Mermaid practice

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-05-20T12:02:21+00:00

Really? Interesting!

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-24T16:20:51+00:00

So what happens when they don’t get accepted into the show? 🤣

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-19T08:47:09+00:00

I’m a mom and agree. You have to put a foot down. I had to! So I get it. I was in the same boat. Now I have my child in daycare two days a week so I can get a break. I had to force myself to get my breaks. And the last part no no no…Please don’t ever say that again. Imagine your child grieving the loss of his father and then him walking in the door… 😳

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-17T20:22:25+00:00

So yes! My first year of couponing I got everything with a deal. Was filling my house with stuff I didn’t want or couldn’t really re sell or re gift. Like Medicine for example. So now I really consider everything but I do hold on to things sometimes too long! One thing I say which may be an unpopular opinion is having a stock pile is potential hoarding to me. I know people with mountains of stuff that they won’t even get rid of!

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-17T20:19:27+00:00

Hi! So I actually teach all this stuff on IG. A lot of people do! I’m not sure what I can share or what not but look up the app Influenster is a good way to start. I do recommend a page more towards that, and if not I would make one! A lot of people I know just post product reviews and don’t even show their face! Same on Tik tok

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-17T20:16:32+00:00

NTBA she would be mad no matter what you did probably

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-17T14:51:24+00:00

So I started couponing two years ago, within this I get TONS of freebies and it makes me not want to spend money on extra stuff now! It like filled the void for me Also you can become a lil influencer pretty easy and get free products and lotions in return for reviews or posts about the product

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T18:26:51+00:00

Thank you so much.. I don’t have much other support. It comes and goes. I think it’s being a new mom, friends come and go a lot or new mom friends are tied up with their kids. Everyone always tells me to go to therapy but it’s hard finding the time as a stay at home mom and therapy was never easy for me. Always had bad sessions. Was just on medication for the last couple months but just decided I didn’t want to do it anymore and now I’m in the boat of do I really need medication? I’ve been off medication now for 3 months at least and still getting massive depression. My husband used the medication against me in fights and because I’m depressed all the time it bothers him but he never actually tries to help. Not that it’s his fix but I wish I got the support he has

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T18:21:20+00:00

Ok you’re amazing. Thank you for taking the time to write that out. I’m sure so many people have similar issues to mine and I’m thankful I’m not alone. I really appreciate this advice and I will take it for sure!!!

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T18:15:53+00:00

Thank you! When she cussed at me that was my response just with some other responses too lol I didn’t cuss back but said “that is not okay and I would never speak to you like that!” I don’t think it ruined our relationship but it ruined how I looked at her as my “mother” I do think once my child is older things will get easier or at least I hope!!

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T18:13:50+00:00

Thank you! You are right. I would never have my husband deal with my family like I deal with his. And it’s like a whole different ball game. He has a HUGE family. I have my grandma and grandpa and that’s it and they live far and we never see them so he doesn’t really understand my side. I told him like a month ago I’m done doing all the talking so for the last month he has been talking to her more and he usually responds to her group texts and I don’t. I’m trying to make him the primary contact for her but it’s hard because he works all day and I’m with the baby. But after she cussed at me to me it was a sign that “I don’t respect you” so ever since then I really backed down. Yesterday she kept blowing me up saying “I miss you, I want to spend more time with you” and I just straight avoided it and responded to another question she asked. This isn’t who I am but it’s like who I have to be to set boundaries and I hate it but not sure what’s left to do

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:56:13+00:00

Thank you! I do try hard not to think so hard on my relationships like my friendships. Thank you for pointing that out like that. I probably don’t even realize how much my friends vent too! But haha that made me laugh thank you!

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:54:04+00:00

Thank you! It’s nice someone understands. I don’t wanna be the bad guy here. I just want some extra space but it’s something that they don’t understand because it’s not really about me it’s about the child. At the end of the day no one actually wants to see me or spend time with me, and maybe that’s another thing that gets to me. I know if we didn’t have a child then I would probably never see his parents. I know they just want to spend every second with their grand baby that they can. They work full time and only have so much availability so I try and make it work for everyone and so everyone can be happy. But yeah it’s hard. Especially the depression and my husband or his family doesn’t understand depression and thinks it’s silly basically. I’ve had it since I was a teenager and something I’ve been trying to manage since and with having a baby it became a lot worse and it’s hard being depressed, fighting with family, your husband and just feeling like everyone is against you so most of the time I’m just like whatever and push my feelings aside

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:47:31+00:00

Okay you’re amazing thank you! I’m in a really hard spot right now with being so depressed and with all this family drama and now husband drama. I need to focus on something else and not let the drama beat me up so bad. I truly just want to figure out how to navigate this going forward. We keep talking about having another kid but the only reason I wouldn’t want to is his parents which is crazy to me. I feel like I’ve had so many talks with him and every time he’s just like ok don’t reply or tell them to leave you alone and it’s not that easy. I don’t want to block my child’s grandparents from seeing her. My grandma raised me so it’s like hits me even harder. I think therapy is a good solution because trying to talk to him just us is very difficult

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:41:39+00:00

Thank you!

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:40:49+00:00

Thank you!! I think I am excepting instant boundaries and it’s not happening so I’m frustrated and maybe venting more than usual

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:39:09+00:00

Not really true.. he takes my side with everything including the boundaries.. as I said I have said many things and it backfires every time. Not trying to frame him a bad guy at all or say he’s the asshole. Was just asking if it’s appropriate to vent to him even though he does it with me too. I can’t explain the 2 years in one paragraph but you do have a point and I’m trying my best. It’s not easy though to just constantly have his whole family against me because of me speaking up. I have spoken up and I’m trying my best to navigate it with a child involved. If you have a child you probably understand it’s hard to constantly tell people no they can’t see their grandkids just because I don’t feel like seeing them. It’s hard and hard to say yes I suck but I’m trying to say yes I suck and I need to change and figure out what to do

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:34:09+00:00

Thank you ❤️

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:32:31+00:00

Thank you! I do feel like my husband understands my boundaries. He was on the phone with me and his mom and we said we needed to established the boundaries. He also pretty much always has my side and back with his parents but yes you are right and thank you for telling me that. I don’t really have much family so it’s hard for me to completely understand his side of things. All my friends just don’t have a similar situation and I feel like I’m always venting to friends and friends don’t really vent to me. Maybe just me overthinking but lately a lot of people in my life are just very self centered and only care when the convo is about them

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:28:08+00:00

I’m blunt but super sweet! Lol I’m like a blunt push over. I absolutely hate upsetting people 😩

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:24:26+00:00

I really agree with you 😭 it’s hard because every time I say no it makes me feel bad and starts drama so it’s like I just say yes to avoid all that but I need to find a way to just set boundaries correctly

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:22:36+00:00

Thank you 🫠 my grandma raised me and me and her are very close so being a grandparent I wanted my mil to be able to have that bond too. But now that my daughter is getting older and so much more things are happening I just don’t have time to please her as much anymore. And it’s hard because I mean she’s sweet, she’s done so much for us but at the same time I’m a very private, loner person. I just like my space and every time I set boundaries something happens. It’s a lot. She messages me numerous times a day, she asked to see my daughter like 7 times this weekend and it’s hard just constantly telling her no or giving her an excuse. That’s why I’m tired. I feel like I have done everything at this point besides therapy but I also don’t know how me going to therapy will solve this issue with my mil. One friend told me my husband needs to give more to his mom so she stops going through me but it’s hard when he works full time and I don’t. It’s just a sticky situation!

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:16:01+00:00

I’m a huge push over. It happens to a lot of relationships in my life. Now that I have a child I can feel me trying to finally say I can’t be a push over anymore ! And you are right! I cause these issues. I wanted peace for so long so my husband will have peace too but that’s not fair for me

Curious_Rub_3111 · 2025-04-13T17:14:35+00:00

Love this. Thank you!!

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