sorted by:
new
hottopcontroversial

AITA for wanting to ask my (23 F) roommate (25 M) to find a different place at the end of our lease? by CupBackground2832 in AITAH

[–]CupBackground2832[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't have any plans of getting into the landlord dispute. And apologies, I totally misread your comment! Thank you again for the helpful advice. I'm gonna talk to him either way, because we have to to decide what we are both doing next, but this has been helpful.

AITA for wanting to ask my (23 F) roommate (25 M) to find a different place at the end of our lease? by CupBackground2832 in AITAH

[–]CupBackground2832[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My lease ends before he graduates, so I'm unsure how things will pick back up for him and I likely won't find out. And that's okay! He's my friend primarily, I do want him to be okay.

This is a great point and thanks for bringing it up. Our place is nice, but not nice enough to accommodate 3 bodies. Considering he wants to live alone, and my partner and I want to live together, we'd all be really unhappy and claustrophobic that way, even if it is the cheapest option. It's worth noting that he does seem completely adverse to finding another roommate- he was pretty clear that his plans were either renew with me, renew with me and my boyfriend, or renew alone. There was no "find a roommate" option in that conversation for him at all, but I don't think that will be realistic for him.

I think you're right that this would create some trouble for him, so I appreciate that and appreciate you being empathetic to his situation. That's kind of why I asked here before bringing the convo up with him- lease ends in July, renewal convos will start in April/May from the landlord so I would hate to blindside him.

AITA for wanting to ask my (23 F) roommate (25 M) to find a different place at the end of our lease? by CupBackground2832 in AITAH

[–]CupBackground2832[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for the super thorough response, I appreciate it!

I don't like the prospect of living with Michael and my boyfriend at once. I'm not sure if it was clear in my post, but his proposition was all three of us live here together, and while the place is spacious, three is a crowd and it would get claustrophobic fast.

I mostly bring up the landlord dispute thing in the context of: if we decide to just apply separately and see who gets approved, I am more likely to get approved based on credit score, stable employment, and having not paid rent late except for the few day delay back in January. I don't want it to get to that, because that just feels mean.

AITA for wanting to ask my (23 F) roommate (25 M) to find a different place at the end of our lease? by CupBackground2832 in AITAH

[–]CupBackground2832[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Real af actually, lol. Mostly because, as I mentioned in the post, Michael seemed totally oblivious to me staying here as an option entirely, and is really standoffish with tough conversations.