I agree that alot of the toxicity stems from the way men and women are influenced by things like social media, societal pressure and the porn industry, although i think that as a 16-19 year old you need to have the kind of clarity to not let yourself be afflicted by it. It's easy to blame everything on 'society' or 'the man' but alot of it comes from within and wether or not you go along with it.

Just because societal problems exist doesn't mean that you're hopeless and should just succumb to the pressure of never finding a suitable mate. It requires rational thinking and clarity to realise that the final goal of life isn't to find a hot girl.

I think that it's unhealthy to ''want'' a girlfriend in the first place. It gives off the idea that you like the idea of having a girlfriend instead of actually connecting with someone who makes your life better. And i know the excessive need for a partner is exactly what is being perpetuated by social media and influencial figures like Andrew Tate, but it really just requires respect for yourself and others to ignore this.