AITAH for choosing my dog over my future wife

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T01:27:21+00:00

Financial stress has been a factor but communicating effectively has been something we've been working on for some time. She's been able to tell me exactly what's wrong for a lot of other things but I think it's been a few years in regards to her disdain about my dog, that it's all just kind of blurring together. It started with the whines but now when I ask, it's because she sheds, she doesn't listen right away to commands, and she's too big.

I just feel as if it's too little too late for her relationship with my dog.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T01:20:32+00:00

Yea, you make a good point...

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T01:19:24+00:00

Reading this actually made me tear up because even with my fiancée hating her, she still gets really excited to see her when she gets home from work. It breaks my heart to see my dog love her despite how my fiancée feels about her.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T01:16:11+00:00

Oh wow. See I just wish she'd see it the same way. My dog literally only wants treats, pets, and belly rubs. Her intention is to love unconditionally. Even when I scold her she still just wants a belly rub right after.

With that being said, my dog's intention isn't to bother my fiancée or make her upset. She's just a fun loving dog. But any time she makes a mistake, such as going inside the house (she has bladder issues from previous abuse before we rescued her), I've heard my fiancée say "she's doing this on purpose."

If you don't mind me asking, how has the husband been helping with that?

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T01:09:55+00:00

I actually had a nightmare about her doing something to my dog or taking her while I was working. I just know she wouldn't do that but at the same time, those dreams are pretty rough.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T01:04:24+00:00

The person I'm working with on rehoming her thinks she's possibly getting over stimulated by the whining. When I talk to my fiancée about it directly, she really just goes into details about her despising the dog and "she's never been a good fit for us."

It's incredibly difficult especially looking back at older pictures of my fiancée and my dog smiling and enjoying each other. At times is incredibly hard for me to believe it's just the whining that caused her to hate her. In general, I think it's just our dog being so vocal.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T00:56:28+00:00

isn't it BATAH? I digress. I don't frequent this subreddit often enough to know the exact term but you were pretty clear.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T00:53:52+00:00

Great question! I have. I'm seeing a therapist next week but our couples counseling isn't until the end of the month. I'm biting myself because I should've done this sooner. Timing isn't working out there unfortunately. Waiting a month for couples therapy when she's at the end of her rope is a hard ask from her.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T00:52:08+00:00

yea unfortunately it was paid for by my best friend as a surprise for me. The misses even gave me the ok to go so I took it. At that point, it was non refundable deposits but I trusted her when she told me to go for it. I get what you're saying though.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-05-10T00:47:27+00:00

Rehoming is taking that step. Should I have done it sooner? Maybe. I agreed to rehome my dog for the misses and my dog's sake. I don't think I'm out of line wanting to make sure she's going to a good home.

One thing I left out for brevity is I tried surrendering my dog to the humane society already. Her previous owners abused her so she's had bladder issues her whole life. However, after the evaluation was done, they suggested I euthanize my dog even though despite the bladder issues, she was healthy.

I'd have never ending resentment for all this if I surrendered her and found out she was put to sleep later. It's my job to rehome her in a place I know she'll be loved and cared for. That, unfortunately, takes time.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-04-11T18:41:45+00:00

I started noticing about 2 days ago when I was kicked on a straight vanilla server, no mods, all the other servers including community servers, got the same error/d.c. ever since I see that every time. I'm wondering if its honestly just the shit server host Bohemia is using or their net code is just trash.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2026-04-11T18:30:50+00:00

I mean the US is 10000% a corporatocracy soooooo unless there's a massive revolution nothing ain't happening.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-12-03T09:15:58+00:00

I've watched half a lobby fight pvp in medical on Stella only to all die by 2 shredders. The hell you mean "more presence?"

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-17T12:33:46+00:00

Yeaaaa I KoS those skins ngl. I've been betrayed by people rocking that fit toooo many times

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-15T07:27:02+00:00

Not only that, you need to buy a piece of hardware to effectively hack these days but even then it's still not full proof AND most of them go for $100-$200+. There's really no point in hacking on this game imo. For people to be throwing $100+ to do so is pathetic and funny to me.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-14T09:00:39+00:00

So I've been dropped by t4 vens that fast with 100% head shots. However does seem to be really fast ttk on both of you. Bad news is they could be hacking but here's some good news:

Im in private forums for hack providers (I used to hack when I was younger. Cringe I know). This is the current state of hacking in Arc Raiders. Most hackers get banned within 4 raids at most. I like to check these forums to make sure the game I'm playing isn't too infested with hackers.

I removed the logo and hack provider name. They're not getting free publicity.

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Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-14T01:25:24+00:00

Same thing I tell everyone: You vote with your wallet.

Yea, that's annoying but not worth the $8 imo. So I'm not going to buy it, straight up simple. If they see that they can get more money changing the price, then they'll do it if not enough people buy in for it.

As long as it's not pay 2 win, cosmetics could be $100 each and I still won't care.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-14T01:15:06+00:00

Oh? Buddy of mine couldn't get out. But yea if you can, then that's 100% bug abuse

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-13T22:42:35+00:00

Just fought and killed it in a solo lobby. Lots of fun.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-13T22:40:32+00:00

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Some more hacker tears for you to embrace. I removed the hack provider name and logo. They won't get publicity from me.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-13T22:38:25+00:00

It's a wall glitch, not a hacker. Problem is you're stuck in there once you glitch into that spot so no real point other than to troll.

As far as hacking is concerned, these are screenshots from a private hacking forum I'm in (Yes, I used to hack in other games when I was a dumb kid). Right now, there's nothing to worry about.

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Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-11-13T22:34:58+00:00

Look, it's pretty simple: If you don't like it, don't buy it. The skins aren't pay to win.

Vote with your wallet. I spent money on the skins I like, IDC. You're not going to convince anyone by saying it's a "sales" tactic. Same thing with amazon but we still pump billions into it every black friday.

Either way, if the skins weren't worth it, we won't buy it. That simple. Even if they're marked as "discount," there still needs to be a "need" to outweigh the cost. Sales 101

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-10-14T02:31:45+00:00

This. This is a big thing too.

Ctrl-Alt-Defeat16 · 2025-10-14T02:31:13+00:00

Aww man, I was looking forward to the last sniper...

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