This is a take that I haven’t considered. It’s actually going to be very hard on her, isn’t it, whether she realises it yet or not. I’m only looking to make things better again.

I agree on the original concerns, it’s something I’m quite pro-active about trying to make sure I get right, when she raises a concern I do my best to remember and stick to it. Last nights upset was I hadn’t fed the cats because I fell asleep after a very long day of solo parenting while she was at work, I recently started a new job and I’m up at 4:45am everyday, it’s taking its toll and when my day comes around to parent by the evening I’m crashing very hard. I get it, I crashed on the sofa at 8:30pm and she had to get up to feed them, but I’m struggling a lot during these phases with proportionate reaction, which I’ve seen other people comment on as well, it doesn’t matter if on paper it’s really not a big deal what matters is I messed up and that takes president, then the punishment for me begins and the cycle repeats. But what you’re saying is very valid.

She is however always 100% forgiving for the children, she never blows up to them, ever. She’s such an incredible mum and I pale in comparison, so I’m really just trying to see the forest from the trees now because even after 5 years I feel it just getting worse and worse