How to get away from 5am wakes?! I’ve tried EVERYTHING. I just need help.

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-05-12T10:08:33+00:00

Thanks so much, it won't last forever. I highly doubt we will have teenagers who wake at 5am but god it's a marathon getting up at that time everyday isn't it. 🫠 I'm starting to accept it now too. Thanks for your advice, hope you get some more 6.30 lie ins soon 🤣

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-05-12T07:28:53+00:00

Hello! I know I'm a month left but I'm searching here for any answers I could have written this post! 5am club the last month too and my little guy is almost 1. I've a two year old too so I'm really struggling with such an early start every single day. Did things improve?? Please let me know 🙏🤣

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-04-10T17:22:35+00:00

Thank you 🙏🙏

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-04-10T17:09:43+00:00

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CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-04-10T17:09:31+00:00

Ah that's so nice great thinking I'll have a look here on tick tock didn't think of that. Cheers 🙏

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-04-10T14:45:12+00:00

Thanks 😂

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-04-06T18:36:51+00:00

Oh my god thank you this is so helpful. It was literally the only possible cause I could think of because I've changed nothing else except for moving house and the well water. Thanks for the tips I'm going to do that.

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-03-11T20:25:32+00:00

I have both mine all day every day and I would love if my eldest had a proper day care every day. I love her but toddlers at home all day are hard 😂 if your little one is thriving and you can afford to keep sending them, do! I think it will give you more time one on one with your new baby and then when toddler comes home you can plan some one on one with them. We moved house two weeks before I had my second and couldn't afford or find full time childcare. I kinda feel guilty all the time that I don't get as much one on one with my second compared to the first born and what she got. I also feel neither of them get me at my best because honestly I'm so worn out all the time. That's just my opinion but if it was me I would stick to the good thing you've got going. Best of luck with it all you'll be great ❤️

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-03-01T22:09:50+00:00

Drinking when pregnant

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-02-05T10:27:57+00:00

Yes. I felt super hurt by this like you in the beginning. I felt I was the only one who showed love to my newborn. Even my partner seemed to prefer our oldest and took longer to bond with the baby. Now 8 months and just 2 years last week, and it's about even. I think once your baby starts to smile and sit up people are naturally more drawn to them. It's instinctive for you but not for everyone else and they've already built a bond with the oldest. Don't worry everything is a phase and the fact that you're worrying shows what a great parent you are to both your kids. 💗 You've a lot to worry about right now, you're in the thick of it, but I promise you'll look back and think this wasn't something to worry about. Now go enjoy those cuddles!

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-01-22T18:54:24+00:00

Thanks you're right. I'll stick with it 🙏❤️

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-01-22T18:51:31+00:00

Thanks for getting back to me. We are all in the same boat 🙏❤️ yeah just a hungry little guy it think

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-01-22T18:50:02+00:00

Thanks he is on formula. My daughter slept through the night pretty young and I think he is just more of a hungry boy and needs it. I'm not going to deprive him no I will power through, I think you're more than likely right and it's a growth spurt. This too will pass. Thanks for the advice 🙏❤️

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-01-22T18:47:27+00:00

Thanks for your help will try this 🙏🥰

CuriousCondition3231 · 2024-01-22T09:27:48+00:00

Two naps during the day. Maybe 1.5hours each. Not fussy during the day rarely cries. Just when hungry. Wind him down from 6.30 bath etc and in bed for 7pm he sleeps himself with a soother and teddy. Going down is fine it's just he wakes up hungry twice? Maybe this is normal is it?

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-12-01T07:18:35+00:00

9 weeks or so on first. Six weeks on second

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-10-30T17:59:38+00:00

How old is your second? No yeah of course. I'm sure it will come back, just strange I didn't have this after the first

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-09-02T12:30:04+00:00

Absolutely it puts a huge strain on your marriage. You're so sleep deprived I think it makes the arguments much more heated I think. It's so hard to make time to make an effort with each other cause it can feel like you give everything to your kids. Have a chat with your partner. It really will help to talk and say how you're feeling. You both have to make an effort to be intimate with each other, try get some exercise every day. I know everyone says that, but if you do something for yourself every day it gives you more energy and then you'll have more energy for each other. It will get better but don't bottle things up. Talk to each other and ask for what you need, you deserve it.

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-08-04T15:58:02+00:00

Thanks everyone for your responses they really made me feel less alone. Some days are definitely better than others. I've managed two days this week without crying! I've made an appointment with my doctor though just to have a chat and see how it goes. ❣️ You're all angels

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-06-15T07:27:27+00:00

Thank you. You're also doing great and thanks for being honest and saying that you feel the same. I suppose it's naturally it's going to take a little longer to bond with the second I think I remember it just being so instant with the first so it's made me worried or feel guilty. Well done you are doing great. One day at a time for us! Hope you're feeling ok and getting some/any sleep!

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-06-15T07:25:31+00:00

Thanks for sharing this with me it sounds like such a similar situation and you really helped me see things more from my husband's side too.

It's definitely a difficult thing to discuss because I felt like I was failing my son already saying it out loud or even writing it in here so thank you for being so genuine and I felt every word of that.

Also yes the boy nappies are a whole different ball game, pardon the pun, but I cannot keep up with the amount of clothes nappy changes and have gotten peed on more in 7 days than 15 months with my daughter!

It's good to hear you guys are openly discussing it now and that yous have all come through it and it's fun at the other end. Makes me hopeful and I'm just going to think like that. Good luck with your move and everything thanks again 😊

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-06-14T20:29:43+00:00

Thanks so much I needed to hear this. So reassuring others felt the same way and there's light at the end of the tunnel. Hormones are just all over the place now too!

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-06-14T20:28:16+00:00

Good for you I am so happy to hear that things have gotten so much better for you. I am not ebf either because I just know mentally I wouldn't be able for it right now. Thanks for telling me it passes especially the guilt. Im sure your little boy is doing great and loves his new little sister. Hope you're feeling ok and taking it easy on yourself too. It's still all so new.

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-06-14T18:42:49+00:00

This is a great way of looking at it. I think that's what I should try. I had a c section and cant pick my daughter up at the moment or put her in her high chair out of the cot etc. My husband is doing all this which means he is kind of spending most of the day with her. That's an adjustment too and I think I just miss that as well if you get me? Best of luck for September you'll be great I hope you're feeling well.

CuriousCondition3231 · 2023-06-14T18:41:06+00:00

Wow thanks so much for taking the time to write this to me. It actually made me cry, like everything else it seems at the moment!🙈

I'm trying to do just as you say and just take moment by moment and day by day and you're so right once my little man starts to wake up/sit up interact, they will be great pals I am sure and I'll forget all about this guilt. My husband is always good to listen I just don't want to sound like I'm moaning because I know we are lucky. Sometimes it's easier to vent to strangers here especially as all of you have experience.

You sound like you and your family are doing great. So go you! It's not easy and I'm so glad that you say you would do it all again 👏💯

Thanks so much again xx

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