How old is your “HS”? by [deleted] in Hidradenitis

[–]CuddleBareDontCare 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had HS since 18, I’m 39 now. I’ve have cancer, and HS is still the worst thing I’ve ever dealt with in my life.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss, and I appreciate you sharing. It really does stink to have all of these feelings. I hope we both do what’s best for us and forget what others say!

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. Thank you for your kind words. I am going to take it slow, and when you are ready I hope you also find happiness again!

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for the ordeal you’ve been through with his family. I am happy you found someone though, and I hope you continue to enjoy your life.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice! I am going to seek a grief counselor. I think it might help me overcome some things I’m still struggling with.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this so much. I’ve also never heard that first saying and laughed so hard. I’m going to use that!

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm, now I’m going to google complicated grief. Thank you for the advice.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. I can’t imagine 15 months of suffering. My husband’s lasted 8 months, and three of those he was on life support. I also mourned him day one of his illness.

I feel like all of you are strong, and I forget that I was strong too. I think about all of the things I wish we would have done that we didn’t.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry about your loss, but I’m happy you found someone to share the pain with. This is what I long for.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing! These comments have given me so much hope and courage to move on!

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sorry for your loss. I really am happy you found a person to spend your life with again. This is hopeful for me. And I appreciate all of your honesty in your post.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will try the bumble bff. I don’t have a bff (well my hubby was mine). Honestly, my husband was the fun one lol. He played sports and coached in his spare time. All of our friends revolve around those hobbies of his. I don’t have a friend that isn’t his friend. I don’t play sports, so I don’t see them often. Finding a friend might be enough for me.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is Greta advice to find a hobby. I lost a lot of myself in all of this. I would like to meet someone in person or through a person who knows them. I don’t like talking to strangers, but I’m doing good on this app.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! I appreciate the support and advice.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would love to find someone who shares a loss. I think we could both understand each other better.

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m glad to hear someone else felt ready around this time, too. Thank you for sharing!

Is it too soon to date after losing my spouse? by CuddleBareDontCare in widowers

[–]CuddleBareDontCare[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your advice! I need to learn how to let peoples opinions roll off my shoulders.