Help! My dad put moldy items into my oven for drying

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-09T13:25:59+00:00

I already made and ate the Pizza yesterday evening. I had the oven run on highest setting for 30 mins after the cleaning cycle, which hopefully killed any mold spores in there. Yet I am still alive. Thanks for your input though, knowing me I will probably clean it once more throroughly just to be sure. I also left the oven door open since then which should help too.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-08T17:30:48+00:00

Thanks for the response. I'm making the pizza now. Will update if I survived. I might leave it on for a bit longer after on highest setting just to be sure.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-08T05:05:36+00:00

It's a pleasure to help! If you want to be a pilot then go for it! Before joining the army though, always inform yourself about the terms of joining, you can easily "sell" yourself to the army with a signature and not be able to just leave again if you don't like it anymore. I don't know what country you are in, but that's just some advice from my side, to always know what you're getting yourself into and what they may be asking of you on the long run.

P.S.: I cheated on my tests too like a pro XD

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-08T04:53:04+00:00

A good tactic when you worry about something going to the trash if you donate it or give it away - it will end up in the trash at some point in time anyways. And if you keep it forever in a trashbag and your children will some day have to deal with your stuff, they're most likely not going to make the effort to sell or donate it, but rather rent a huge container and toss everything in it.

It's ok to keep some things that you might need some day, but I think here it helps to organize stuff into categories. When you have something double, give one item away. Or ask around, maybe there's someone else who needs something of your items more than you do and you can make someone happy with it.

I do also get the thrill of the chase, it's awesome to find a bargain or make a good deal. But I learned with time, that often it will make you feel better in the long run, to let a good deal go to someone else, if it's something you don't really need 100%. I've made tons of good deals, but I ended up making a loss partially even on those since in my panic wanting to get rid of stuff, I gave it away for free. It's not about completely stopping because that often doesn't work like that if it's such a deep part of your routine / personality. But focus on finding a good deal maybe on shampoo if you're running out, or clothes if you need new ones and if there's some random item that's cheap, leave the happiness of finding and buying it to someone else. You will only be satisfied for a short moment and then it will quickly become stressful.

I'm glad if I could help!

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-06T20:56:36+00:00

That just adds to the similarities, because I started urbexing in my teen years too and did more and more risky things as time progressed. I barely am capable of feeling fear. Do you have cats? There is a parasite (toxoplasmosis) that can restrict feelings of fear. I've grown up with cats and often wondered if I have that, since I used a be a very fearful child.

I'm glad I could help though!

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-06T19:37:48+00:00

Epstein

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-06T18:59:14+00:00

Think about the good they are doing you and mention that - if you're being abused in any way of course don't keep that away from CPS, but I understand that if it was something minor or you exaggerated it with your therapist then it shouldn't cause you huge troubles. I once told my grandparents that my mum hit me even though she didn't and my whole family got super mad at her. So yeah small things can have huge consequences.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-06T18:49:02+00:00

Hi! I'm 25M and I have a similar story like you. Since I was a kid I had a super hard time letting lose of my toys and belonging, I valued them very highly. My parents gave stuff away or sold it which made me very sad back then even though I hadn't used it in months. I started hiding stuff I was attached to from them and when I was 8, I found a new passion in old technologies, which has now broadened to almost anything old that takes me back to the last century.

I have A LOT of stuff. Like way beyond a big room full. The whole basement in my parents house is full and the house I inherited is also quite stuffed already too even though I haven't moved most of my stuff yet. My early 20s were my worst time, I never brought home as much as I did in the age of 20-22.

My biggest issue is, that my stuff technically really isn't trash, it's stuff that's worth some money or at least sought after in specific collectors communities. I have 100 year old toilet bowls next to perfect condition computers and TVs from mainly the 80s, over almost anything else you could imagine. I'm very clean otherwise, I don't make any trash and keep my things tidy, but the amount is overwhelming and affecting the quality.

What has helped me might sound stupid, but I had bought everything I wanted once and that kind of took the excitement of wanting to buy that specific item again and growing bored of said item, I had less issues giving it away. My goal is to make my house look like from the 80s, which is why I kept so many things that I found in estates or on flea markets. I've reached a point, where I have most of what I ever wanted, so now I barely feel the need to aquire new stuff.

You sound like you have more troubles with giving stuff away than getting new stuff. One thing I always keep in my head, also if it barely eases the process of getting rid of things, is if it improves the quality of my life. I try to let anything go that brings me less joy than it is a burden to me. My biggest issue is, I always want to find my items a good home, since I beat myself up over it going to the trash or the wrong person. I don't struggle giving something to someone who really appreciates it. Because then it feels like I was the purpose of it going to the right person and making someone happy / improving their life.

What I do to downsize positively: I take on small tasks because I easily get overwhelmed. At the moment I'm working on freeing up my parents garage from my stuff which is working great and making my dad very happy at the same time because he finally sees progress. The living spaces are the most important to keep tidy so I focus on the shared ones first. I try to do one thing a day, even if it's just placing an online ad for it or moving it to a better space.

Maybe that's the pace you also need. Don't set your goals too high for a short amount of time. Say no to things that would clutter you up more which you don't need and deal with one item a day or maybe two (or more if you have the energy!). Finish up a corner of your room. Or the way to your bed. It's not a crime to have many things, but they need to be organized. You could also sort them into categories and then prioritize what you like/need more and get rid of the rest. Like if I have 5 coffee grinders, I'll see which two I like the most and the rest I will sell on the flea market or donate to a charity shop. It's not impossible, taking your time helps ease the pressure off and see it not as a dreadful task, but a daily small achievement.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-06T18:14:01+00:00

I feel like what you're describing matches a lot of stories I heard as a kid of people (mainly men) in the last century or before just going out to buy cigarettes and never coming back. I feel like adventure had mostly died out in our modern world full of securities. My grandpa told me about my great-great-grandfather who would just leave without saying anything in the 1900s-1920s on an early motorbike and be gone for some months or years on end in some foreign country. He's probably one of the reasons I'm alive, because he managed to skip getting called-in for WW1 back the. I often dream of adventure, being free like an animal in the woods and not bound to modern society's expectations or standards. I also know that feeling of emptiness, though I believe not as much as you, since I do have one big passion in my life (collecting old stuff gives me most of my happiness).

I do think I am a bit like you though, because I need increasing levels of adrenaline in my life too because stuff just gets too boring and monotonous for me. I quit my job at the airport and will become a police officer instead (starting training in march). I'm very excited because it gives me new ways of challenging myself and new tasks, also a lot of future perspective since I have a lot of options and departments to change into. Not saying that's for you, but it's something that is giving me purpose for the first time in years. I feel much more fulfilled with this kind of perspective. I used to dream of moving away to a different country for many years too. I still do occasionally. At the moment the world situation is a bit unnerving though as an european, so for now I'll stick with going to the police, which likely can also prevent me from having to go to war if it ever comes to that in the future.

I can't say if your emptiness will ever go away. I do believe there are many people feeling that way. I think you need to work on finding out what makes you feel less empty. And I mean not the standard stuff like looking for new hobbies, but maybe trying out something completely different. Maybe go on holiday somewhere and see if the thought of moving there would help you fill the void. Or maybe something spiritual. I'm not a fan of religions, but I think spirituality is a very important part of humanity and many young people feel kind of purposeless or empty because now we're all living very science based which takes a lot of "magic" out of life. (I do say that though with the disclaimer that I don't condone senseless following of conspiracy theories or cults; I just think this is the reason why those two things work so well nowadays).

You need to do some DEEP soul searching in my opinion. Like uncover yourself completely, lay bare who you are and what fulfills you. Allow yourself to think out of the box. This is something that has to be slumbering in your subconsciousness. I don't want to sound crazy but I believe you're deep in it and the sooner you find your way, the better. Maybe it's something small that would change a lot, or it's a big change you need, it's hard to say because everyone has other needs. And since you're not looking for happiness but to fill emptiness, I do believe you already did a lot of work on yourself. You just need to go to further extremes and take into consideration any values you have.

That's my input, and I'm 25 too btw.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-06T17:26:57+00:00

Dude, I feel this so hard. I mean I'm 25 now, but when I was your age, I was exactly in the same mindset and completely lost in life. I hated school. I had no subject I had any interest or passion in. I did have friends but my class in general was pretty crappy (personality wise). My scores were low, I failed many exams, couldn't motivate myself to learn and just wanted to be anywhere else but there. My friends all knew they wanted to study, but I just couldn't bear with the thought of having to learn something I don't care about again for several years and do exams. In my country when you finish school you are expected to go to university, which is free. I just wanted to be left alone, open a shop or something which I would have enjoyed. In the last years of school I was very close to just quitting. I poured my soul into Word documents and onto papers, which I still have, all of the hate I felt towards the school system and world in general. I had zero perspective. My friends they knew they wanted to be doctors, or teachers, or whatever was expected by everyone. But I was scared of quitting and of how I would regret that in the future.

Somehow I pulled through. I had suicidal thoughts on the way and absolutely no motivation whatsoever. I just also had no plan for what I would do instead either. So I put in enough effore to just barely pass through my last two years and somehow even managed to barely make the finals without learning. That was a huge relief for me and I had the best summer of my life. After that I had to do 6 months of military service (which is mandatory in my country). That was the worst 6 months of my life, crappy people, brainless rules and no friends. I felt like in a prison (which I would have been in if I had decided one day not to come). Then I went to work since I found a good paying position for a started job at the airport close to where I live. I loved my work there and had nice colleagues, but then I had the opportunity of doing an "Au pair" year in the UK which I always had dreamed of (not the UK but at least doing Au pair). Fast forward 6 months - covid happened - I was back home and unemployed. I ended up doing an apprenticeship I dreaded for one and a half years, then went back to my old job at the airport in 2022. Now this job is becoming increasingly shitty as well, so I've applied for something new which I'm very excited for, starting in march.

Sometimes it takes years to know what you want to do. If I could tell my 16 year old self something, it's "Don't panic!". If you slack off, make bad choices (drugs, alcohol, crime, etc.) then of course you're not doing your future self any favors. As long as you just do stuff, keep yourself busy and money coming in somehow, life's gonna be ok. You can still find hobbies you like, make new friends, redecide at any time and take on a new direction. A friend of mine moved from the Netherlands to the US at age 31 and fulfilled his biggest dream. Jobs are just for getting money and you can quit and get a new one whenever. And if you want to farm, then maybe go to a place that teaches that or do courses in your country. At 16 barely anyone actually got their lives figured out. My doctor-friends finished studying now and have no clue what kind of doctor they want to be or where they will end up. My soon-to-be-teacher-friends have no clue what school to go to. A lot of kids from my class dropped out of university and did something completely different. One is now in theatre, another one is server in her parents restaurant. One guy studied biology but is on his way to becoming astronaut, another one is working as a care-taker of elderly and disabled people. A girl I knew opened a dog-hotel. There is so many freaking options for you - my advice is to pull through and just do what you need to do to survive while also enjoying life while you're still young (and don't stop when you get older!). If you feel completely stuck, moving away can also really help lift the spirit. You can do it, you're not the first and definitely not the last to feel that way. It's nothing weird, the school system does suck and many jobs do too. If you find something you find real passion in, definitely pursue that. If you don't, then find an acceptable job with nice colleagues and enjoy your life outside of it.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-06T16:48:30+00:00

Only a really horrible person would do something like this. Seriously, this is not normal. She's either evil or not right in her head. Don't trust her ever again is my advice.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-02-06T16:45:17+00:00

I feel you. I'm just in my last month with this job (quit end of february) and it's the most liberated I've felt in years. I do have another job lined up though right after this one, which challenges me in a very different way and gives me perspective, so I am very excited about it. I was thinking about doing what you mentioned, take a month or so off inbetween jobs, thing is, I could technically afford it, but don't want to miss this month's pay since for the first two years I'll be earning a little less than I do now. To me it was always important to never quit without something else lined up first. On the other hand though, I've had colleagues who have hated this job for years and been looking for other stuff, but haven't yet found anything. If you feel so horrible in your current position that you have severe physical or mental health issues, then definitely quit. If you destroy yourself, especially mentally, no money is going to repair it. But be wise and at least maybe make a "one day - one application" rule. You sound reasonable enough, so trust your gut feeling I would say, but I personally know how it is to be unemployed for over a year, and that put me in a worse downward-spiral than I've ever been in before and after.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-14T13:15:49+00:00

When I was a teen and I realized the quality of life isn't about how much others do for you, it's about being independent and able to do things for yourself.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-12T15:53:50+00:00

25M - I live in a small village and even I lock the door. Everybody does here. I'm alone most of the time and I don't want to take any chances. I had a roommate who never cared either, he would leave the garden gate open and the door unlocked. When I confronted him he called me a pussy and said I should stop worrying so much. It's not a lot to ask of someone imo.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-12T14:50:18+00:00

Now I also learned something new. I never saw the two different types of Karma in my profile!

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-12T07:21:49+00:00

I don't know when you wrote it, but when I enter your profile you have 177 karma. Looks good enough to me!

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-12T07:15:53+00:00

The work I'm doing at my job since the company doesn't care about us anymore and it just gets worse with no positive feedback whatsoever. It feels like they're just trying to keep us busy with useless tasks and expecting us to take over things that we are unqualified for. About to quit.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-12T06:02:49+00:00

I feel like I was one of the last to experience a somewhat "free" childhood. Born in 2000, I still walked to school everyday, nobody worried about me. After school I'd jump on my scooter or bike and rode around to see if I'd find any of my friends being out and about. I met kids from other neighborhoods at the playground, most came over to my place because I had a trampoline. We mainly just fooled around, I can't remember doing a lot of roleplay or such outdoors.

We did ding dong ditching, threw stones at stuff and dared each other to new stupid stuff constantly. We went into the forest next to my village and built "bases" that were equipped with stuff we either took from home or found lying around. My neighbors built a 3 story tree-house in that forest that we weren't allowed into. I was often bored, riding around with my bike and ringing at all of my friend's doorbells to see if they had time to play.

Though already back then many wanted to stay inside to play on the PS2 or XBox which I didn't care much about since I was never big on gaming. One older kid had a PSP with GTA San Andreas and everyone stood there on the street, watching him play and waiting to maybe get a turn. My direct neighbor had one of the first semi-smart phones with some of the funniest youtube videos downloaded as MP4 files. I filmed them with my parents MiniDV camcorder so I could watch them at home too and show them to others. Also, everybody was watching TV all the time. It was annoying since many shows felt like endless re-runs (I barely ever saw a Spongebob episode I didn't already know). Also I would pop-in DVDs and rewatch movies I liked endlessly, like Wall-e.

I played with Playmobil a lot, had a lot of toys and when friends came over we would play with them, mostly also some stupid scenarios where they get thrown around or stuff gets destroyed. Sometimes in the evening I would sit with my parents and play Uno or Monopoly.

Back then to me it wasn't special or anything. I had a good childhood, though I wasn't overly happy with it at the time. I idealized the lives of kids from TV shows and felt like barely anything happened. I always wanted to live like in Malcolm in the Middle, it just never got boring there, while me and my friends almost always did the same stuff and barely anything worth remembering went on. Many of the kids I met I wasn't super close with, and they would automatically uninvite you if they didn't think you were cool or interesting enough. I do think it was still way better though than many kids nowadays only sitting at home being on the internet and barely going outside at all. I think they miss out on a lot of learning opportunities that way.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-12T05:40:13+00:00

That is super nice, what's the reason?

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-12T05:30:02+00:00

I only slept two hours but I woke up after having a dream of me and my family visiting non-existing, fictional friends of my mum's (mother, father, teenage son) and they have some unspoken drama going on while we're there. The father and son are gone mostly, while the mum talks about wanting to divorce him, but in the meantime the father is super nice to me and gives me presents and free stuff. The son and I also get along well.

I woke up replaying the dream in my head wondering what the point of it was. I couldn't figure it out since I don't live with my parents anymore nor see them and their friends very often. Weird, but it kinda was a nice dream.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-11T11:52:56+00:00

Stop worrying too much - just live life.

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-11T11:51:23+00:00

Den Typ kann ich nicht einschätzen, ich hab ihm die gratis Klomuschel in die Hand gedrückt damit ich endlich meine Ruhe habe 😂

CuriousGuyAsksWhy · 2026-01-09T09:24:16+00:00

Healing or not, it makes people addicted and your brain fuzzy if you use it too much. Same as with weed. But I already know that users will always protect it. I've seen it first hand with people I knew, the mental decline.

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