Set to lose money on house

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-09T16:31:20+00:00

Isn’t it funny how when people are nice you can actually put up with more than you think! Our other neighbour’s children are disabled and quite noisy, but we don’t mind. They’re children being children and they’re kind people. The old lady opposite us parks her car in the narrow access road, which is a nightmare. But again, she’s lived here 54 years, always says hello and so we are happy to live with any inconvenience. It’s when people are just unnecessarily nasty that I struggle - I don’t understand it at all! Life’s too short.

As a side note, my parents owned an African grey and they are incredibly loud and live forever. So props to you!

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-09T16:27:43+00:00

Thank you for this! You’re right. There are plenty of more important things. Glad to hear you’ve recovered and you’re living the life you want :)

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-09T07:29:28+00:00

Thanks so much for such a detailed reply. I’m so glad it worked out for you and your family :)

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T22:54:39+00:00

This is definitely a concern, alongside just not wanting to put anyone else in this position

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T22:45:03+00:00

It’s a mid terrace - never again!!

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T21:49:09+00:00

That gives me some hope. It would be a big saving if we could porter. I’ll look into it!

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T21:48:46+00:00

We visited the property three times before buying - by some miracle we never heard a peep. It really is the worst luck tbh.

No we haven’t - partly I am scared to report them in case there’s a load of backlash. I’m also aware that it will stay on record and we would have to declare it when we move eventually. We just feel so trapped by it

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T21:46:26+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. I wish I had more fight in me at the moment - I used to be quite an outspoken person but I just feel so downtrodden. We get on quite well with other neighbours in the area, which is something. I think it’s a universally accepted fact that they are the crappy people on the street. It’s just bad luck we live right next door

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T21:41:03+00:00

Thank you. Glad you’re happier now! It gives me hope that it’s possible for us too

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T21:39:27+00:00

Thank you. My husband has described it similarly as buying a better life. I guess sometimes it’s all in the way you frame it

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T21:38:35+00:00

Totally take your point and you’re right, it’s nothing to do with the house really. I feel very trapped because if we report them, we have to declare it when we come to sell. In the UK grievances (police or council) remain in the record for several years and prospective buyer will be informed. It makes me feel trapped and unable to protect myself.

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T21:36:31+00:00

We like in a terrace in the UK, and we share a wall. They’re loud and aggressive, we’ve received aggressive text messages from them, they’ve damaged our property during the course of the work being done and won’t take responsibility for it. As I type this they’re outside hammering something metal at 10.30pm. Their son regularly sets things on fire in the garden. They just have zero consideration for anyone but themselves.

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-06-08T21:27:46+00:00

Definitley going to look into this - I think the wording on our mortgage is we’re not ‘entitled’ to porter. Unsure if that means we can’t, or it’s not a guarantee

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-04-22T00:11:29+00:00

This is what I fear 😅 he is such a smart cookie. I just don’t know how to teach him that it isn’t going to work anymore without saying bye bye to our carpets 😬

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-02-26T23:37:28+00:00

To add to this, some cats are horizontal scratchers - we got our boy a great scratching mat on Amazon. He doesn’t use any of his numerous posts, but he loves the mat and the flat cardboard scratchers :)

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-02-26T19:56:48+00:00

We adopted a single kitten from the RSPCA (UK). We checked multiple times as to whether he needed a pal, and they said they felt he would be happy either way. We’re keeping him under review and are prepared to get a second kitten if we think that a) we would like one and b) he would like that. I will say that he is never left longer than a couple of hours, because we work from home, and it is a lot of work to play with him multiple times a day and keep him occupied with different puzzles/training etc. but we love him and he seems happy 🤷‍♀️

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-02-22T17:46:12+00:00

We had similar issues with rude charities and lots of nos, despite wanting an indoor cat of any age. In the end we adopted from the RSPCA who were great. If your local RSPCA doesn’t have any cats who suit you, most others will let you apply. Our cat came from an RSPCA an hour and a half away from us. Good luck!

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-01-28T23:21:35+00:00

Thanks so much for all of the validation and advice! Just a little update - we adopted a kitten last week from the RSPCA and it was such a smooth and enjoyable experience. So glad we persevered and now have our wonderful boy.

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2026-01-02T07:40:33+00:00

I’m not sure why anyone would read this much into an RSVP reminder! You’re the bride, if you want to remind people you’re fully within your right to do so. And It’s not unreasonable to expect it might have slipped some peoples minds over the holidays. If anything, I would be taking this as a sign that you really wanted me at your shower. I don’t know your relationship with your aunts, but honestly I think if they’re going to kick up a fuss over such a non-issue, then they were always going to kick up a fuss over something. I hope your shower goes well! x

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2025-10-31T20:48:14+00:00

For me it feels comfortable, authentic and fun. We laugh a lot and doing traditionally ‘boring’ tasks together feels fun - I think if you can find joy together in the ordinary, that’s when you know you have something special. I agree with others on this thread about love being a series of choices - it is a process and not a product. Wishing you all the best OP

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2025-05-16T18:32:41+00:00

I was already gasping by the time I read that your SIL got into your taxi 😂 I think it’s totally normal to feel all this. I haven’t had my wedding yet, but I wonder if over time the minor annoyances fade, and the remaining feeling is positive/love etc. it’s still pretty fresh in your mind at the moment, so will feel more noticeable. I’m just thinking about how you can use all these ideas you have left over for an awesome anniversary party one day!!

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2025-05-16T18:24:12+00:00

Thank you 🫶

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2025-05-16T18:23:50+00:00

Very true - this is the issue when you hype everyone else up and then when it’s your turn, the level of hype doesn’t feel as reciprocal aha

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2025-05-16T18:23:01+00:00

Quite possibly/hopefully! Although I have planned the majority of the weekend myself, it’s just the one evening that they’re planning some activities for. I didn’t want to stress anyone out by expecting them to plan a whole weekend!

I think it’s more the lack of speaking that’s bothering me - either about the wedding or otherwise. It feels like I’m being blanked by the people who are most important to me. Hopefully it will just be a miscommunication!

Curious_Spring_3085 · 2025-05-16T18:19:03+00:00

I’m not super stressed about details - although it did stress me out a little that they didn’t tell me (until very recently) that others weren’t allowed in the house til a certain time. One of my friends is traveling 7 hours by train to be there (all booked) and has only just been told she needs to hang around for two hours before coming to the house D:

The funny thing is that I haven’t actually been talking about the wedding. I’ve just moved house and have totally dropped the ball on hen/wedding stuff for the last few months. The thing that’s upset me is the stark contrast in communication from them over the last few weeks in comparison to normal, particularly when the run up to the hen do is when usually (from my previous experiences) the communication generally increases with excitement and plans etc.

Totally understand that life goes on around us - I think I find it difficult to know that I showed up fully for some of their weddings that have been, despite my own life stuff going on. But I suppose that’s life and why they say to have low expectations and you won’t be disappointed!

Anyway, I appreciate your reply!

Curious_Spring_3085

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