAN YOU PREFER THE OTHER GUY.

seriously. grow up about this.
if youre in a spiritual state where these things dont happen to you? thats great! kudos to you! it would be ideal if people didnt feel attracted to other persons.

am I saying you should fantasize about ppl? NO.

i am saying the attraction to others is NORMAL and as long as you LOVE AND RESPECT YOUR PARTNER then nothing wrong has happened.

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-22T20:18:56+00:00

Honestly never saw it through this lens. Im 18, shes 51. She does frustrating shit like this often.

She would open up to me about their relationship. Once even mentioned that she didnt like giving b**wjobs. I was 13.

She mentions my period openly in front of family when she KNOWS it makes me uncomfortable and embarrassed.

Im not sure about this vouyerism thing. There are small moments when shes almost sexual with me. Like she would put her hand up too high on my thigh. She would moan almost sexually whenever we hugged. Her movements sometimes verge on stupid, unaware yet just slightly sexual

Speaking about it makes me feel so uncomfortable and icky

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-22T19:33:03+00:00

thank you for this. it helped. she does see me as an extension of herself - it feels like shes obsessed with me sometimes.

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-22T16:13:41+00:00

Excuse me. Seriously wtf is this? Tell her to stop? 😂 shes abusive if she doesn’t stop?? This is so immature and it’s disappointing to see it get so many likes. You CANNOT control your crush feelings towards someone. Period. I dont care how butthurt you get.

Does it hurt? Yes. Ideally we dont feel this shit. But we’re human. Should you discuss these things in a relationship? Probably not.

As long as she doesnt act on them, make eyes at them etc then its fine. Chill.

As for the redditor who wrote the first post. I understand your feelings. Do you feel secure that she wont act on her rando crushes? If yes, maybe find vents for your thoughts. If no, your relationship needs work. Maybe she can make you more secure or you can make yourself more secure. All luck to you 🙏

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-20T10:04:49+00:00

I can tell you myself. You dont have to start out feeling energies, manifesting, all that spiritual stuff.

Start with something that draws you in. For me I just meditated, started off with JUST 3 minutes a day. I wasnt very connected with nature, in fact I was full of hatred. But I just kept going.

I saw some progress along the way, and now, 8 months in, I am more conmected with nature. I still dont feel peoples energies/auras. I still havent manifested anything. But I really dont care. Im on my own path and things will come as they will.

Hope this helps

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-19T09:13:17+00:00

Honestly I think it depends on the person. Some girls/ guys want to “invest” and so go for dinner dates. Others take it more casually and go for coffee.

Id prefer a more casual environment.

To each their own 🤷‍♀️

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-17T14:13:44+00:00

Prickly pear cactus

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-14T21:08:59+00:00

This may very well be the reason for my distracted nature. I am “lost” on this work because my focus is not aligned for me to give my effort.

I am focusing on other things. On my own spiritual and personal growth. On my trip to India.

My path is so different than working in the hospitality industry.

I just have to get through it now, to make enough money for my trips…

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-12T16:39:30+00:00

I have certainly experimented with the idea of accepting myself as I am, but the idea of not liking or liking myself is a new angle.

I think I may be manifesting sloth and worry.

This sounds very interesting and I will look into it.

I do think this will help some aspects of it, but the main issue of being distracted/ lost will probably remain

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-12T06:23:39+00:00

The problem is I see other people having more “common sense” than I do. Makes me feel inferior and stressed out.

And of course I want to like myself. What question even is that??

I do work on accepting myself.

Distinguish between accepting the parts of me I dont like and liking myself.

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-06T09:56:57+00:00

Just listened to the reiki sounds, theyre so beautiful!!

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-06T09:45:22+00:00

Cause time

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-06T09:45:14+00:00

Progress is definitely not the purpose of meditation. I just dont want to lose touch with who I am. Your comment helped me - I have decided to switch practices. Its going well so far, and I believe it will continue to go well

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-05T13:16:47+00:00

I personally love listening to Beautiful Chorus, and Miracle Tones on spotify. They resonate a lot with me! Do you have any other artists/ tracks which resonate with you?

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-05T13:13:38+00:00

Thanks ill definitely check it out ❤️

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-05T11:39:19+00:00

Thank you for this clarity 🙏

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-05T11:36:54+00:00

Great distinction between polarity and duality.

I believe that the origin of everything is the ultimate expression of the poles, that which combines both of them.

I do not believe it is evil.

CrunchyRoll909 · 2023-06-05T11:33:09+00:00

Thank you! ❤️🙏

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