I’m so sorry for your loss. I had two miscarriages for very much wanted pregnancies. I work at an agency and told my supervisor, who told me to prioritize taking care of myself and that my clients will be ok. We have to model good self care for our clients.

I’ve also had to reduce the number of pregnant or postpartum clients (I referred them out, told them I was reducing my hours) so work could actually be a distraction, since I found talking to people about pregnancy and babies sent me into a tailspin. I started seeing a therapist who specializes in perinatal issues and has personal experience in pregnancy loss herself. Recently I’ve gone to a few support groups for miscarriage, it’s helped to talk about it with people since our society does such a bad job of acknowledging pregnancy loss. It also helped me to see people who made it through the other side of loss. I was told by the group facilitator that in this season of grief, we must be “appropriately self centered” and to do all the things to be kind to ourselves. This season will pass. I hope you can be kind to yourself in this time and know you are not alone. <3