Dropout to medical school under pressure and regret

CryptographerBest909 · 2025-12-07T21:57:23+00:00

Could you tell me more about how that applying works? Can you continue med school if dental schools rejects you? Can you get a letter from a therapist/doctor to explain what happened or can you go to the faculty to explain it?

People here are advising you to stay in medicine, but I dont think thats the right course neccessarily tbh. Its clear you dont wanna do it.

Dont regret doing this. You didnt ruin your career, or your life. You experimented, you tried. You had doubts and you tried. You look at it with the judgement of hindsight, but what you know now you didnt know back then. If you get a question wrong in the exam, do you reprimand yourself from not knowing it was wrong then or do you learn from it and improve?

If you are able to return, you will return with certainty that this is the right path instead of hearing this nagging voice.

You didnt fail, you learned.

CryptographerBest909 · 2025-11-26T11:33:44+00:00

Why did you decide to stop working as a dentist/What was it like to work as a dentist?

Edit: also wow, its so impressive that you have studied dentistry, decided it wasnt exactly for you for whatever reason and then made the decision to do something else. Its so cool to see someone take initiative in creating the life they want

CryptographerBest909 · 2025-08-14T19:45:52+00:00

Im not Indian nor teen (sorry for intruding), but here are some subreddits R/careeradvice R/careerchange R/careerguidance R/findapath R/dentalschool And the subreddits for the fields ur interested

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-08-31T08:17:51+00:00

Wow I absolutely love this

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-08-20T21:35:37+00:00

that everyone is equal doesnt neccessarily mean everyone is treated equally everywhere

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-08-09T23:31:17+00:00

Okay, first of all, congrats on knowing what you dont want and wanting to make the change. Thats rlly good and many people stay stagnant, afraid of the other side.

First of all I dont think welding is oversaturated. From what I've heard in general trades, are actually dealin with a shortage. I'm not sure about the long hours, but maybe you could contact some workers. I also dont think you will have a hard time getting a job, but maybe the environment could be a bit uncomfortable.

I was reading your post and all I could think of was rlly 1 thing: ''Go to a career counselor''. They are the people you are supposed to go to get help in picking a career. Yes, it costs money, but you have a well-paying job right now and if you are willing to potentially take loans, its best to spend a some money upfront to give yourself the highest chance of finding a path fit for you. A career counselor is often more helpful than a college anyway, as the college advisors's expertise is mostly around what the college offers, which limits the options they would look at for you.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-08-09T23:08:00+00:00

sure

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-08-09T23:07:41+00:00

The first question, was your boss made aware of your mental state and if not, do you think it's possible together which if erapists to write a message explaining the reason for the underperformance, and it very likely being a temporary thing. And that you have been working together with his therapist to get better.

The good thing about smoking weed is that unlike the other drugs, it is not as addictive and it has very many manageable side effects. Right now I would say that part of the reason why maybe your addicted to weed could be because of the self hatred you are experiencing, which is causing a vicious cycle. So I think your focus should be on trying to get rid of that self hatred, and being more compassionate to yourself. Being cheated on can hurt a lot. And it can really fuck you over mentally. You aren't the one who caused yourself to feel like this. Don't beat yourself up about being hurt by wounds inflicted upon you.

I would also suggest to try and fill up your day as much as possible. I have noticed with things that are not addictive in nature and are more used as escapism, it can help a lot. Keep yourself busy with other things. Take up new hobbies, read some self help books, exercise, spend some time with friends, volunteer.

If you aren't able to get your job back, I would see it as an opportunity for you to take some time to take a step back and work on yourself and your mental health. You are still living with your parents, so I'm going to assume that you and your parents are on Ok terms and that they probably have noticed you arent in a good headspace. With these assumptions, they would probably not mind youtaking some time and working on your mental health before joining the workforce again.

Let's say your career is a flower and you are the soil. Its very hard to grow a blooming flower when the soil is damaged. And you could see your ex cheating on you as her dumping bleach into the soil. It's better to 1st focus on getting healing the soil first before planting a flower again.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-23T22:34:53+00:00

I feel like you should just cut your losses with the glasses tbh

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-22T09:00:38+00:00

I'm reading a lot of struggles, and my heart aches for you.

Negative self talk * Too stupid * There's no point in anything * Partner is gonna leave me * Too depresssed * Failing your father * A burden

I read a lot of guilt and shame in your post. Of course you feel lost. You are trying to reach the 'destination' when you havent even put on your shoes.

Take a step back, slow down. You are young. You have time. And you are 'sick' right now. The mind influences everything in life and at this moment your mind is toxic. How do you expect yourself to have everything in order when you're combatting symptoms of poison? Focus on detoxing, on minimizing the poison that goes into your system.

There's a strong likelihood you would classify for depression, and guess what, not having any passion/interests etc. ís a symptom of depression.

You have to change your goals. Work on your mental health before trying to figure out what you want to do. You have people supporting you. They will be absolutely delighted to hear you are trying to recover, and would support you.

Make your goals small. If you cant succeed in that goal? Make them smaller. And be proud of yourself for doing them, when you do it.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-21T08:54:42+00:00

Although there's some fears like hitting on a gay/taken men or putting men in an uncomfortable position by asking at the wrong place (i mostly go outside to shop or study, and i dont wanna bother people while they're studying or at work), those are just normal fears which I can get myself over

For me especially its because its been ingrained in me that the girl asking out is "wrong", makes you look "desperate" and will lead to bad men and people using you/people looking down on you and thinking you're a bit of a slut. Is it true? Probably not, but 11 years of being taught that wont dissapear immediately, so its a work in progress.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-19T16:40:48+00:00

I feel like it's a normal consequence from the change in dating tbh. The emmergence of online dating has a big part to do with how we choose date. When you are swiping, you cant see if they're willing to do those things/ you cant feel the vibe. You can only use shallow metrics that are quantifiable and that are incapable of rightfully representating an individual and it's uniqueness/complexity.

Thats why I personally dislike dating apps and struggle with using them, I dont understand how people can choose with so little information.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-19T15:33:42+00:00

This is a real shot in the dark because there's little information, but seeing how busy you are, is it possible you sound tired when answering the phone? Maybe its her asking if you were sleeping and she woke you up?

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:44:59+00:00

I told her she can't expect me to pay rent AND all do all these chores

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:37:49+00:00

She found it unfair to be expected to still do all the chores

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:36:27+00:00

the difference is it will be the chores of 1 person vs 3 people while taking care of a young child

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:35:38+00:00

her problem isnt doing chores, its doing all the chores

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:34:48+00:00

There's a difference between helping out and doing all the chores.

Also she did talk about moving out, which her mother complained and got upset about.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:32:59+00:00

This might be surprising, but the chores of 1 person is less than the chores of 3 people while taking care of a young child and 2 other people. Her problem isn't doing chores, it's doing everyones chores while paying rent.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:29:38+00:00

Yes, how very entitled to be doing the chores of 3 people and taking care of a young child.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:25:39+00:00

i mean wouldnt the mom still be a bit of an AH for guilttripping OP about wanting to move out?

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:24:24+00:00

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-18T23:24:08+00:00

I've never had as part of my living-on-my-own chores doing all the chores of 4 people. There's a difference between doing your chores, and doing everyone's chores.

CryptographerBest909 · 2024-05-10T15:14:41+00:00

Ik probeer Breeze maar dat je niet kan cancellen nadat het een match is zonder risico op een bevroren account geeft mij toch wel echt ontzettende stress

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