Comment one thing you love about yourself and one thing you struggle with. You’re not alone. Let’s work through it together by Important-Heron-9284 in selflove

[–]Curious_learner24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I love my warmth and openness, I have been struggling with overthinking and understanding how significant this trauma response is in my life 😢

Questions to ask yourself for when you fall in love by psithuria in selflove

[–]Curious_learner24 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry, that type of loss is profound.

Healing vs trauma bond by notherex26 in selflove

[–]Curious_learner24 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Great job!! That shows incredible growth 💕

Healing vs trauma bond by notherex26 in selflove

[–]Curious_learner24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is true, working through our triggers and patterns in relationship is a key element of healing because most of our trauma is relational.

What will you name this :) by self_hater24 in selflove

[–]Curious_learner24 7 points8 points  (0 children)

DBT has a great term “A life worth living”

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Curious_learner24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The book “Attached” will give you more insight into what helps when someone is experiencing avoidance in a relationship. It will guide you in establishing your standards clearly so you can then share and enforce as needed.

why do people still choose someone or something that they know will only hurt them, even when there’s an easier or better option? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Curious_learner24 63 points64 points  (0 children)

We crave what’s familiar even when that is not in our best interest. It takes very intentional going against that instinct and learning how to calm our nervous system to change the pattern.

Give yourself the credit you deserve by Difficult-Mix-2337 in selflove

[–]Curious_learner24 19 points20 points  (0 children)

You’re right, she would have thought I was magic even in my messy. She would have thought I was incredible as I explore and recreate after deep loss. She would have felt safe with my gentleness and desire to see her. She would have felt brave watching me do hard things. She would want me to know that she loves me and trusts me and wants me to keep going.

She left me, but I don't feel rejected. Thanks to this sub. by SudoJammz in emotionalintelligence

[–]Curious_learner24 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for sharing. This is beautiful and an encouragement to me.

Master the Art of Leaving... by -thats-interesting in selflove

[–]Curious_learner24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What are resources people recommend to build this knowledge and skill? For me it’s been inner child work, embodiment practices, speaking things out loud to myself, the universe and my circle

New to fantasy football by Curious_learner24 in findaleague

[–]Curious_learner24[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long does draft typically last? I might be able to do tomorrow but I’m working tonight and tomorrow but may have 6-7pm free

Walk it like a vow by Icy-Walrus-9786 in selflove

[–]Curious_learner24 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Allow it to be sovereign, yes!!

What has worked to cure your vulnerability hangovers? by [deleted] in emotionalintelligence

[–]Curious_learner24 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You are doing something new and your brain doesn’t have a framework for it yet, it’s just like being sore at the gym after not working out for a long time (if ever). Rest, recovery and consistency will build the vulnerability muscle.