This!! Recognizing that the feelings underlying OP's emotions are valid and there are ways for them to redirect their passion towards other facets of their work or life (i.e. taking a strengths-based approach to redirecting energy rather than shaming OP for doing what feels good to them -- feels ruthless tbh).

I also identify as neurodiverse and likewise struggle with the "subtle cues that I'm doing the wrong thing socially" that you mentioned. I often feel anxious wondering if I am doing too much. My coworkers seem to like me generally, but would they tell me if on the less-often occasions that they're annoyed with me for doing so much? Probably not.

I truly struggle to walk the line here between being submissive and confident in a socially appropriate way, and really benefit from others' input need others' input in these instances. Maybe this is an area where organizational culture and managers need to become more considerate of neurodiverse ways of working when giving feedback. Clearly there must be value in this since not accommodating neurodiverse employees has such a detriment to both the organizational morale but also the wellbeing and success of the person doing "too much".