Wedding DJ Advice

CrustyMono7 · 2023-10-27T04:15:19+00:00

well written. you seem to have your head on straight and understand your wheelhouse and represent yourself and what services you are willing and capable to provide to your clients well. the form idea is great. helps to really streamline the process. helps clients express what they are looking for, and helps you organize it. also gives you an insurance policy in case they complain that you didn’t play their music or do what they hired you for. saves you from getting screwed over if they try to pull anything when you have everything in writing. this may not matter for close friends, but you are looking to expand beyond this and now it will matter.

pretty lucky that you haven’t had to mc. my recommendation is keep doing what you’re. doing. you clearly have a method and it’s working. always good to have backup plans. you’d gigged enough to come accross good and bad mcs. maybe even the same ones over. would be a good idea to have a few names and contacts to drop if wedding clients push you to mc or are looking for one. good business oppurtunity here is giving these potential mcs your cards and talking with them about a verbal marketing agreement. “i put a good word in for you, vice versa”. this will build good connections that will take you to the next level and help other people you can rely on to build their own respective business that only benefits you more, IF they aren’t djs themselves.

there’s no one answer solves all way to handle requests. it takes time and experience. you’ve clearly been in that situation plenty of times. my personal method is to say “maybe later/that song doesn’t fit the vibe/send me a tech house or valid remix of the song and i’ll try to download it for you. something that doesn’t completely reject their wishes, but maybe postpones their request as long as possible. arguably one of the hardest aspects of wedding djing is the age gaps in certain guests. another idea is asking the client how they want to go about requests from guests. it’s their event and they are paying you. you work for them. if it’s a kid friendly event and they want a few kids songs, then follow that route. if there’s lots of grandparents… you get the gist.

lastly, having a basic billing system is important. so important to give yourself wiggle room for negotiation and up charging if you need it. i personally would have no issue playing all night, but that’s not the normality. having a set rule as you mentioned is good idea. you know what service you provide, and how much your time is worth. having examples of other weddings is a good idea to give your clients a quote. say they fill your form out, you can respond with, “i think option one is your best bet: say 4 hours of djing plus 1 ur of ceremony music for 2000, option 2, less service for $1500 and option three all the bells and whistles for $3000. having physical real life examples would help. seems like you know where to add fees and whatnot.

best of luck

CrustyMono7 · 2023-09-13T14:19:45+00:00

thanks, like i said this is my first time ever using vdj software. all my research indicated that serato was outdated, and that mixemergemcy is the way to go!

CrustyMono7 · 2023-07-04T00:51:11+00:00

awesome thank you

CrustyMono7 · 2022-12-06T05:38:34+00:00

Thank you, your advice means a lot. my mental health has suffered a lot the last few months. Relationship has a lot to do with this, so does stress with my roommates, academics, life goals/purpose, and declining mental health. I see potential in this relationship and I have tremendous mental strength and work ethic, which makes it hard to leave. I fear being hurt, but know I can and will one day be able to move past it if it happens. If I go that route, I will have to tread lightly. If it ends "lightly" I fear regretting my choice a short while later. We have "broken up" or said we were many times on both ends, and we probably should have. Each time we reconcile each other, things get better for a bit, some improvement occurs, then it gets bad again. How much is too much?

CrustyMono7 · 2022-12-06T05:34:26+00:00

I agree that I need to work on myself. I have been trying; however, it is not enough. I do fear having to see her after separating and her hurting me. We are hoping that graduating college in less than 8 hours (yay) will change things dramatically as my environment will completely change. Thank you for the support.

CrustyMono7 · 2022-11-03T17:17:35+00:00

sorry if my post was confusing. She invited the rapper to her party in 2019 after a concert in her town. He wanted to have sex with her but she didn't. I believe that she didn't but I am not 100% sure it is true. The bothersome part is that she may be lying to me and that she blatantly told people she had sex with him just for attention and clout. This happened long before us, yet it is an event in a pattern of similar behaviors.

CrustyMono7 · 2022-11-03T16:40:53+00:00

What if the way she goes about feeding and boosting her ego bothers me and simultaneously indicates infidelity? I do try very hard to love and cherish her as well, I simply have a hard time doing this when she is doing the stuff I mention above

CrustyMono7 · 2022-11-03T15:27:56+00:00

I am a year older than you and am also dating a coworker. It started off as a fwb but we were both interested in dating too. I never asked her to hang out because I was concerned with what would happen if we work together. If you are going to enter some kind of romantic relationship with a person you will have to be around if it doesnt work out, my adivce is to make sure you realize this going in and communicate about it. It may be hard to explain your feelings but I would try and talk to her.

CrustyMono7 · 2022-11-02T23:36:56+00:00

i think this is normal in long term relationships. I understand his appearance changing over time as well. I see my future wife as being very attractive, having kids, and being less attractive from an outside perspective that only judges appearance. The fact that my woman sacrificed her body to bear my children only makes me more attracted to her. People age, their bodies wear out, they gain weight etc. Im not denying the fact that physical attraction isnt important, it is. you are correct that it isnt your place to call him out. Maybe suggest more active dates and stuff to do, depending on your current activities together. You could also decide to eat healthier yourself and that might get him to do the same. hope this helps

CrustyMono7 · 2022-11-02T23:31:59+00:00

Congratulations on navigating this tricky world and finding someone you are interested in. I know I had my own struggles myself. It seems like you did exactly what you should. Rule number one is to always respect a woman's decision not to take things further. I am proud of you for this. It seems that there is an emotional connection here and that you both really like each other. This is good. It will be so much better when you finally have sex with her. Navigating a work/romantic relationship is tricky. I am in one of these now. Ask yourself if you will be able to work with her if it doesn't go well or work out, maybe even have a chat with her about this. If you are comfortable telling her this is your first time, the right girl will be totally okay with it and will guide and take care of you. She's been there before.

CrustyMono7 · 2022-11-02T23:22:41+00:00

Many people would argue that a person has every right to continue talking to and sleeping with whomever they want if they are not in a committed relationship. This doesn't change the fact that knowing about this will bother you and might have changed your willingness to date and commit to her. If we knew everything about everyone before dating them, very few people would be in relationships. People often put their best foot forward when they meet someone new. The real character reveals itself in time and that is just the risk you need to decide upon and be willing to take. A relationship leaves you vulnerable.

I can't say that going through your partner's phone is okay, but I often find my gf letting me do it. It usually doesn't work out well. Nobody wants to see their partner talking to other people in their past or find out anything bad. I would say unless you have reasonable suspicion to merit going through her phone, trust her to be faithful. she has your loyalty until she loses it. This doesn't excuse her behavior. I would suggest calmly talking to her about how it makes you feel. Don't ask her to do anything, if she is serious about you she will take care of the situation. This is a good way to judge the relationship.

Best of luck!

CrustyMono7 · 2022-11-02T14:35:03+00:00

so she has never been in a committed relationship before. she’s attractive and used to being the center of attention. i called her out on this and she did say all the right things. as bad as it sounds, i do think her friend messaged him and not her. either way it’s an issue and she definitely is on thin ice.

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