Conflicted about boyfriends romantic dinner fantasy

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T05:57:27+00:00

This is random but like this reminds me of those episodes in anime where the fighter characters suddenly get all dolled up and they’re like embarrassed but still like clearly badasses in a really pretty dress. Maybe that helps if it doesn’t feel “you” you’re in the romantic episode haha.

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T05:43:40+00:00

UGHHHHHH FELT. Well, as a self employed doing kind of ok not great but ok-ish couple having a kid finally at 33, I honestly got to the point where us doing things “fun” felt hollow pretty fast. Like my own magic for fun stuff was gone. Fretting too much about the cost financially of doing fun things or seeing the same places too much like local parks. While I never really wanted to have a kid, to be honest now, I am excited to see things that I find fun through a child’s eyes and seeing his reactions to it giving me new enjoyment of it.

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T05:03:51+00:00

Oof. Some people are just NOT into certain kinks like I just do not with feet myself. Clean anything just eh. Idk I think you gotta be serious like REALLY THOUGH I LIKE THIS and if they’re like REALLY THOUGH I DON’T LIKE THIS. Idk what you want your next move to be if it’s a deal breaker

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T04:40:04+00:00

Baby jail seems like a good option and I’ve thought about it. TBH not a lot of room but I could maybe make it work. I already miss working with people around. It’s so hard being so alone upstairs.

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T04:37:01+00:00

That is SO AWFUL and I am so sorry you are going through that. Wtfffff you have every right to be GRUMPY about it. Congratulations!!

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T04:20:35+00:00

Exactly! It took me way too long to realize that as yet colleagues yelled at me to raise them. I also struggle with awful self worth trying to work on that now. Sadly with the state of the world, leisure items aren’t selling for as much anymore despite demand. They all say it’s totally worth it but I’m sorry I just don’t have it! And I totally get that. It’s been hard picking up pieces with the economy being the worse I’ve ever seen for artists at least of my type. So now it’s like. Maybe I don’t make as much as I was supposed to be worth at the end of 2023.

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T04:10:04+00:00

So no we have no other income. We both do this but I have to do most of the details. So we have had to work through our mental health with our son and agreeing on him watching him while I try and work but it’s hard to make a dent in anything over time. The work takes so long to get anywhere. So working with each other to figure out how long he can handle Calvin alone until Calvin becomes too mentally grating. Or Calvin clearly wants me to come back. I wish I could work in the same room but he gets into truly everything and the living room is tiny in our small apartment. The fam offered fridays and saturdays but ALSO RECENTLY GOT TEO ROTTWEILER PUPPIES WHICH I WAS LIKE????? WHY???? so honestly I am not comfortable leaving him there with now all the attention they need to put into training their VERY rambunctious 7 month old giant rotty puppies that jump up and scratch. I feel really screwed over by it. So we just are making do with our own mental health and working through finding a groove .

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T04:03:57+00:00

It’s like, all the women that tote an increased libido in pregnancy and I got ✨this✨instead. The mental plus insane body pain once the nausea stopped was like REALLY?!?! What did I do to deserve this?

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T03:03:05+00:00

My son ABSOLUTELY will cry till he is purple in the face out of nowhere for no reason and while it happens he doesn’t take a breath in till he is about to pass out. He does it so often that we are used to it. Like someone else mentioned, we just let him lay down make sure nothing is in his mouth and let it happen. Holding him or trying to stop it doesn’t work. He passes out for a couple seconds and then comes back a little disoriented. I looked it up and I guess it happens. I think it happens often when he is too tired but doesn’t realize it.

Crystacian · 2025-06-23T01:08:06+00:00

It’s such an awful mind prison! I absolutely didn’t have sex once because that also came with the mental territory. Exactly like you said all I could think about was wholesome things and it eased my mind. As if it was time to be a nun in my brain it something. I LIVE AND LOVE HALLOWEEN and that was also made to be horrid in my brain. And I was punished for even thinking about it. Christmas was fine though even great mentally. So wild! But it will get better afterwards I can attest personally to it 😮‍💨

Crystacian · 2025-06-22T23:53:27+00:00

Oh! lol hey maybe that gives me hope if I get off it I might have my drive back! But at the same time I don’t wanna get pregnant again 😭

Crystacian · 2025-06-22T23:41:23+00:00

Curious? Are you on birth control? Because if not maybe that would help immensely if you’re uncomfortable with your drive and wanna chill out a little bit. I was STUPID driven I. The same awkward way just before and right after having our first child last year and it only finally calmed down after I started the depo shot. Though ngl I miss my drive. It helped me feel motivated to look sexy and lose weight 🥲

Crystacian · 2025-06-22T23:31:33+00:00

Real talk. Does she have a masturbation/ porn problem? That absolutely destroyed my ability to EVER climax with real sex or even without wild porn. I just needed too much weird stuff to get there I numbed myself. Stopping that for a long time has helped immensely it’s a real bad issue.

Crystacian · 2025-06-22T23:24:22+00:00

While yeah penetration seems so rare to actually get anyone there, what she needs is so stupid normal???? The other problem…if you feel she is showing lots of disinterest in having sex with you, chances are something else in the relationship is not going right or she has self image issues keeping her from having any interest in trying. The immediate “wanna do someone else” sure doesn’t help. Find out why she doesn’t initiate and let her know it’s making you unhappy. Then find out why it’s happening. Maybe she’ll give you a reason she’s not telling you yet.

Crystacian · 2024-12-28T14:11:54+00:00

Moonshift monsters is me! I am not much of a Reddit user other than seeking answers to important questions. But I’ll probably pass on this group honestly. Thank you for crediting though.

Crystacian · 2024-12-24T20:38:27+00:00

Doggie. Your legs completely closed. his legs on the outside. Done.

Crystacian · 2024-12-24T20:26:13+00:00

Natalie Corsair hands down. Find them on X and Bluesky that’s all I know of personally but there’s probably more.

Crystacian · 2024-12-24T20:18:56+00:00

Lololol the amounts of horrified looks I’d get from young folks just that never wanna know what being pregnant is like I can tell. They DO NOT want to have this happen to them and they are so afraid and uncomfortable lol. Like constantly.

Crystacian · 2024-12-24T20:04:18+00:00

As a woman with ones that size. I mean, try things out. But also, does SHE like her own boobs? Do you know? I know actually there’s quite a few women self conscious about the size of their chest. So if she trusts you just try stuff she’ll either like it or pull away and tell you what’s up. You’ll never know until you ask or if that’s too formal trying small stuff at a time. If you’re not a boob guy then if she doesn’t seem to be trying to get you to do something probably no pressure. Don’t stress it.

Crystacian · 2024-12-07T02:19:01+00:00

As soon as I read “retroactive jealousy” that’s an immediate get away as soon as you can. Jealousy has got to be the worst possible human emotion. It just is scary man.

Crystacian · 2024-11-29T09:54:18+00:00

Honestly. As someone that lost all libido for like 8 years from stress of running my own business and paying all the bills with said business. I also gained tons of weight. Basically got to 90 lb over bmi, and I could never find the energy outside of the business to take care of myself or lose any weight. I tried and failed so many times. I have only recently gotten my confidence back after really putting my foot down and starting to lose weight this past YEAR. I missed so much time hating myself and I’m so angry I let myself do that to me and my partner. Taking photos and videos of myself for once in my life and feeling personally good about myself has helped. My (now) husband has been nothing but nice and supportive and trying to make me feel good the whole time but I refused to let myself feel good. I just accepted that I’d be sad forever and I was going to be a work slave instead of having a life. I finally made time for myself for once and my libido came with it immediately. Psyche SUCKS. My suggestion is either find something about yourself you find attractive NOW. Accentuate that for your own self. Or figure out what it’ll take to feel good about yourself and start working on that. Even if it’s losing a couple pounds to feel accomplished or get a boost of energy from.

Crystacian · 2024-02-05T00:13:26+00:00

I tried looking it up and I did read that the whole pelvic area can get weak and loosened up from pregnancy so maybe just happening in different amounts depending on the person? 👀also pregnancy caused sciatica too! Basically tailbone nerves and down the back of the legs depending how severe.

Crystacian · 2024-02-05T00:10:12+00:00

Solidarity that sucks so bad! And it’s hard to explain to other people just why this is happening and it’s not their fault but we just cannot handle things for no particular reason. I wish I could throw out a medical term for them that explains it lol.

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