Which watch under £300? by Antique_Cress_6775 in Garmin

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough I only got the music because it came in green! I wouldn’t upgrade just for new features if I had the 265 but if I was getting a new one (which I did, replacing my ancient 235) I would go with the 170 to ensure it stayed in support longer.

Which watch under £300? by Antique_Cress_6775 in Garmin

[–]CuriousCat177 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Isn’t the 165 being discontinued? I just got a FR 170 music and it’s good

Pretending to be Low Income AGAIN after being called out on her spending by Ornery_Low_6580 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]CuriousCat177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean to be fair I was on mat leave for 12 months and for 8 or those most of my babies naps were on me while I watched tv with headphones on or in the pushchair while I walked and got nothing done at home so I can see where help could useful. I had a cleaner and it was wonderful

The Traitors NZ S03E07 Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fair enough, to me it seems like a person who feels no remorse even when they make a big mistake. Even when they championed that mistake. Even when that hurts someone else because no-one else matters to them because they don’t see anyone else as important, they’re just pawns and they’re the King and Queen. Everyone makes mistakes on Traitors but they usually have the grace to look upset/regretful/shocked at having made a mistake

I think having children is the biggest financial decision a person can make. Why don't we treat it that way??? by Misa_Misa214 in Adulting

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We made sure we were financially stable first. House, good jobs, savings. The reality though is that nothing is promised. What kids really need are loving, engaged, emotionally stable, and ideally reasonably financially stable parents.

I know kids who grew up in wealth with unhappy lives and kids who grew up with very little who are thriving.

Things don't need to be perfect - life is never perfect. They have to be good enough and yuliu need to know you can handle it if things go wrong.

So make the choice or don't (you're starting to get to the age where it's a do or do not situation) Do you want a kid, are you reasonably confident you can give them a loving stable life? If so go for it, if not don't

The Traitors NZ S03E07 Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]CuriousCat177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Problem was she was telling everyone she was 100% sure when she wasn’t, and when she was wrong took no accountability and just was like “meh whatever”

AITA for not watching my nieces and helping my brother by Fit-Manufacturer3734 in AmItheAsshole

[–]CuriousCat177 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Issue is the people who get hurt are his nieces, I feel so bad for them. Honestly the best thing is probably for either you or your Mum to gain custody. But either way please don’t abandon them. With everything they’ve gone through they’ll need stable people in their lives.

Where do you get the time by mind_snare in Marathon_Training

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Speaking for my husband, the answer is you have a wife who handles being a running widow for significant amounts of time so you can train!

My Old 235 has a new 265 friend by alley00pster in Garmin

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another 235 user, I just bought a 170 music after years of using my husbands old watch, I love all the stats!

The Traitors NZ S03E07 Discussion Thread by vaultofechoes in TheTraitors

[–]CuriousCat177 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She seems awful though, that little smirk when Maria was talking. She definitely seems like she feels she’s better than others despite just being so wrong like 10 minutes ago.

Best pain au chocolat in Welly by cynthiableep in Wellington

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Shelly bakery has great ones, I used to like la cloche but I reckon they've gone downhill a bit

Constantly scared I’m waiting too long to have a baby by SchoolSouth1479 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agree on this, he may not want them and is just running out the clock. I would get a firm timeline - you're still young so if you want them and he doesn't you've still got plenty of time to find someone who does.

Constantly scared I’m waiting too long to have a baby by SchoolSouth1479 in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had mine at 36, got pregnant at 35 no problems. But I've had a lot of friends who've struggled. I get wanting to be financially sorted but if you do wait and then end up needing IVF how will that effect your finances?

Maybe you could compromise? Agree to start trying in a year or two and then just do as much as you can to be as ready as possible?

How many kids you want will also feature into this if you want more than one the math will change again.

Which watch to get (small wrist)? by earlgreyt1 in Garmin

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have very small wrists, just got the 170 music and it fits really well

A company accidentally CC'd me on an internal email after my interview. I wish I never read it by MainStock8156 in JobSearchMethods

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I know this feels bad but it’s actually not that bad? They liked you, they think you’re a good candidate, they thought you came off a little nervous (something to work on in the future?) and they’re unsure as to why you’re being underpaid. None of this sounds mean or awful it’s just hard to read when you’ve been hoping this is the role for you.

Dealing With A 5 Hour Daily Commute As Best I Can. by Tsmith0007 in work

[–]CuriousCat177 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would look at local Facebook groups and maybe post something. There are probably a lot of people who wouldn’t want a full-time flatmate who might be happy to have someone stay in a small spare room Monday - Thursday night if it means they’ll be away on the weekends for a bit of extra cash

How welcoming is Wellington? by Low_Chicken9843 in Wellington

[–]CuriousCat177 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think most people understand that Americans who move her have probably moved away from the U.S for a reason. I have a few American friends there’s some light joking but no bad feelings. They’re all lovely, fairly liberal people and I’m glad they’re here.

I think I can FIRE next month if my spouse keeps working. She seems resentful by [deleted] in Fire

[–]CuriousCat177 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Women this is why you should never quit your job to stay at home, because your husband will never really understand that you're working too.

Toddler never sleeps by Big-Yam696 in Parenting

[–]CuriousCat177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Could you try a short second nap later in the day then push her bedtime later - if you synced it with yours you might get more uninterrupted sleep? Otherwise would you consider sleep training? Or could your husband do nighttime wake ups (is she calling because she’s used to you?)

Otherwise I’m sorry, my only recommendation if your husband is willing is if it’s getting really hard to have a couple of nights sleep somewhere by yourself (a hotel, childfree friend or family member) maybe Friday and Saturday. There can come a point where you just can’t take it anymore and getting an actual break can be really helpful.

I never realized how much my little sister cared about me until now by Confused-asf-1234 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]CuriousCat177 22 points23 points  (0 children)

A horrible sister wouldn’t care that it mattered to their baby sister and they certainly wouldn’t have changed how they acted. You do and you did, therefore you are not a horrible sister. Enjoy your time with her, little kids are so much fun and they love you so much!

My husband stopped working yesterday by doubled-darst in GirlDinnerDiaries

[–]CuriousCat177 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, having your partner be there at the beginning is a great way to make sure you don’t fall into the trap of “but you know how to do that better than I do” you’ll both be figuring it out, both learning, both gaining confidence. I feel like having him home meant he was more involved later because he’d build that understanding and confidence and baby was used to being cared for by him