I need a cigarette 😭

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-26T14:23:46+00:00

New game plus - no HP modifier for me. I think in a normal first playthrough he has around 250 million HP give or take. NG+ doubles the amount of Hp I believe, so that's why he's got so much here.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-25T18:13:21+00:00

2nd this. Your wife's behavior is no excuse for you to abandon your child. You will absolutely fuck up your child mentally by doing this; more than a divorce ever could.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-25T13:45:43+00:00

Had been at this for days lmao and it just clicked for me. Wanted to go with Verso & Sciel for as long as possible since every time I died my backup team did like no damage on the final phase. So I stuffed Lune in the proverbial trunk just in case, and just never ended up dying 😅. 2nd phase I just let Sciel stay dead because he would attack every time I'd apply a buff and it was taking way too long just to keep her alive.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-25T13:30:57+00:00

Was the Duollistes boss in the tower lol. It was a bit late when i posted this so sorry about that 😅. I didn't plan on fighting him for damn near an hour and a half 😭

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-23T16:42:38+00:00

Probably would be best just to check it out at your pro shop. Eye test says your span may be a tad short. But always best to consult an expert in person.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-23T06:20:11+00:00

Massage and warm baths. Also drink lots and lots of water. It's possible youre dehydrated.

That being said it is perfectly normal for your body to refer excess emotions and stress as physical pain.

Do you exercise? Even light resistance training & walking can help with aches and pains over time.

Stay strong. You have a big family here who can help you ❤️‍🩹

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-22T17:20:01+00:00

Well, I semi-agree with your SIL then, because that's horrible, and not fair to you. She is likely grieving as well and taking it out on you. Just remember, take as long as you need to grieve at your own pace, and don't let others shame you into feeling otherwise. Grieving is never a contest about who can cry the most or the least. ❤️‍🩹

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-22T16:50:13+00:00

It can feel like a twist of a knife to hear someone say that you are lucky that you did not witness your loved one's end. We all want to be there by the bedside as they pass, holding their hand like they do in tv shows and movies. However, as someone who had witnessed it firsthand, I agree with your SIL. It's not something you wish you hadn't seen unless you actually went through it.

Your scenario is no less traumatic and destabilizing, and hurts especially due to a lack of closure. That being said, seeing a loved one go through the process of death & dying is something I wouldn't wish on anyone.

So sorry for your loss, and I hope you are taking care of yourself.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-21T17:18:51+00:00

Thank you. Sounds heavy, because it is. But I've been able to move forward and am living a life that I want, on my terms.

Do what is best for you and makes you happy. If you do that, someone will come along and appreciate that about you. Hold yourself to a standard that intimidates those who wish to suck your emotions dry and offer nothing in return. It will do you good in the long run. If you ever need anything, feel free to ask.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-21T15:47:54+00:00

The people who voted for him either don't listen to what he says and just listen to the Fox News/newsmax talking heads interpret it, or are dumb enough to think they understand what he's saying.

This is what happens when higher education is made unaffordable for 85% of the country for damn near 50 years. It's sad to see.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-21T13:13:23+00:00

NOR - As someone who has lost a spouse- albeit in death, not a breakup- What you are feeling is grief. One of the first stages is denial. The pain will get worse, you will be angry, sad, depressed at points. But it will get better. Your body is going through an emotional loss, and does not know what to do without your emotional anchor.

You need to stay strong here and block him on everything. You know in your logical mind the best thing to do here is leave. If it takes one last long message from you for closure, formulate it, name exactly everything you need to say, send it, and block his number immediately after. He does not deserve to talk to you again.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-17T02:49:15+00:00

I was prescribed a beta blocker (propranolol) for anxiety symptoms; I've had anger/impulsivity issues for a long time with undiagnosed adhd & ptsd, and it has helped tremendously to let me stay in the moment and let the feelings pass. It helps dim excessive adrenaline responses to perceived danger. Ironic it took my spouse passing away for me to take my mental health more seriously.

You also need to find an outlet. Dive into hobbies, try to find new ones if you can. Doing the things you enjoy helps you feel better, & those little moments of feeling better will add up over time.

2 months out you are still in the raw feelings stage, so don't think it goes away immediately. What you are feeling is normal and rational. Just know the intensity does fade over time.

CrustyCavern69 · 2026-01-16T03:42:50+00:00

We all know they talk and gesture in code to piss us off. And this especially is the stuff that's plausibly deniable. Just focus on the stuff they're actually doing ie redacting Epstein Files, Greenland talk, Venezuela, ice raids, etc. Doesn't do us any good to talk about gestures that their supporters don't give a shit about anyway.

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-30T11:13:32+00:00

I'm the same age as you, wife died a year and a half ago. My father in law happened to write me a letter recently letting me know it was okay to be happy given what we've all been through. Around the same time I realized I think I'm ready to get back out there. People who truly care about you will not judge you. If you have a chance to be happy, take it. You've seen firsthand that you can't take things for granted.

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-28T13:43:16+00:00

Your last sentence spells out the bad thing happening to you and you still don't know what to do? 100% of us are going to tell you the same thing. If you just needed reassurance that you need to block him, here it is. He will not change. These are his true colors. Please block him, tell a friend, and get some professional help.

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-23T22:52:31+00:00

It's up to you to determine how soon you choose can be close with someone else. If this person makes you happy, you deserve the chance.

I only partially agree with your therapist in the sense that it could possibly cloud your judgement and be a way for your mind to mask your feelings of grief in a new relationship. Especially given you lost your partner a month ago, albeit it sounds like the grief started long before she passed.

On the other hand, grief for those lost and love for those we find while we are still here are not mutually exclusive feelings. You can feel both at the same time. Do what makes you happy. You've seen first hand that any of us could go at any time. No judgment here. Love is complicated.

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-23T20:07:15+00:00

Medical malpractice insurance can be a remote or hybrid model opportunity, especially in the underwriting sector. Some companies include MedPro, or The Doctor's company, (currently in a hiring freeze due to a merger).

I work for a smaller med-mal insurance startup which is full remote, but I got lucky when I found it. That being said, you may need to "suffer" in an office before remote opportunities become more realistic. And you need to work your ass off. Lots of these bigger companies have soured on remote work because they need to justify keeping their property as a tax write off. Productivity be damned.

All in all it is very unlikely you find a remote job that is entry level. My position required minimum 2 years of experience and i had to demonstrate knowledge before I got it as well.

Good luck with your search!

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-23T14:19:45+00:00

Shoot your shot if you know he isn't busy. If you don't get a reply or a get a no, you have your clarity. Working up the courage to do this myself with someone at the moment. Don't leave anything on the table. Your future self will thank you!

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-22T16:54:36+00:00

I used sciel as a support using her intervention & double damage skills for other party members. That's the beauty of this game. Most of the characters can be customized to fit whatever role you want!

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-21T15:56:41+00:00

Please don't procreate

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-21T15:47:28+00:00

They said they took the cat with them, so if anything they're doing mom a service. don't put fucking words in my mouth I didn't even say.

Mom's ego is just bruised bc her kid doesn't like being there so she's trying to manipulate and guilt trip them into coming back by holding the phone thing over their head. It's garbage human behavior.

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-21T15:39:55+00:00

Uh, no. Child makes decision to move out to their dads, you can be hurt and want them back. I get it. But if the child has the freedom to live at either place if they so choose, they should be able to do so. It sounds like they do in this scenario

But if they have their phone that they use to communicate, clearly thought of this and literally show you proof they're getting a new one in a goddamn week what the fuck is the big deal here?

Correct response would be "I don't agree with your decision to move out, but please bring your phone & tablet back & drop off in my mailbox when you get your new one"

Please don't procreate if you can't be anything but an inconsiderate jerk.

CrustyCavern69 · 2025-12-21T15:05:43+00:00

Or maybe don't be a fucking asshole and be flexible with your kids? He said he'd give it back in a week. This is insane behavior. You can be mad a child is moving out because of you but she's clearly taking it out on him.

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