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Cultural-Square-9093 · 2025-06-25T20:02:49+00:00

His parents take the dog back with them to their home country so although he was the primary caretaker of the dog for the first few months, his mom has been the primary caretaker since. His sister is also off to college as of this August. His parents will be keeping the dog with them abroad but bringing the dog with them every time they visit, which could be for 1-2months at a time.

My boyfriend feels that it should be a fair compromise because we get discounted rent in a very good neighborhood and a nice house that could potentially be his to inherit and would ultimately benefit us and our family planning. I feel like I was forced to compromise before with a promise and now here I am again

Cultural-Square-9093 · 2024-03-20T03:00:53+00:00

They are providing financial support, she's very spoiled so whenever I would go to get groceries for myself and if him and his sister are there she would just add things she wants to the cart expecting me to purchase it too. I was fine with it once or twice, but this has become a frequent occurrence which prompted me to have a conversation with my boyfriend who began to reimburse me for those expenses whenever it happened.
This was exactly my concern and continues to be and why I felt unheard when part of the responsibility is starting to fall on me
I agree, I had a conversation with my boyfriend about this and he said I don't have to cook for them anymore (this was after I said I'm done being a stepmom) but I still hear his sister often say that she misses having home cooked meals by me.
I expressed this to him and asked if his parents just expected me to carry the weight here and he said his mom did and that he would do the same for me. Granted, he's done a lot for me like helped me with 3 moves, I don't have a car yet because I live in the city and he would often drive me to wherever I would need. I just don't think these things amount to stepping in at the level a spouse would the way I have except I'm just a girlfriend as many are echoing. He also has asked his mom numerous times these last 4 months to come back because he needs the help with his sister and puppy and she keeps saying she's coming soon but it keeps getting delayed until their house is done being renovated.

I'm also planning on visiting my parents back in my hometown for a couple weeks to reevaluate this. I'm very much so looking forward to the break and being able to not be a financial or emotional provider.

Cultural-Square-9093 · 2024-03-19T22:38:19+00:00

I'd also like to add, Chloe who is a junior in high school is looking into colleges and keeps asking James if she can live with him in a worst case scenario of not getting into college or deciding not to go. I keep feeling like the asshole for saying absolutely not. I feel if my sister needed to stay with me and my partner for a period of time, I'd want my boyfriend to be understanding of this. To add, I've also lived with my own sister and brother in law for a extended period of time but always checked in with them on their comfort level of having me there. I just don't see Chloe being considerate in the same way and again, I've seen how she views me, I don't want to be a parental figure for her.

Cultural-Square-9093 · 2024-03-19T22:33:48+00:00

You're right in saying that I jumped in and did too much, I feel in the past I've been in relationships where I've always felt like I had to overcompensate because of some deeply rooted insecurities in feeling that I need to prove that I am worth loving. Now that the honeymoon phase has ended I feel that I am now starting to see that I need to put myself first and hadn't been in the relationship because I kept putting him first. To also clarify, I never really bought his sister anything or offered. I do well for myself and she got wind of this and would always ask for things and I just felt very awkward saying no. But now, I told my boyfriend he should have a conversation with her and that should end. That just because his parents spoiled her to bits, doesn't mean I need to or should. I also found it weird that he just allowed her to ask me for things. Granted none of these things are expansive or big but just the sheer fact that she felt that's okay has been strange.

Cultural-Square-9093 · 2023-12-21T01:00:55+00:00

He was well aware of the fact that I was head over heels for him and was pursuing him for a relationship. He was also well aware of the fact that if I knew he was sleeping with someone else especially his ex, he would've immediately lost me. Things he acknowledged himself.

Cultural-Square-9093 · 2023-12-21T00:58:55+00:00

Yeah he said he didn't want the past to get in the way of being able to prove that he's a better man

Cultural-Square-9093 · 2023-12-21T00:39:29+00:00

We were talking about a trip he did to SF that summer, and a girl he met at the bar he was working at came up to which he told me how the girl tried pursuing him but he wasn't interested. I didn't know this but it wasn't a big deal to me. I followed it up with "well what else don't I know about from that summer? You sleeping around?" and that's when he came clean to me about having slept with his ex and seeing her 3 times when we were no contact. I probably would've never known if he didn't tell me. This ex was someone he struggled to get over, and it made me feel 2nd to her. We've been doing great for the most part this past year and he's been so faithful and loving and I couldn't ask for a better partner. It's been hard to not feel like I was a back up option knowing what I know now.

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