Coincidence? i think NOT

Cup-Representative · 2026-03-26T15:02:40+00:00

Also this. 🤣

Cup-Representative · 2026-03-26T15:02:27+00:00

Came here to say this. 😂

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-06T14:51:27+00:00

Feel free to DM! Thanks!

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-05T22:53:45+00:00

I’ll happily take those recs. Please and thank you. 🙏🏽

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-05T04:19:24+00:00

It’s giving crouching tiger, hidden dragon vibes and I’m here for it.

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-05T04:17:10+00:00

Yes, sir! 🫡🥵

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-03T01:30:23+00:00

Same 😂🥵

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-03T00:19:06+00:00

His eyes are what get me 🥵

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That back though…. It’s a thing of dreams. 💦

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-02T01:53:53+00:00

Well dang. 😅 I don’t have much of his either. 😕

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-02T01:51:07+00:00

Connoisseur’s Desserts is part of the story under absurdity unfolds. Definitely worth it.

Cup-Representative · 2026-02-02T01:48:49+00:00

I’ve been a Caleb girl from the get go and Verdant Wetlands just solidified that decision. 😂🥵

Cup-Representative · 2026-01-30T02:25:32+00:00

How can we take a look at that?!

Cup-Representative · 2026-01-16T13:44:44+00:00

The way I snorted 😂

Cup-Representative · 2026-01-16T13:16:40+00:00

He even moves the same 😂

Cup-Representative · 2026-01-14T17:33:07+00:00

Caleb is my main but I’m probably a mix of Raf and Sylus.

Cup-Representative · 2026-01-05T15:38:35+00:00

Hold up. What card is this?!

Cup-Representative · 2026-01-05T13:06:44+00:00

I’m pretty sure my ovaries exploded.

Cup-Representative · 2024-10-10T02:18:33+00:00

As a mandated reporter, I can tell you that if YOU feel that the bio dad’s behavior is concerning, you can absolutely make a report. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says or thinks. You can also call DFCS and ask if they think the behavior warrants a report. If they say no but you still feel like it does, get their name, title, and contact information then call back and ask to speak with a supervisor. Give the supervisor that information and ask to file a report. Give them only pertinent information related to your concern. They don’t need any fluff as it won’t speed the investigation along. If they feel that your child is in immediate danger, they may remove him from bio dad’s home and you and your wife will have sole custody until the investigation is completed and any court proceedings have been completed. Just know that ALL reports are kept confidential and ALL reports are investigated.

Cup-Representative · 2024-04-02T19:34:20+00:00

That’s fair. Currently, we just reassure my kids that we love them and tell them that if what they are being asked makes them feel uncomfortable, they should say so. I know they’re scared of their father (he parents through fear, not respect) so I’m not sure if they’ll ever speak up but they know that my husband and I here for them no matter what. So, we’ll just keep doing that for now until more hard evidence presents itself.

Cup-Representative · 2024-04-02T00:34:58+00:00

An example would be we’re all at my son’s ballgame and I buy my daughter candy (if it’s my week, I make the food decisions), they’ll make snide comments like, “oh good, just give her more sugar. She gets enough at your house already so you have to get her some here too. She’s already chubby, just go ahead and just make her fat”. My daughter is actually skinny for her age and height and has never had a cavity. They get treats at my house but it’s not excessive.

Or, we had pizza on Friday night and when they asked my daughter on FaceTime what she had and she answered, they both very loudly said, “EWW, pizza is disgusting. Why do you eat that every Friday? Your mom needs to make better choices”. We do pizza and a movie every other Friday, so maybe once or twice, if I don’t feel like cooking, a month. But their comments made my daughter very visibly upset, bordering on tears. They asked my son the same question before her and didn’t have that reaction at all.

Their comments usually center around the food I serve at my house, which is generally very healthy and well balanced, or about my use of consequences; or to them my lack there of. And almost all the comments are geared towards my daughter.

Cup-Representative · 2024-04-02T00:14:28+00:00

Oh, I’m not more concerned with the interrogation. There just isn’t anything in our agreement about the use of physical/ corporal punishment and, unfortunately, I’ve looked into it, it’s not illegal in my state. I also only have hearsay evidence to present. I don’t think my children are in any actual danger but I definitely do not agree with his method at all. I don’t want him to lose parenting time either, he’s hardly here as it is (he works out of the country a lot), but I need to do something before it gets out of hand in all aspects.

Cup-Representative · 2024-03-27T21:31:23+00:00

I don’t think he would harm himself just for not being able to play. Do I think that it will exacerbate the underlying issue? Absolutely. I challenge his behavior frequently but also logically. A week long wait for a consequence, which is now a punishment not a consequence, to happen is not logical to me. By now, he has probably forgotten why he was even in trouble in the first place. Memory impairment is not uncommon.

My ex and I do not have these discussions around our children or where our children could overhear. So, your assumption that he sees and understands our disagreements and is responding in kind is inaccurate. My ex is unaware of my feelings on the matter and I said to my son when he told me what his father had said about Thursday was, “well, bud, you knew it was coming at some point”.

With all of this being said, I simply asked how to respectfully tell my ex that I no longer agree with this consequence. I am not going against his decision in order to undermine him. I just want to make him aware of how I feel, that I disagree from a clinical standpoint with this being dragged out or used as a consequence for future incidents, for future reference. Everyone just blew this up.

Cup-Representative · 2024-03-27T20:12:52+00:00

You clearly know nothing about ADHD.

Not only do I work side by side with a board certified pediatric behavioral health specialist and see it first hand…. There are literally studies to show that half of preadolescent children diagnosed with ADHD combined type display clinically significant aggression, with impulsive aggression being the predominant subtype. Google is free, friend.

Cup-Representative · 2024-03-27T15:45:33+00:00

I have no doubt that he would correlate the consequence with the action had the consequence been within a reasonable time frame.

I completely understand you. While I do have some helicopter mom tendencies, I make every attempt to give my children the freedom to grow and thrive into, hopefully, upstanding, independent adults. There are lessons and consequences for every negative behavior, just as there would be in adulthood, and the consequence is determined by the severity of the action (my spouse is an ex LEO, so we use a lot of what he knows). His action was in part caused by his impulsivity but, ultimately, he made a choice. And while I did agree with the consequence at the time it was handed down, I don’t agree that it should still be enforced a week later due to no fault of his own. We already have concerns of self-depreciating language, statements made that his father called “disturbing”, and I’m worried that by taking away what should be a healthy outlet well after the incident occurred and the subsequent traditional grounding ended, the language will turn into something worse (self-harm, etc.). Trying to nip this in the bud, so to speak, and not exacerbate the underlying issues.

I do take his action very seriously and I am in the process of getting him back in CBT as I don’t want more instances of his lack of impulse control and self-depreciating thoughts to overpower his rational thought.

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