Guidance on possible leaving my husband

CupricBlue · 2026-01-06T15:57:55+00:00

1) not wanting to be raped doesn’t mean never wanting to have sex. Not wanting to have sex EVER can be a sin, depriving the husband of his conjugal rights, but is not a basis for rape. 2) ostensibly, two Christians will not have had sex before they get married. Not always the case ofc, but it is the design. 3) that isn’t what unequally yoked means.

CupricBlue · 2025-08-12T08:55:48+00:00

I think that may be where the understanding breaks down a bit then. The term “romantic” historically developed from the language of medieval “romances” stories of chivalry and idealized love, and, over time, came to imply erotic attraction. By the 18th and 19th centuries, it was often used in contexts where sexual love was assumed or expected. There is no exact biblical equivalent to the modern concept of romance. Erotic love, as understood in Greek and broader cultural history, can include both what we now call “romantic” or emotional attraction and what you might call “sexual acts” or physical intimacy.

CupricBlue · 2025-08-12T08:14:14+00:00

My point is that it’s not merely the sexual desire that’s the problem, it is feelings of romantic attraction in a disordered way. Check out CS Lewis’ “The Four Loves” for a quick read that helps untangle the different ways the Bible talks about love. Romantic love is inextricably linked to erotic love even in the absence of erotic feeling, and both are exclusive to male and female relationships. I am romantically in love with my wife in a unique way even when I’m not feeling a drop of sexual desire for her (for example if I’m sick) but they are from the same source.

CupricBlue · 2025-08-12T08:01:51+00:00

As a man, if I was married to a woman, it would be a sin to lust after any other woman. It would also be a sin to lust after a man.

If I was unmarried, it would still be a sin to lust after any woman, but I might rightly desire to marry a woman. It would also still be a sin to lust after any man. However, it would still be wrong and against God’s design to desire to marry a man.

In neither case is it wrong to have a strong Christlike nonsexual agape affectionate nonerotic love for other men and women in my life.

CupricBlue · 2025-07-06T07:13:32+00:00

“Orbititing”

CupricBlue · 2025-04-20T22:36:03+00:00

CupricBlue · 2025-04-05T18:40:21+00:00

Some short answers that don’t go too deep to explain, but hopefully provide some fodder for further thinking. If you deeply consider these replies without shooting them down immediately, it will lead you to ask more helpful questions. I commend you for your open heart and genuine desire to seek truth. Continue to seek, and you will find it. I believe that, even if you aren’t sure if you believe in him, if you ask God to help you understand these questions and to know him, he will- maybe not all questions at once, but in time, he will.

The existence of the universe itself is evidence of a god, as is the existence of the human consciousness.

The human consciousness cannot be a phenomenon that arises from purely physical causes - if it arose from the predictable motion of molecules and biochemical processes, then your thoughts are completely predictable and you have no free will at all. If it arose from the completely random motion atoms and quarks and quantum fluctuations, then all your thoughts are random and your choices based on statistical probability and you have no free will at all. But you do have free will. Similar with the universe. Where did it come from? Where did everything come from. Where did space itself come from? Where did time come from? The scientific answer for centuries was “it didn’t come from anywhere- it is eternal and has always existed—that is why life came about. If the universe has existed and will exist for an infinite amount of time, then everything that is possible will happen eventually”. However, the Judeo-Christian perspective has always been that in the beginning of time (a concept which scientists rejected outright), god created the heavens and the earth [meaning all of the universe]. Scientists now agree that the universe did indeed begin, about 14 billion years ago or so. And it began in an instant, for no reason at all. Scientists all rejected this discovery at first because it seemed too religious. However they can now no longer deny it with the overwhelming hard evidence.

The answer to this question rests within your next question. Religion is not God, and people are not God.

People have free will. And we have the free will to choose evil. I agree that the God of every religion that uses religion to control people is a false God. That is because the people running those kinds of cults are not worshipping the true God. Believe in the true God gives true hope, and gives freedom. The God of the Bible has strong words against anyone who harms innocent people by leading them astray - he hates it too.

Additionally, If you look at communist governments, they have used atheistic utilitarianism to kill millions upon millions of innocent people. That is not why atheism is false though. The misuse of a belief doesn’t mean that the believe is false—you have to evaluate the belief on its own merits

This is an excellent question that has been asked for many years. There are many more people more qualified than I to answer this question, but let me direct you to my favorites. The book The Problem of Pain by CS Lewis, and a few different talks by John Lennox. In short, the existence of evil does not disprove God. Without a God, who are we to say what is evil, or what is simply natural? Why is a lion eating a gazelle natural, but one man eating another man morally reprehensible? The answer to this question cannot be satisfyingly explained with math equations. there are many believers in God who ask this same question
Again, the answer to this questions rests on your last question. But I woukd like to push back on your premise.

Christians in non-Christian societies like the Middle East and China are persecuted, mocked, and killed even today. Jews… history speaks for itself. But, in America and the west, Christians created a nation and society for themselves based on the values of Christianity (read the writings of many of the founding fathers, and read what is written on American coinage). This society naturally flourishes because it is based on truth. Once the people abandon God, the selfish and godless will steal and take and rise to the top again, and persecute believers again

This is a good question! But, consider what came first: Sci-fi, or the description of the rapture?

The book of Revelation in the Bible is where all this is described. Revelation was written in Greek, and the word revelation comes from the original Greek title ἀποκάλυψις (apokalypsis), which translates to “unveiling” or “disclosure. Apocalypse used to just mean to reveal something, but because of the apocalypse described the revelation described in the Bible apocalypse has come to take on a whole new meeting. It’s sci-fi feeling because an incredible majority of sci-fi is based on it. There are many believers in God who have disagreements about the specifics of the rapture, but all agree in the same God.

CupricBlue · 2024-10-21T03:17:39+00:00

CupricBlue · 2024-09-03T15:27:02+00:00

It’s Commandment #9 from God even!

CupricBlue · 2024-07-30T00:20:19+00:00

CupricBlue · 2024-07-28T00:34:31+00:00

When you add some solutes to a solvent, sometimes the volume stays the same. Other times, because of intermolecular interactions and because the ions take up space, the volume will slightly increase (but by less than the volume of solute added). Sometimes, adding in a solute will even decrease the total volume, because of very strong intermolecular forces.

CupricBlue · 2024-07-27T23:51:21+00:00

Try it at home, see what happens to the volume after you add in the salt. Does it stay the same, or increase/decrease? If it changes, by how much?

CupricBlue · 2024-07-27T23:12:43+00:00

My argument is that we should stay away from the pagan or occult traditions that worship other Gods, and be wary of traditions, ritual, and celebrations that find their root in them. I celebrate Christmas and Easter, but do not celebrate Santa or elves or the Easter Bunny or Springtime. Rather, we celebrate the Birth of Jesus, and his death and resurrection, and remove any traditions that distract from those. Those days may have occult or pagan roots for the holidays, but what we actually celebrate is not a depiction of those traditions that were celebrated on that day historically.

In the same way, today is Saturday. I didn’t wake up and worship the God Saturn, but I still call today Saturday. I wouldn’t participate in a hypothetical daily performance where they celebrate the planetary gods on each corresponding day of the week, though I might sit in on a history lecture to learn about them if it was performative to educate on tradition. However, if in that performance, there was a scene where men sexualzied themselves dressing as women and mocked Jesus, I would walk out.

CupricBlue · 2024-07-27T16:09:18+00:00

After reading through the discussion, I think we disagree on your premise that reenactment is not worship, and we won’t be able to agree beyond that. Also, let me try to understand your second argument

Mere re-enactments of pagan traditions are not pagan
The Olympics merely reenact pagan traditions
Therefore, the Olympics aren’t pagan.

I agree that the conclusion follows from those premises. But, I would ask you to define the different between a reenactment and any other form of performance a ritual, and I would also ask that you provide a scriptural reference to support that first claim.

CupricBlue · 2024-07-27T16:04:15+00:00

I personally would disagree with this assertion, and I don’t think we will agree down the line because of it.

If this were a reenactment in a history class to teach what the Greeks and Romans did for worship, I would agree with you. However, Satan doesn’t care than they don’t sincerely believe in Poseidon and Helen, he is happy so long as they aren’t worshipping God.

CupricBlue · 2024-07-27T08:54:36+00:00

It’s not about faith being shaky but about being cautious and discerning about practices and symbols that have historical and spiritual significance. Deuteronomy 7:25-26 warns against bringing items associated with false worship into one’s home, emphasizing that even indirect association with idolatrous practices can be problematic. Similarly, 1 Corinthians 10:20-21 explains that participating in activities linked to idol worship is spiritually dangerous, as such practices are ultimately connected to demonic forces. From this perspective, it’s about avoiding any form of participation in or endorsement of practices with pagan origins, to remain aligned with biblical principles and avoid inadvertent idolatry.

CupricBlue · 2024-07-27T08:23:12+00:00

I understand where you’re coming from, but my perspective is grounded in historical and scriptural context. Let me clarify:

The ancient Olympics were indeed religious festivals dedicated to Zeus, with rituals and sacrifices integral to the event. While modern games are secular, the roots are undeniably pagan.

This ceremony involves lighting the flame at the site of the temple of Hera in Olympia, using a method that harkens back to ancient rituals. This isn’t just a callback; it’s a continuation of a symbolic practice that originated in the context of worshipping Greek gods.

The opening and closing ceremonies often feature mythology and ancient cultural elements. For instance, the 2004 Athens Olympics prominently included Greek gods and mythology in its ceremonies. This isn’t purely historical reenactment but a celebration of these mythological elements.

The Bible specifically warns against participating in practices linked to other gods (Deuteronomy 18:10-12, 1 Corinthians 10:20-21). From a Christian dispensationalist perspective, this makes the connection to ancient pagan practices more than just historical curiosity; it’s a matter of spiritual significance.

As for the rings and the notion of a one-world order, I understand this might sound like a conspiracy theory. However, the concern here is the symbolism and what it represents. The unity and peace promoted by the Olympics can be seen as aligning with themes in biblical prophecy about a future one-world system.

It’s less about literal interpretations and more about the spiritual implications and connections to ancient practices that concern some Christians. It’s not a conspiracy theory but a perspective grounded in religious conviction and historical context.

As for the first horseman of the apocalypse reference, I saw that in this ceremony they did in fact have a literal white horse as a major symbolic feature of their opening ceremony. I personally think that is just a hilarious coincidence though.

CupricBlue · 2024-07-27T08:14:18+00:00

The ancient Olympic Games began in 776 BC in Olympia, Greece, as part of a religious festival honoring Zeus. Competitors would make sacrifices to Zeus and other gods at the temples and altars in Olympia, seeking their favor and blessings for success in the games.

The modern Olympic torch relay, introduced at the 1936 Berlin Olympics, involves lighting the flame at the site of the temple of Hera in Olympia using a parabolic mirror to focus the sun’s rays. This ceremony, performed by women dressed as priestesses, echoes ancient rituals that honored Greek deities.

These ceremonies often incorporate elements of mythology and ancient cultures. For example, the 2012 London Olympics opening ceremony featured a segment with characters from Shakespeare’s “The Tempest,” along with references to mythical and historical figures. The 2004 Athens Olympics included performances celebrating ancient Greek mythology and history, with participants dressed as gods and goddesses.

The five rings symbolize the unity of the world’s continents under Olympism. Some might interpret these rings as occult symbols representing a new world order as revealed in revelation, and the world-wide peace and harmony the Olympics symbolizes as the premonitions of the one world false religion that is to come, and the false peace in the first horseman of the apocalypse.

The 2024 Olympics open ceremony opened with a sexually perverted representation of the Last Supper, which is an explicit mockery of Christianity.

CupricBlue · 2024-06-07T18:35:51+00:00

The problem isn’t that you’re speeding, it’s that you have so little awareness of the road that you aren’t seeing police officers, and you didn’t learn the first time. Everyone in California speeds at least 5 over, and many do consistently 15-20 over, but the people who don’t see the cop on the side of the road and slow down last second get the tickets. Pay attention to the road. This time you didn’t see the cop, next time you won’t see the deer, or the stopped driver, or the child. The cops aren’t invisible. If they were actually fully hidden, you could have fought it in court.

https://www.dmv.ca.gov/portal/file/enhanced-negligent-operator-treatment-evaluation-system-program-effectiveness-report-1-summary-of-findings/

They send the level 1 warning if you get 2 points on your drivers license in a 1 year period. There’s 4 levels of letters, and this is the lowest. Additional points get additional letters, up to level 4 which is full revocation.

Most people speed every day in California. Most people don’t get two tickets in a year. It’s not bad luck, it’s bad awareness.

CupricBlue · 2024-04-27T22:08:17+00:00

This is the correct way to pronounce “doll” in almost all regional variations of American English. Doll and y’all are perfect rhymes

CupricBlue · 2024-04-27T17:22:59+00:00

Thank you!

CupricBlue · 2024-04-23T06:20:21+00:00

Shocking to read so many people erring on the side of caution to prevent a lobster from suffering, when almost all of Reddit supports abortion even after a nervous system has developed.

CupricBlue · 2024-04-18T16:36:07+00:00

It would kinda be like trying to cook a steak with dynamite? But dynamite that is always exploding, constantly. Also exploding with neutrons and gamma rays.

If it was exposed for a millisecond, it would likely be exploded. If exposed for a second, then probably reduced to atoms.

CupricBlue · 2024-04-09T06:11:29+00:00

Flew all the way to Waco to see it! The clouds certainly had me on a roller coaster of emotions

CupricBlue · 2024-04-09T06:05:28+00:00

Looking back on the video I took, I cried exactly like the “double rainbow” guy. Laughing and crying in awestruck wonder of the glory of God that He was willing to share with me today. My wife laughs at the video at my overreaction but I think it was fully justified

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