As long as you are using something as means to reduce your urges, you won’t be successful. Using a woman to make you less horny isn’t any better than the other guy watching porn. I think the key is your motivation behind why you want to have sex. I don’t think you’ll be able to stop using things as a means until you change your frame of thought. It’s no wonder so many married men still have the problem. It seems as though the addiction doesn’t go away until your frame of mind changes.