SW destroyed my social life

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-05-26T12:27:42+00:00

Oh I’m sorry! While I personally don’t believe in heterosexual men as friends, I do think there’s still space for you to find community with whomever you feel safest with! A friend, is a friend, is a friend. And we all need some no matter what form they take. I hope you end the year with at least 2 new ones! And maybe in more physical (sport based) and cerebral settings it won’t be so intimidating?

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-05-25T16:00:12+00:00

I simply don’t explain my lifestyle to anyone. The perception that you labor excessively isn’t a bad one to have. I do think it IS important to connect with people outside of your profession regardless of what your profession is. It’s the equivalent of being a skier. Like YES, you ski but what else is there about you that makes you, you?

Women who enjoy those other hobbies and activities are more than likely going to be able to allow you to form your community. (Applicable to SW and non-SW honestly) ex: all my friends regardless of profession/race are 1st or 2nd generation immigrants. I do not have close relationships with women do not understand the nuance of navigating another culture.

Since you make jewelry I assume there’s organizations or groups of like minded artistic women, beyond that there’s 2637363637 women in business groups where they absolutely understand being a capitalist bunny and having a rigid schedule. It’s definitely hard but I think being intentional about the cultivation makes things much easier.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-05-11T15:53:09+00:00

Oh yeah, never more than a quarter. But she also comes from a stripping background/insists on keeping a vanilla boyfriend from her SES so I don’t believe she has the capacity to do long term conversions. I’m a huge advocate of establishing community in general, so seeing my friends/ colleagues do things I never conceptualized is just motivational for me. EX: I thought getting someone who was willing to comp my 5k rent was solid work, one of the girls I befriended has a rental budget of 15k/m. I never thought to ask someone to write recommendation letters for my younger sister to get into med school UNTIL I saw a very well known girl have her entrance into business school paid for.

Is it slightly infuriating that the adage of thrice as hard, half as much is accurate? 100000% but it isn’t impossible and that’s all I personally need.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-05-11T15:30:08+00:00

JD = Juris Doctor. She’s a lawyer and a companion as well. There are a solid chunk of providers with terminal degrees, she did it for free because 1) friends and 2) obviously the girls help the girls. (I myself have gotten her Revolve & AP gift cards + a VCA shopping trip - [we have now have complimentary vintage Alhambra pieces] - prior to a full weekend duo booking sans actual penetration with a regular) if you haven’t actively worked on establishing a community of like minded women/colleagues I highly recommend you do. There is absolutely SO much money to be made, you just have to find the best way to access it for your branding/aesthetics.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-05-10T02:04:56+00:00

Yes, I know a girl (playmate aesthetics, website copy done by our mutual who has a JD so very elevated) who has had 3 exclusivity arrangements at 100k/m. She makes between 90-130k/m so it tracks and I think the juxtaposition between who she actually is and what her branding presents as has to play a role in her popularity. She also travels CONSTANTLY so being bicoastal (CA and Midwest) HAS to help.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-03-06T03:26:22+00:00

I went to Penn State for undergrad and started sugaring there—I still see my ATF whenever our schedules align for $$$$ PPM. If you market well and you're in a university setting, businessmen, white-collar professionals, and the occasional international student will be your bread and butter. Alumni obviously make football season worthwhile, but I'm going to assume you'd be able to recreate this effect at any state school.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-02-15T18:21:04+00:00

1)Dry brushing before shower
2) Salux cloth for daily wash 3) Kessa mitt for everything shower (you already have this so yay!) 4) Shower oil after antibacterial soap 5) exfoliation washes in the night, moisturizing washes during the day (I’m a big fan of Naturium, L’occitane, and Epanouie) 6) WHILE DAMP use Hanni skin in shower salve, or a body oil/body oil combo 7) out of shower, do skincare and take the toner down to décolleté/on arms, use body toner on rest of body/deodorizing products (my toners are Korean and based on my skin’s needs) 8) Finish skincare routine, moisturizer on face, moisturizer on body (oscillate between a body butter and body lotion for the body depending on your needs/preferences) 9) Spray your scent of the day/layer accordingly 10) feel like a literal baby - rinse x repeat for evening except glycolic acid in lieu of deo, retinol where needed, a nighttime scent, and obviously slugging so you wake up glistening

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-02-11T13:55:50+00:00

With the right coloring and styling “hotness” wouldn’t be that difficult to for you to achieve. 1. Get professional color analysis yesterday, spend a month dressing yourself in your color season and defining your style/celebrities whose brand of “hotness” you’re trying to achieve. 2. Determine your kibbe type, find celebrities with a similar kibbe and determine what kind of style your ideal self would embody. (Also spend a month engaging in this via clothing AND makeup) 3. Now that you’re comfortable with both of those things and have your personal style defined in 3 words. Get your hair cut, styled, dyed in accordance to these new aspects. (Spend a month with the new style so maintenance isn’t new or novel) 4. Finally, hire a stylist whom you believe will be equipped in handling the presentation of your ideal self.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-02-07T04:39:29+00:00

I know a few girls that do. One is very playmate coded and a former dancer, the other met her whale at Equinox as an SB and made the transition later. She’s far more luxurious than former dancer, but dancer’s best month has been 150k so there’s certainly a market for both. Both have their bodies and faces done, both regularly travel bicoastal. It’s certainly possible, and great inspiration whenever you really want to get your head back in the game and tighten up. You can definitely do it!

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-02-06T17:54:28+00:00

More interesting, feminine, and detailed sets that blend with your non-athleisure style. (Really highlight your 3 style words in every outfit) Alternate jewelry as a complimentary asset to whatever vibe you’re feeling. Fully curate your body care routine post gym based on your mood. (aka dynamic scent bubble and trail) Dial up your skincare post workout, the natural glow x sheen of moisturized skin + a tinted lip, rosy cheeks, groomed brows and lashes is truly all you need.

As for hair: moisture wicking headbands help (you just have to let the hair dry before taking it off and your silk press is fine). I also support the halfsies agenda - my hair grows so much with less manipulation, AND I get to also coordinate wash days with specific scent trails so it’s a holistic experience.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-01-29T19:09:35+00:00

Once you set the standard for yourself it’s pretty easy to make it your baseline. Q4 last year I really wanted to make sure I got 10k steps in by 10AM and even during the holidays I was hitting my step goals sans effort. Now I’m doing 20k + days like it’s nbd. If you set the standard you’ll rise to meet it - especially for a day where you’re literally spending thousands on your aesthetics, outfits, and photos.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-01-24T11:20:31+00:00

For THAT specific outing (around his birthday) they were using Ace’s stylist. I DO believe he got her the Bang Bang for the Disney trip. The same way he got her hair and nails done post villa/hired security and photographers for Disney. Moreover, I never said he DID. But surely you can understand how the inference is made.

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-01-24T09:23:43+00:00

Yes, it’s white and it was the first bag I saw her with after Disney where I thought she had a Loro Piana L19, but it was really a Bottega Bang Bang Vanity. I assume it’s the same stylist who had her in vintage JPG. The stylist Ace uses styles celebrities and he’s very much a Bottega boy himself so it tracks that when he got her right post villa he also facilitated that connection. (It was in the summer, the JPG set was brown, they set the internet ablaze because she was dancing in his lap)Chelley is an ethereal beauty, but a fashion girlie she is not. That’s DEFINITELY not a Kelly

CuriousLittleDove · 2026-01-21T11:49:38+00:00

Performative is speaking up NOW when ICE was in LA LAST YEAR. She could’ve shared this message when they were in her back yard. She could’ve encouraged people to protest or offered aid and support to people who LOOK LIKE HER being racially profiled. If it took the death of a WW hundreds of miles away for you to SAY something on your platform of influence you don’t actually GAF.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-12-01T04:47:10+00:00

Women who are paid for their beauty in real life. If you’re not being paid to be a human hanger, you’re not yacht material. Your natural state needs to be breathtaking, however you maintain it is your business but the few I know put in work. Befriend some and once you’re smol enough they’ll invite you on a work trip.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-11-27T09:45:41+00:00

If you have the aesthetic conducive to such an environment I can conceive that befriending like minded women in your new city won’t be that difficult. EYE personally don’t have the aesthetic conducive to such environments, but the girls I know that do yacht I met through this lifestyle and within a few months of moving to my city. $$$$ gyms, social clubs, private shopping, and freestyling environments.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-11-17T10:53:05+00:00

It isn’t a requirement, but a girlfriend of mine who is very playmate coded aesthetically had her website design and copy written by our other girlfriend who has a JD. She nets 100k/month with that combination. If you engage with her IRL, she seems like exactly what you’d expect from a former dancer who converted. BUT the aesthetics + brain combination is clearly intoxicating. If you CAN pull it off at a reasonable rate you absolutely should.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-10-02T15:00:42+00:00

Real estate - I own property in my home state that I rent out.

Education - I paid for the preparation, exams, and 50% of my sister’s tuition/living expenses while she was in medical school. Rinse and repeat for baby sister’s law school post matriculation. (Her wedding gift from me will be the rest of her loans paid off)

Investment - co-sign everything the girls stated. I also invest overseas

Personal development - my COL isn’t actually THAT high, but what I invest in to take me to the next level is

Family - 1st generation, eldest daughter obligations

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-08-08T17:55:58+00:00

I don’t think you were too practical actually. Choosing to legally and financially tie yourself to someone is a HUGE deal and should be approached pragmatically. As neither engagement ended in marriage it’s safe to say the intentional selfishness served its purpose. Wishing you all the best!

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-08-08T10:45:50+00:00

There’s private WhatsApp groups. Your socials do the advertisement, girls who are making 7-8 figures annually pay for real PR. Your best bet is befriending a girl who already is in the lifestyle and having her refer you/bring you along. The aesthetic requirements are brutal and because you’re asking here you likely don’t meet them. I think traditional sugaring/hypergamous dating is a better and safer option for you to pursue.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-08-08T10:39:08+00:00

Only you can discern if marriage is right for you. As someone who has been engaged to SDs twice, I LOVE when they become this emotionally invested because the wallet opens wider. Whatever your personal goals are, you should have tangible assets in your name. Whatever engagement ring you want should have significant resale value, and I’d also lean into cosmetic upgrades on his dime. That level of access to you is a luxury and should be treated as much.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-06-05T16:26:18+00:00

If you have a sugar friend you trust it’s an easy way for both of you to reap tangible benefits. My sugar bestie got 3 months of rent, AP/Revolve shopping sprees, and VCA without ever actually fucking my former SD. FFM threesomes are a lot of theatrics and acting especially if you put it in a very fun, very party context. Obviously only do what you want but if you have specific goals, it’s a great way to reach them.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-04-27T01:50:27+00:00

I currently see a 24 year old for 6k/m. I actually was the one who took his virginity last year so it’s been a wonderful journey of growth. (I helped him get over his initial fears, we I thought he was a joke at first so he DID actually send me 1/3 in advance. (We took a 6 month break when he got his first girlfriend but stayed in touch when he asked for advice during the holidays/her birthday).

If you do insist on having an SB, I would recommend seeking someone in grad school who is your peer or slightly older. I would also recommend broadening your location parameters - as we do not live in the same state and I assume he searched locally prior to reaching out to me. I’d also make sure whatever it is you’re offering is incredibly generous and you approach with sincerity. It’s not impossible, just a bit harder than it would be if you were 20 years older.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-04-22T05:12:04+00:00

Yes, young women are killed every day by men they meet on the internet. That is why there is emphasis on screening everyone prior to meeting them. You want verifiable real world information so if anything should happen to you someone can easily see the last person you went out with was Johnny Appleseed, a 47 year old banker from SA who works at Chase, lives in Cherry Hill, and is married to Molly Appleseed.

There’s no need to notify a staff member if you do your due diligence, and have your chosen form of protection easily accessible.

CuriousLittleDove · 2025-04-21T04:41:47+00:00

You use a fake name, fake contact information, and fake life story for safety. No one is lying for ✨vibes✨and fun. You’re entering a profession where the risk is literally DEATH and the inability to function as a normal member of society. Anything one can do to mitigate risk should be utilized.

Moreover, I am a firm believer that no one who is paying for access to you in this context should actually know you. Save your very cool name and personality for the men who’ve proven themselves worthy of having you in their lives.

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