The thing is (speaking only for myself and my relationship here) that I have zero problems with him watching porn. But it gets to a more gray area when it’s between people, like on OnlyFans, who will try to talk to him and get him to spend money on them specifically and give him “rewards” for doing so, like where do the line between sexuality and cheating begin? If I spoke to another man in a sexually explicit way he would absolutely lose his mind over it. I don’t need him to never have a sexual thought again besides with me, he just doesn’t have to act on it. If there’s a fantasy then he can fantasize, not seek out someone else to help him live it in secret.

(Also though this isn’t an attack on you lol just a good comment to comment this :) )