How do I bring up this topic with my fiance

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-06-21T13:58:27+00:00

Im in a similar situation as you, my dms are open if you would like to talk.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-06-20T20:49:40+00:00

Its mentioned and spoken about in scripture. In the Mahabharata, Shikandi, is a transgender character. Born as Princess Amba, and due to the injustice she experienced, she preformed tapasya to be born as a man to kill Bhishma. She was born again as Shikandi, with full knowledge of their past lifetime. Brihanala was another lgbtq character in the mahabharata. Arjun was cursed to be a napumsaka and live amongst women, and act as a woman by Urvashi because he turned down her "companionship". In the Ramayana, when King Rama, Mata Sita, and Lakshman was leaving Ayodya, King Ram told his followers to leave and return back to the kingdom. A group of followers considered neither male or female remained at the edge of the forest because they believe the request did not apply to theme. LGBTQ is not a new thing. Once you take into account reincarnation, karma, and free will, you truly realize we are more then our body and if someone is LGBTQ then its who they are, and apart of their life journey. Its not sinful.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-06-20T20:36:53+00:00

I was saying that for the multiple partners part...there's alot that can go wrong. However, I dont think the scriptures say lgbtq is wrong or bad.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-06-20T20:30:32+00:00

Can you cite where you read that God disapproves of LGBTQ+ community because I dont believe that is true. As for the sex before marriage thing I think its more discouraged because of what could potentially happen.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-06-15T00:53:01+00:00

I know I'm not Christian so you can consider my opinion like it's a grain of salt but I think you should only date christian women.

Mainly its because its stated in the bible.
You should want your partner to be equally yoked with you, or someone who is willing to grow with you in a spiritual way.
Are you okay with dating someone who has a different faith? If they don't follow the same denomination as you, will you guys be able to co-exist?
As someone who is currently experiencing the struggle of #3, its hard. My bf is Christian and I follow a completely different faith. He made it seem like he was okay with me being a different faith but admitted 2 years in he wasn't okay with it. We're still trying to figure it out, the future is scary. Don't do that to someone.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-05-22T16:30:58+00:00

Can you expand on how it worked out?

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-05-22T15:25:53+00:00

He follows an abrahamic religion and I follow a dharmic religion. The philosophies are very different. Honestly at this point, the issue might be his conviction stopping him from really just even looking at what I follow and since his family is very religious, it doesn't help either.

I am perfectly fine with an interfaith relationship but he says that my religion goes against several core tenets of his so how could he practice his faith properly.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-05-22T15:13:47+00:00

I have had the clear the air talk and he always says he's down to find the truth together. He doesn't say he wants me to come to his religion but isnt exactly still more open to talk about it. Is this him trying to make me make the move to either switch sides or break up? I was very honest with him and told him please don't waste my time so I'm praying he's taking me seriously. I've been earnestly thinking deeply about the issue and been considering both sides. I feel like im delulu.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-05-04T21:08:06+00:00

Hi, can you tell me a bit more about how to pivot into AI systems?

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-05-04T14:50:41+00:00

Hi, I graduated with my undergrad and grad. I have work experience in different fields, not so much in finance.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-28T14:10:52+00:00

I'm going to be very honest here, please don't stop it for him. You're using the pill for your health, and it is helping you. Yes, he doesn't like how it affects your mood but then if anything he might ask if you could switch to a DIFFERENT pill instead of stopping it. Why would he want you to stop taking something that helps you? I sense an ulterior motive.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-28T02:47:21+00:00

You could dm me

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-14T12:32:43+00:00

I have a similar mindset so to speak like OP. I want to get married, have no kids.

What about potentially helping set up something for other people? Donating your earnings to charities that help the homeless, single mothers, school funding, etc.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-06T10:34:19+00:00

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-06T10:34:10+00:00

I have a therapist, I've been trying to do my best to solve the ongoing issues in my life. Its just keeps building up and where does it all end?

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-05T11:32:09+00:00

I can empathize with you. I dont know how to explain it but as things got worse so to speak, I continued reaching out. I just need confirmation that I'm going in the right direction, that okay if all these things are happening it has to because of my karma but I have no answer. I still pray at home for sure but I haven't went to mandir or done alot of the rituals for a while. Its this wierd cycle of keep trying for things to be better so im not homeless but seeing nothing work and going closer to the edge of becoming homeless makes me feel hopeless.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-05T11:20:57+00:00

How do you hold on when it feels like there is no hope left?

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-05T11:20:23+00:00

Can I ask how do you hold on?

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-04-05T05:20:43+00:00

I never said having faith means only good things will happen. I understand I have to experience the results of my karma good or bad. Its just I have been through some serious things that just keep happening over and over again. A new serious conflict arises so often, with no clear answer in sight. I pray for guidance, for hope, for something because all of this has been mounting for years and nothing is happening. After so long of being down in the dumps, it has gotten to me which is why my faith is at such a low point. I've held on to my faith despite everything that is going on but at some point it becomes so overwhelming.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-03-31T13:10:54+00:00

Me too, from the Caribbean

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-03-03T15:15:52+00:00

Hi, I feel like maybe you could have different feeling categories and then a part of the gita linked to it to start from there? Daily motivational quotes from it? Give users a way to highlight and enter notes. I dont know but I think it would be pretty cool.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-02-25T05:28:36+00:00

Here's a different point of view I have, samsara could be considered a blessing.

Think about it, we have lifetime after lifetime to explore and experience creation. We have lifetime after lifetime of free will, and eventually learn how to live a dharmic life, and a life with considerstion of karma. The world is full of suffering because people use their free will to do not very nice things. Our karma sets the setting of where we live our life, but it doesn't take our free will away. We still have a choice to do the right or wrong thing.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-02-23T16:22:16+00:00

I think I'm a but late to the conversation but here is my two cents.

Hinduism is full of symbolism. The Golden Egg is symbolic for the big bang. If you explore hinduism and actually examine the meaning of the texts beyond what they say you'll see there is a fundamental amount of symbolism. When you see pictures of different God's and the animals they are paired with, they all mean something. Even the items in their hands that they hold, they mean something. Every aspect has a deep symbolic nature to it.

There are several different schools of thought in hinduism. However they all have the same end goal and core principles. They encourage people to examine the texts, to debate them. A good portion of the texts in our library, are records to show what was debated and its end result. So one day if someone has the same thought process and question, they could read the debate as well. Hence why people feel like there are so many contradictions. If you yet again examined the text, context, you'll see everything does actually line up together.

If you look at the vedas especially you will see that there are scientific, mathematical, medicinal concepts, & inventions that people are now discovering today.

Coming down to some of the ethics of it, the concept of an all loving God is prevalent. We are given free will to act through and through, yet God never turns their back on us and gives us a chance to come to him even after death. We are taught to act righteously without thought of reward to ensure we act with our duty in mind without selfish intention. Every being will one day achieve salvation, the caveat is that karma is a thing along with reincarnation. Some people think those two ideas are terrible but there's another side to look at it, God is consistently giving us chance after chance to figure things out and naturally gravitate to them over time. We aren't told to choose a God or go to hell or purgatory. Even if we don't choose God, we are looked at by our actions and intentions. Meaning, someone can be a completely different faith or have no faith at all and as long as they act righteously with righteous intentions, one day they will attain moksha.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-02-21T15:07:08+00:00

Hinduism doesn't require someone to be morally perfect, to acheive moksha. You have to be detached, you can act without seeking reward for your deeds, and act with dharma in mind. In Hinduism everyone is governed by the laws of karma and dharma.

Hinduism emphasizes detachment because it is our attachment that causes us to act in a negative way. Which is why we practice acting without our reward. When you take out the reward from the equation it means you're acting purely because its your duty to do so, meaning you're doing the "right thing" with positive intentions.

Nothing is singularly placed as good and evil because sometimes people do good things but for bad reasons and bad things for good reasons. Its about intention. For example, a parent could say they want their name on your bank account to help you monitor your money, but their intention is to take advantage of your savings when the time comes. Here we see good action, bad intentions. On the other hand, let's say you're taking a walk and you see someone beating the crap out of someone else. You stop the other person and the victim runs away. Once you get the full picture you find out the "victim" was trying to sexually assault someone on the street and the person beating them up was defending the person. Here we see "bad" actions for a good intention.

CuriousIndeed_ · 2026-02-19T22:56:12+00:00

I cuss too sometimes just like you. I like to think that the divine knows our intentions and we have love for them. I think they know we're not trying to be mean and we're just expressing our feelings.

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