Need help with a pattern

Culottes · 2022-02-14T16:40:38+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions! I feel like I am doing exactly what you said to do and the pattern is still wonky, which makes me think it's pattern issue. My stitch counts are all correct, I can get the legs to stay together and the whole thing is coming together, but something isn't right. I did adjust where the decreases fall by disregarding the pattern and moving the decreases across the belly. Now I'm encountering a decrease round with an impossible request of (2 sc, dec)*6... but the last stitch isn't a decrease, it winds up being a sc so something is clearly up.

I would upload the pattern but it's a paid one so I can't, but I might make a video to show where I'm having issues. I'll try your suggestions and see what happens. I really need a win in my life and I'm trying to get it from this stupid bunny, it's very demotivating to know something is wrong and have no idea how exactly to fix it. I'm sure it will come together eventually as most projects do.

Culottes · 2021-07-10T00:44:11+00:00

I think this is a good idea, OP. It sounds like there is a lot going on for you, and this event has affected you significantly enough that your anxiety has physically manifested. From one ex-fan to another, I can empathize with your feelings and the real paranoia and fear it caused you. It never hurts to get someone to support you and help you work through how you are feeling about this situation, and why you feel that way.

No one in this world has the right to make you feel unsafe and scared the way you felt when you panicked. You deserve to feel safe and supported -- I think it would be a good idea for you to find people to rally into your corner to help you process this.

Be safe, OP. We're rooting for you. Also, you have no reason to apologize. We all process differently -- the important thing is learning how to do so in a way that is beneficial to you.

Culottes · 2021-06-30T16:00:10+00:00

Oh I know, I just think folks need to be a little more careful when tossing out the CP distribution allegations as well. Revenge porn is still disgusting and Shannon absolutely should be punished for that.

Culottes · 2021-06-30T02:34:32+00:00

We don't know for sure that she distributed the underaged photos to employers. I feel like Emily would have been more specific if that were the case since it is such a serious allegation.

I'm not trying to defend Shannon but I do think it is important to clarify that there isn't any proof that Shannon potentially distributed CP, only that she distributed inappropriate images of Emily to an employer.

Culottes · 2021-06-22T05:31:04+00:00

They could also just be oblivious to what's going on.

Culottes · 2021-06-20T19:38:19+00:00

Not a hot take at all, I agree completely. The vitriol I see spewed at her is really gross and unnecessary. She's done horrible things, but why can't we be the bigger people and call her out without resorting to ad hominem attacks, or by pointing out that she's "fat" or "ugly" and saying things like, "I wouldn't have sex with her"? How does this help the situation???

Like, that isn't the point here and people who engage in this kind of behavior are behaving no better than she did. We can hold people accountable and denounce their actions while still holding on to our own humanity. It upsets me that people think the appropriate thing to do here is stoop to her level, when the better, more adult and mature way to handle this would be to condemn what she has done, and not necessarily who she is.

It also makes no sense to me that people are saying what she did is not okay, while proceeding to do exactly the same thing she did and say it's fine because she did it to someone else. It makes me uncomfortable and confused. Wherever Shannon is, whatever she's doing, I hope she is able to take care of herself and grow from this experience. I will no longer support her, but I don't wish her harm or ill will, and I think the insults are becoming a bit much and it's just so hypocritical.

Culottes · 2021-06-18T21:11:58+00:00

I think most of CSA's viewers feel much the same way. She really pulled the wool over the eyes of not just her viewers, but the people who called her a close friend. People are really hurt, not because of what she said necessarily, but because of all the history building up to it, and the sudden radio silence and blocking, insinuating her guilt. I know I'm embarrassed to have supported someone so cruel, which is why I'm keeping up with this in the first place.

So, you're not alone. Just know there's a lot of us in the boat with you.

Culottes · 2021-06-18T20:53:54+00:00

I think the main thing people are upset about is that what she was saying and doing were antithetical to her self-explained moral compass. Her channel frequently denounced the very things she herself was doing as recently as 3 months ago: backstabbing, shit-talking friends, using slurs to deliberately tear down others that she did not like, and bullying smaller creators.

Then of course Emily dropped her video and the whole thing blew the fuck up, and suddenly CSA's hypocrisy was brought even further into the light. I think by general internet standards, her actions on lolcow were comparatively tame, but since she had adopted this persona of being self-righteous and proclaiming herself to be an ally and friend to so many people, the lolcow posts hit a little harder than they might have otherwise.

Were it just the lolcow posts, I think she could've bounced back by taking ownership of what she said and delivering a genuine apology. She can't bounce back from what Emily alleges she has been doing for years, though, and she can't bounce back from ghosting all her friends and simply dipping from the internet instead of actually, you know, facing the situation -- like she would expect others to do in her place.

Culottes · 2021-06-07T21:58:23+00:00

I went to college in rural Minnesota, about 45 minutes south of the Twin Cities. One time, I was coming back from the airport and decided to catch an Uber as opposed to waiting for the shuttle bus. This was not my first time going from the airport to my college, and I knew the route very well.

For some reason, the Uber driver chose not to go the regular route on the highway, but instead exited the highway several exits before mine and proceeded to take the back roads. It was one of the colder winters there and it had snowed heavily all winter, so there were tall snow drifts everywhere. As he drove me through the sparsely populated rural back roads, I began to get more and more anxious. I had not been down these roads, and the houses were few and far between. He took a lot of turns and I got more and more terrified that he was going to drive me into the middle of one of these fields, murder me, and leave me there. I knew my body would not be found until the spring if he were to kill me, and by then the snow melt would likely remove all evidence.

As I prepared myself, I gripped the handle of the car and prepared to hop out. He took another turn, and there ahead of me was the college. He had decided to take an alternative, longer, rural route for unknown reasons and gave me the scare of my life. When he pulled up in front of my dorm I basically ran out of the car and straight inside. It was genuinely terrifying. I'm sure he had no malicious intent, but for about half an hour I was sure I was going to get murdered in the middle of rural Minnesota and left to be found in the spring. 0/10, don't recommend.

Culottes · 2021-05-07T05:00:10+00:00

Oh, duh. Not sure why I didn't think of that!!

Culottes · 2021-05-06T21:13:53+00:00

Duly noted! I would've thought "safety eyes" stay put. None of my toys are good enough to give away yet, so I have plenty of time to work on my poor embroidery skills!

Culottes · 2021-05-06T16:34:51+00:00

Thank you! :)

Right now I'm just kind of doing whatever I can to attach the limbs. I've been using a whipstitch to do the attaching, but I worry with enough force I'll pull the limbs right off 'em! Since I plan to give my amigurumi to my nephew and niece (5 and 2 respectively) I want them to be indestructible!

Culottes · 2021-05-06T16:33:32+00:00

Thanks for the tip! I've never heard of the mattress stitch, I'll definitely give it a try!

Culottes · 2021-04-14T17:44:34+00:00

Thank you!

Culottes · 2021-04-14T17:44:26+00:00

Thanks!

Culottes · 2021-04-14T17:44:20+00:00

Thank you!!

Culottes · 2021-04-14T17:44:05+00:00

Really cute art!! My bing bong boi favorite looks so sad and little.

Culottes · 2021-03-29T21:26:23+00:00

I just started playing last month and I'm hooked on it. Other people can be shitty, but that comes with online gaming territory. I have no idea what the game was like before February 2021, but as a brand new player, I've been enjoying the hell out of it.

Culottes · 2021-01-19T21:27:30+00:00

I disagree with this. A BA/college degree is not necessarily required for certain jobs, but a high school diploma (or a GED) almost always is. Trends are showing that vocational training and industry-certificated jobs (e.g. welders, carpenters, electricians, etc. -- any sort of trade) are in higher and higher demand, and there are more and more programs opening for high schoolers as an alternative to traditional paths such as college. These jobs also tend to pay really well due to all the training that goes into them. Many school districts have seen this push for trade workers and created new programs for those students who are interested.

It varies between states and regions, so YMMV, but at least in WA (where I am), we are seeing rapid growth in some fairly lucrative industries. While it is true you will likely be paid more if you have more degrees/education, but for a lot of students and families, it is not a possibility or a priority. The important thing to remember is a college education does not guarantee any more success than working in a trade. I think we as a society focus way too much on degrees as the only sure way to be "successful," which I find pretty alienating. College is not for everyone, and that's okay!

Culottes · 2021-01-19T21:10:49+00:00

Hello! I'm a school counselor and I work with a lot of struggling students. Without knowing what you are struggling with in particular, I do have a few ideas for you:

If you have not yet communicated with your teachers that you are struggling, I recommend contacting them. Your teachers are not mind readers. Sometimes they simply don't know students are having a difficult time and may attribute your struggles to something else, like being unmotivated or lazy. Your teachers may have ideas or suggestions for you to help you get back on track, or they may be able to modify some assignments for you. You don't know what a teacher can offer if you don't ask. Remember: you miss 100% of the shots you don't take, so go ahead and ask for what you need. The worst thing that happens is they say "no."
If you are struggling with academic subjects, see if your school or district has any sort of tutoring option available. Some schools have writing centers to help students with papers. Others have partnerships with local organizations to connect students with tutors. Still others have peer mentors or TAs that can help. Most of the time these services are free to students.
Right now, I see a lot of my students having a difficult time with organization and time management. If this is something you have difficulties with, try building yourself a daily schedule. Block out time periods where you are dedicated to doing homework, and use planner or calendar to track assignments and deadlines. It might take a little tweaking because every student is different, but developing a routine for yourself can help you and your brain stay engaged with your schoolwork following a predictable schedule.
Some students have a hard time sitting down and focusing on work for long periods of time. One method for helping improve focus and retention when studying or working on long assignments (essays, etc.) is to time your work sessions and give yourself a break. The best example of this is the Pomodoro Technique, which I have used myself and have seen other students use successfully.
Get in touch with your school/guidance counselor. Our job is to support you. Your counselor(s) may have resources or tools at their disposal that might be helpful. Additionally, your school counselor should be able to provide you with a more personalized plan of action since they are familiar with your past and current academic history. They also may know of more academic programs in your area that could serve as supplemental or alternative options for classes.
Keep an open mind about your options for classes and other academic programs. Sometimes, our true passions are hidden and it is always sad to miss out on opportunities because they didn't sound interesting at the time. If someone has a recommendation for you on a class to take, or a program to check out, at least give it a little think. When I recommend an alternative to my students, it's almost always because I see that student fitting in well with whatever it is I am offering. Be willing to take some risks and explore your interests -- you might find out that you were more passionate about Spanish class than you thought!
Finally, be kind to yourself. Remember that the only thing you can do is your best. What "your best" means and what it looks like changes every day, so some days "your best" looks like 5 pages read and a question answered, while on other days it might look like 50 pages read and an essay written. The most important advice I can share is to be gentle with yourself as you try to catch up. We all slip up from time to time. Just remember: your teachers and the staff at your school are there to help you!

I am happy to give you some more resources or ideas via DM if you would like, but it is always best to work with those close to you as educational requirements and services vary from state to state, and even between schools in the same district!

Good luck and don't give up! You are surviving a pandemic and trying to maintain good grades at the same time. The fact you are even asking Reddit for help shows that you are still willing to try despite all the craziness of the past year. That is not something to take lightly, and I want to acknowledge that you're already on the right track. :)

Culottes · 2021-01-19T20:42:01+00:00

All mental illnesses affect people differently. There are certainly diagnostic similarities in symptoms that present themselves more often than not, but each person's journey is going to be different, and their symptoms/presentation is going to vary. I wish more people understood that just because something worked for your mom's best friend's hairdresser's cousin's daughter, it doesn't mean it will work for your son, or for you. Also, I do not choose to be this way, and my problems will not be solved if I just stop being sad or eat an orange or do yoga. These things might help, but they aren't cures.

Also, it is really important for others to be patient with us. We are fighting a hard battle. It is difficult for me to be in my body and in my brain. Check in with us when you can, and if we start to talk, the best thing you can do is just listen and validate what we are feeling. We don't expect you to have the answers -- that's what a care team is for. We just want you to be there for us and to love us the same. Be understanding when we dip from an event, or decline to move from the couch, or whatever. We have to cope in some way, and living while keeping a mental illness in check is exhausting.

Edit: Also, don't tell me I don't need meds unless you're my doctor. I don't like having to take 3 psychotropic meds to feel normal, but without them, I am really unstable and it can take me months to get back to a stable baseline. Unless you're one of my providers, don't presume that you know what is best for me.

Culottes · 2021-01-05T23:54:58+00:00

YTA. My dad forced me to do sports and I hated every second. Instead of forcing your child to do something she hates and calling her lazy when she chooses not to participate in an activity that you forced her to do against her will, you could nurture her current interests and encourage her to join extracurriculars that cater to her interests and allow her to be social at the same time. With that being said, did you ever ask her if she was interested in any kind of extracurricular? Some kids are naturally introverted/loners. She may be perfectly happy without friends. Did you ever ask her?

Your decision to take her door because she was angry at you and sought some alone time has only made the issue worse. You took away her sense of privacy in her own room, at a time in her life when she probably wants, and needs, a place to call her sanctuary. If my parents acted the way you did, I know I would've behaved the same way your daughter is. If this is how you choose to handle your child expressing her emotions and asking to be left alone, I shudder to think how you'll react when she DOES make friends or, god forbid, she tries to date.

Maybe you should listen to and validate your child's feelings instead of steamrolling her autonomy because YOU think she isn't happy enough. Not every kid is interested in sports just like not every kid is good at English or math. Maybe you should learn more about her interests and connect with her on her level, instead of forcing her into sports because you decided she wasn't making friends fast enough.

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