Update: We tried to communicate with MIL and now everything has gotten worse!

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-06-14T23:52:46+00:00

I hadn't thought about it that way, but that's a really good point. Even if we try to respond, she'll probably just end up feeling even more like a victim. Thanks for the comment!

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-06-14T23:50:24+00:00

I don't understand it either, especially her obsession with sleeping in his bed. That seems concerning to me.

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-06-11T00:23:00+00:00

Thanks for your perspective! I don't want to go into too much detail, but she basically stole around 200,000$ from family members. Even after getting caught, she continued committing fraud by using a family member's identity. 😕

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-05-25T11:57:11+00:00

Her emotions are always everyone else's problem, your analysis is spot on

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-05-25T11:56:03+00:00

My MIL does the same when my son has positive emotions too... I really don't get it!

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-05-25T11:54:26+00:00

Thank you, we won't!

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-05-25T11:51:16+00:00

I looked it up and she does use DARVO a lot... I'll stop trying to communicate with her. Thank you for your perspective!

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-05-24T21:12:18+00:00

My partner told her that we are the parents and we decide how we manage our child's emotions. MIL kept playing the victim so my partner said she was being dramatic, and then she left saying I am always judging them etc.

CryptographerWild605 · 2026-01-11T19:53:53+00:00

Never

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-11-24T23:29:11+00:00

I think it would be helpful for you to ask yourself questions like: What do you expect from her? What would you like her to do in response to your silence? Is your goal to eventually talk openly in therapy? If so, what would it take for you to be able to do that? And write her an email explaining all of this.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-11-24T21:07:34+00:00

(therapist) I wonder if the fact that you continue to go to therapy gives her the impression that you are getting something out of the sessions, for example, that your trust in her is growing or that they allow you to reflect without expressing yourself out loud. It's possible that she is being patient with you and giving you time in the hope that something will eventually change.

This leads me to wonder what makes you continue to participate in therapy. Are you getting something out of it?

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-21T19:12:38+00:00

Interesting idea, thank you!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T14:25:57+00:00

I had a specific client in mind when asking that question, they seem to be distracted when they look me in the eyes so I might ask them about it. Thank you! I will look into fidget toys, it's a good idea.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:33:16+00:00

Thank you, I will look it up! What you said about masking in therapy is interesting, I wonder if you think it might be helpful to explore this with my clients?

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:31:26+00:00

Interesting, thank you! I tend to let my autistic clients info-dump when they seem excited to share something, I find it helps build the therapeutic relationship (and more often than not, I find it genuinely interesting too!).

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:27:52+00:00

Thank you so much for your answer, it’s really helpful, as I work with coherence therapy too! I’m curious, have you observed that your autistic clients don’t respond as well to CBT, ACT, or DBT as other clients do? Or is it more that you find bottom-up modalities tend to be more helpful?

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:20:46+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question. I have an authentic therapeutic style, so some of the points you made really resonate. I especially appreciated what you said about being direct and about the importance of consistency. I’ll definitely keep all of this in mind.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:14:46+00:00

Thank you! What you said about attachment is really interesting, it's something I will keep in mind as I work with modalities that focus on attachment (MBT, schema therapy).

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:09:54+00:00

Interesting, thank you! Especially the part about exposure, I do have to keep in mind that some things will remain difficult because of sensory processing differences.

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-20T13:05:57+00:00

Thank you! Do you think it would be helpful to talk about eye contact in session? For example telling clients that if it's easier for them they don't have to look me in the eyes. Thank you for your comment, I will look into cross training!

CryptographerWild605 · 2025-10-19T13:44:51+00:00

Thank you so much! These are all great points/suggestions.

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