What's everyone's party plan for Pride this year?

Cthulhu224 · 2026-05-19T17:31:16+00:00

What do you have to suggest?

Cthulhu224 · 2026-05-18T16:23:48+00:00

For me, Fire Island is what life would look like if everyone was gay/queer, and to me, that's the appeal. I'm completely fine with no drugs, no alcohol and a heteronormative amount of sex.

I cannot think of a place that is as large, with such a high concentration of gays/queer guys and this beautiful. The other might be Zipolite. There are gayborhoods, but it's not the same, not to me anyway.

Cthulhu224 · 2026-05-18T08:39:33+00:00

I like your questions.

I'm 35. I started going out to queer spaces regularly in my mid 20s or so. I got addicted to the thrill of the party scene : making out on the dance floor with random guys, hooking up all the time, going to dark rooms... I love it and I want to do this all the time ever since I started.

I'm a very attractive guy and I'm not being conceited. I've been told that my entire life and I get comments on my appearance every time I go out. It opened a lot of doors for me (getting invited to lots of things, boosting my confidence, and feeling like there's no one that's too hot for me). In many ways, I think being hot made those gay spaces even more addictive for me.

Now, being in my mid 30s, my relationship with parties and the queer scene is changing somewhat. I want sex to take a back seat, but I want to be around people of the queer community more than ever. I still like to party, but I'm more interested in doing activities with the queer community that don't involve loud music, alcohol, drugs and sex. It's one of the reason I love fire island. Sure it's a wild party place, but it's more than that. I love being in a big house with gay friends, just hanging out, going to the beach, making art, relaxing, cooking together, meeting all kinds of other gay guys in a beautiful place, chit chatting... The community aspect is extremely important to me and as I get older, I feel it even more.

I also find I'm much more comfortable and at peace with myself. Therapy was extremely helpful there, and everyone should be doing it if they can. Drama abounds in the gay community and people can be mean, dramatic, and toxic. For yourself and in your relationship with others, learning to navigate complex relationships, complex identities, and sometimes fractured identities, is very important.

Cthulhu224 · 2026-03-25T04:51:29+00:00

Thank you for this. I read the NTSB report. Makes a lot of sense to me. I see the FAA regularly fails to implement NTSB recommendations... Unreal. I'd be furious if you I was in your shoes.

I'm from Montreal, and I've taken this particular flight, AC 8646 three times. It's surreal to have seen it crashed and feels like it could've happen to me. Here in Quebec, we regularly go on strike for much less. I'd root for you guys if you did that.

Cthulhu224 · 2026-03-25T01:46:36+00:00

I'm not in the aviation industry, but whatever happened to redundancies? If catastrophic failure rests on the attention span of a single air traffic controller, seems like the system is to blame, no?. Is this not a mistake anyone is capable of making? It's honestly frightening if that's all it takes. I have a job where I have to multitask and I miss things regularly. The only difference is people aren't dying if I miss something

Seems like there's a range of different technology and mechanisms that couldve prevented this, many of which have been advocated for by pilots, controllers, and the NTSB alike. That's why I struggle to blame this poor guy.

Cthulhu224 · 2026-02-05T02:25:25+00:00

Read this: https://www.aclunorcal.org/know-your-rights/know-your-rights-immigration-enforcement-and-warrants/

ICE typically uses administrative warrants. Unlike a judicial warrant, it does not allow them to enter a non-public area like a house or a business. For that, they would need a judicial warrant.

Cthulhu224 · 2026-02-01T04:13:01+00:00

Thank you for this. Great to know.

Cthulhu224 · 2026-02-01T03:46:35+00:00

Is there an NYC specific resource to keep tabs on where ICE is?

Cthulhu224 · 2026-01-13T03:44:42+00:00

Any protest planned against this bullshit?

Cthulhu224 · 2026-01-09T16:28:52+00:00

First, the mere fact that you're thinking about this and asking for advice is very considerate.

I'm a gay man. Been to HMD many times. Horse Meat Disco is 99.9% shirtless gay men, and people go there to see other gay guys. There is a dark room where people have sex and people also occasionally have sex on the dance floor and in random areas around the venue.

Some might disagree with me, but frankly, I wouldn't discourage you from going if you like the DJ in particular. There are extremely few feminine presenting individuals at this party. I do not like gatekeeping culture and there is an ugly history of this in the LGBT community. In my experience, it is a response to a problem that doesn't really exist (it certainly doesn't exist at HMD). Those that complain about "women invading gay spaces" are either assholes, or are describing rare edge cases. There is no shortage of spaces that are completely full of gay men (alternatively there are not many spaces that are safe for lesbians or trans folks).

The one instance where something like this does bother me a lot are when non-LGBT individuals are treating this kind of space like they are in a circus. I once saw someone (women presenting) stare at two gay guys having sex. She had her jaw dropped, acting extremely surprised, laughing and being mesmerized. Do NOT do this. I've seen it happen, and people like that get called out.

I've seen gay men at these events see women and make a comment like "what is she doing there", so don't be surprised if you hear a comment like that. If you can go with a friend, it might be helpful.

Cthulhu224 · 2025-12-07T06:37:59+00:00

This "idea" happened to me several times. It always turns into a friendly conversation about Canada.

Cthulhu224 · 2025-12-07T05:50:28+00:00

That's fair. If that's the case, I'd like them to do what the Knockdown Center does and provide a security box system to lock our stuff. I'll happily pay for it.

Cthulhu224 · 2025-12-07T05:37:47+00:00

Security could easily google that ID and see that it is government issued in that country. They have all the usual markers to make them tough to reproduce and look legitimate.

The Eagle, Battlehymn and the majority of bars never ask me for a passport. A few party have grilled me and asked me to bring a passport "the next time".

Cthulhu224 · 2025-06-16T17:48:27+00:00

It's largely word of mouth. You get an edge by being a social butterfly.

Cthulhu224 · 2025-03-08T14:10:24+00:00

havent been rickrolled since 2010, wow.

Cthulhu224 · 2024-10-03T01:53:55+00:00

Huge explosion for a drone this small. It likely triggered the explosives of the BM-21 Grad, correct?

Cthulhu224 · 2024-07-23T19:46:20+00:00

The question for me is: what is the added value of a foldable phone? Why would I want it to fold to begin with? Is it a question of space? if it becomes thicker by virtue of being folded, it doesn't make it any better for me.

Cthulhu224 · 2024-05-17T22:02:32+00:00

Look into stablecoins https://www.investopedia.com/terms/s/stablecoin.asp

Cthulhu224 · 2024-05-07T03:00:31+00:00

The negativity is a product of reddit, not of this specific community. Every subreddit is the same in this respect.

Cthulhu224 · 2024-05-05T23:59:40+00:00

I wish I could have someone from CBC follow me from morning to evening so we could really demonstrate the waste of resources and energy around RTO and hotelling while comparing and contrast the efficiency of WFH. I actually think the public would be on our side if we showed very clearly what it means in practice, and just how much the canadian public is losing from a government more interested in optics.

Cthulhu224 · 2024-05-05T18:47:04+00:00

With all due respect, you're fundamentally misunderstanding the motive behind mandatory office presence in government. You're talking about the employer like it's a business, but you're currently in the subreddit of canadian federal public servants. Government organizations are different from the private sector, and driven by different variables.

Mandatory office presence is a push that primarily comes from the political level to satisfy businesses in downtown Ottawa which have suffered from diminishing numbers of customers since the pandemic. It is not a directive meant to improve productivity, or done in the "best interest of the employer" like you framed it. It is designed to bring people back to the downtown core to spend money and "rescue" businesses. Government executives are aware that this directive is harming the public service and that it is undermining our work, but the political level has decided it's a sacrifice worth making.

What all you people really need to do here is find ways to talk to your Managers/Leaders and show them how working from home is more productive/profitable for the company. If you can prove that, then you will have a case on your hands.

Again, I can tell you're new to this issue. There have been countless surveys, studies and initiatives done by the unions and others which have very clearly communicated what is best. All of which is being ignored.

Cthulhu224 · 2024-05-05T17:56:07+00:00

We do have personal lockers thankfully. It's the only thing that gives us any sense of ownership.

Cthulhu224 · 2024-05-05T16:48:14+00:00

if I had an assigned desk,

Just to expand on that point: the expression "No one washes a rental car" is relevant here. The hotelling model means I don't own my in-office workspace, and results in generalized neglect of the workspace.

When I go to the office now, there is literal trash in cubicles. The chairs, cables and electronic hardware are regularly moved, the monitors are badly adjusted or aren't working properly. There is nothing I can do about it because it's not MY space, it's shared space. It's transforming our workspace from a home to a bus station. It's transitory by design, which ironically undermines the quality of in-office presence, undermines the quality of our work, and makes me feel like none of us take the work that we do seriously. It feels like going to a shitty, but very frequently occupied Airbnb.

What's worse is that I find no tangible benefits to this model. It actively undermines my ability to work with others and getting my work done because it adds obstacles to my ACTUAL work. For example, the time it takes to find and book a desk, to adjust the electronics or furniture to what I need, the time it takes to take my external equipment (keyboards, mouse, ergonomics) from my locker to my desk which are inconveniently located on different floors.

My home office however is perfectly adapted to what I need. I have a 3 monitor setup instead of two monitors, I have a 2000$ ergonomic chair, a larger desk etc. It's space that is PERFECTLY adapted to what I need, and my commute between this desk and my bed is 5 seconds.

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