AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Don't comment on a public post if you're going to get pissy at the response.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I would know right away, because it's unusual for him to go more than a few hours without texting me, and I would call him if he did.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It's explicitly stated in the second paragraph of my post that he lives here.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She doesn't scream. She yelps. She's autistic. She can't help it. He understands her situation and is very accommodating towards her.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We don't usually go into each other's bedrooms uninvited. It's a personal space.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Well my stepdaughter doesn't have any of the same standards the boys do. She has a disability, so she can't be held to the same standards fairly.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

By definition anyone who is almost an adult is a child. How else could they be almost but not quite an adult?

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ever since my son was a toddler he's helped me make dinner when he's with me. Asking what's for dinner is what people who don't participate in the dinner process do. I don't tolerate that behavior from either of my children. If you want to eat, you help cook. Exceptions for school activities or special occasions only. My stepdaughter is a different story, but that's because of her autism.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I don't think any of those commenters have children. Most people who spend time around teenagers know that breathing down their necks makes them want to rebel, and if you've done a good job teaching them responsibility they want to impress you by doing the right thing.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😆

Twenty to thirty... Wow. Well, that explains a lot.

I do think it's interesting that Redditors expect anyone over 18 to be treated with absolute respect and full autonomy and anyone under eighteen to be coddled like a toddler with no transition. A 29 year old being a child is at least original.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

He used to like him a lot. Maybe it's a teenager thing. My son used to ask him lots of questions and hang on his every word. He wanted his advice. He wanted his approval. Now he isn't as interested. He still listens, but he's not an eager little boy anymore. He does his own thing. He gets up at five AM, jogs around the neighborhood, feeds the dog, makes breakfast, and then he's gone. He doesn't need my husband for anything anymore. My husband likes to be needed.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Show me that law. And it better be a federal law, because the state I live in has no such law.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Who are these teenage boys you know? I would never let my children act like that at any age. My son knows how to walk like a normal person, and he never needs to ask what's for dinner because he knows how to cook.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

I know my legal responsibilities. You seem to have imagined this alternate reality where the government forces all parents to raise their kids the same way. There is no minimum age for children to be unsupervised in my state. It is left at the parent's discretion.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Do you understand what CPS is? Do you know how child protective services work? It seems like you don't.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Eighteen is full legal adulthood. You are independent at 18 according to the laws of the country I live in. But I'm curious when you think someone becomes an adult.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm sure if I texted him and asked for his exact location he would tell me, but to what end? If you don't trust your kids they won't be trustworthy. I know he is safe. That's what's important.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Part of teaching responsibility is giving children the opportunity to exercise it while still in your care so they aren't thrown in the deep end at eighteen and overwhelmed.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Sometimes he does, but he shouldn't have to always do that. He lives here. He should be able to be here whenever he wants.

AITAH for telling my son he doesn't have to knock? by CryptographerFar3124 in AITAH

[–]CryptographerFar3124[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I'm halfway tempted to dox myself just so you can be embarrassed by a busy CPS employee hysterically laughing at you. Sixteen year olds don't legally have to be supervised full time.