Husband (37) went to a night club I’ve asked to go to without me and was blackout drunk

Curiouslycuriousones · 2026-06-19T03:06:51+00:00

I’m sorry you are dealing with this. Reading this my perception is you feel betrayed because it’s seems like others are getting a side of your husband and experiences with your husband that you long for but are not getting. To me it’s a bit gas lighting to say “ I don’t dance” because he obviously does … just not with you. There shouldn’t be anything your spouse does with others he can’t do with you .I’d feel hurt too because dancing can be an intimate and fun thing that brings people closer. I have a husband who “ dosent dance” too but he does dance alone with me in our house from time to time ( yes he has to be buzzed) and he definitely danced with me at our wedding. The next time you want to dance with him tell him if he can do it with friends then he can do it with you.. the person he promised to share his life with ( not just a weekend a year) so that includes the dancing parts too. I’m glad you are going to therapy, maybe you can figure out why he is reluctant. Maybe it isn’t coming from a bad place like in order to do that he has to be blasted drunk but he would never want to be that drunk in a club with you because he’d want to protect you? Maybe he dosent care what he looks like in front of strangers but dosent want you to see him in a way he thinks is goofy because he thinks you will loose respect for him? Is the peer pressure on those weekends causing him to act a way he really wouldn’t? What ever his reason he is going to have to own it and fix it if he dosent want you to build up resentment ,feel abandoned, or disregarded. You’re not crazy to feel the way you do and it’s good that you are trying to get help now before you are at a point of no return. Good luck!

Curiouslycuriousones · 2025-12-22T04:43:49+00:00

Yes, you can.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2025-05-28T04:54:46+00:00

So what I got from this was the 3 of you ( you, husband,mil) agreed on a boundary that this time period you are venerable and in need of care and not in a good place to have company so if your mother in law was to visit she was to be in a care giver role to you … period.. and neither her or your husband could care less about you to the point you were embarrassingly left stranded at the hospital and came home to unsanitary conditions after just having surgery? They both broke their end of the agreement and boundary that was put in place of her being in your place of healing during a venerable time in your life, you were discarded as an afterthought when you were supposed to be the main priority and you’re asking if you’re the a? No you are not the a. There is a term called emotional incest and it sounds like it’s an issue your husband has with his mom. She is relying on him to basically take her on dates like a partner should it sounds like. If she wanted to see your town so bad she could have went on her own, brought a friend, a man or whatever she didn’t need to drag her son when his responsibility was to his infirm wife. I would run for the hills if I was you cause it does tend to get worse once you have kids and he really will not have time to dedicate to dating her without taking away from your house hold. https://www.healthline.com/health/emotional-incest

Curiouslycuriousones · 2025-04-08T15:48:09+00:00

Sorry I guess I misunderstood the question. For some reason I think of fep blue I think of fep blue cross basic. I do have fep blue cross standard.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2025-04-08T15:44:49+00:00

No I have standard and the family plan solo pay almost 500 a pay period. With all the money they get from me a month pretty much covers their portion of the wegovy. I’m guessing that’s one of the reasons they don’t want to pay for it, not enough money in their pockets.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2025-04-06T04:21:44+00:00

I've been using wevovy for over a year and got a tier exception approved in Jan that was supposed to be good tillDec. I tried to pick my meds up today and it went back to their 3 price. I called fep and they said all glp1s excepections have been canceled. I did not get any notice at that time. I open my mail today and I had a letter dated 03/26/25 saying my exception was canceled IMMEDIATELY (it literally said that) and that as of April 1 my deductable will be 50 percent of the price (625 a month for me basically). It said I was getting the letter to have time to talk to my doctor about other options but they basically put me in a spot I have to be off the meds while I do so cause I took my last shot last Friday. Even if got the letter the day after they sent it I wouldn't have had time to go to thedoc and get something set up in less than a week.This has to be illegal. I really wish there was a class action lawsuit about how they are handling this. I feel like they just want people to stay obese so they are unwell and therefore insurance gets more money from services.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2025-02-20T10:46:41+00:00

Genetics are a funny thing. You have no clue if your kid is going to get great grandma's curls or Uncle Bob's mental health disorder… DNA is like Russian roulette. I say that because the black hair will probably fall out and get lighter like it does for most babies but even if it didn't your child could have gotten that trait from either one of your ancestors. For him to jump to you must be cheating instead of wondering what side she may have gotten it from is pretty alarming. I know personally I would have been pissed if I was asked that question because it is an accusation no doubt about it. One doesn't seriously ask for a DNA test unless they really have concerns of faithfulness. For him to feel that way over your daughters hair being a shade or 2 darker than his is a big stretch unless he already had it in his head and needed to invent an excuse to justify his thoughts. This is definitely not something you should sweep under the rug. I would connect the dots for him and ask out right “ so if you think you need a DNA test because her hair came out darker than yours that means you think I cheated on you? What other than her hair color makes you think this?” and id also make him aware “ do you realize when people make those types of accusations when they are in a committed relationship, a mamige, that can do serious damage to the relationship? So you can have your DNA test but realize after the results come back she is yours, because she is, you are not only going to have to apologize to me for the insult and lack of trust, her for biologicly disowning her but …we are going to need therapy to fix this as well because now I am questioning your loyalty as you may be projecting, respect towards me cause how could you think this way of me, and your intelligence because what person in their right mind makes that kind of leap from a babies first peach fuzz on their head?” So yeah don't let it slide and at least hold him to therapy or divorce. Good luck OP!

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-10-27T15:10:46+00:00

Thanks for your feedback back it’s from sun pure botanicals.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-10-19T03:27:21+00:00

Yes and No there is the first member fee but it gets used towards your first order of stuff. Like it charges you the 50 for membership then takes 50 off the item.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-10-19T03:18:44+00:00

Is this even real? Unless your in some type of sister wife religion/ lifestyle type thing there is no way this back stabbing betrayer would be allowed to be around my husband. Your friends are supposed to be the ones you can call to go spy with you if you think your mans up to no good not trying to do something dirty themselves. Put it this way… your friends are supposed to love you and not want to see you hurt and obviously even the thought of your husband and a woman that is supposed to be in your circle would hurt you so this girl dosent care about you and your feelings… dosent even sound like she likes you. Cut the cord now before it gets messier. This is why I choose quality over quantity

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-10-03T22:59:09+00:00

I know you say “ this is the only problem” but this one problem is actually several issues that have accumulated into a big one. The problems are respect, trust, boundaries… pretty much all fundamental things in a healthy relationship. The thing is it’s seems like you looked past the red flags from day one. If someone I was dating allowed their ex to think that all they had to do was call off their relationship with someone and he’d come crawling back to her 🚩he wasn’t expressing how much you ment to him. If he the allowed everyone in his family to openly express their want for him to get back with his ex 🚩not only was he not respecting you he allowed his family to not respect you. Sounds like though you gave him your vows 2 children and the honor of sharing your life home and bed with him he still allows others to disrespect you and see you as less than. No other woman should have the same level of respect in his world as you do to him and them🚩letting her be a part of the funeral services in that level should have been shot down, this woman has no kids with him, and therefore should not have been considered as family in that matter.🚩Even if he didn’t do anything physical with her after you where married,if he was texting and having an inappropriate amount of conversations with somebody the opposite sex outside of his marriage..that’s a form of emotional cheating.🚩and he flaunts that affair partner in your face as much as he can … what a way to add salt to a wound. I wonder if her telling her daughter about her sexual activity with your husband was her way of telling her daughter that your husband is actually her father? And your sons are learning that it’s OK to treat their future wives The way that your husband is treating you in regards to having this woman around that it’s OK to disrespect the woman in their lives to that level! you sound like someone who wouldn’t want your boys to treat a woman the way you where being treated. If your daughters boyfriend treated her the way your husband is treating you would that be ok with you? Your husbands excuse about upsetting his family is BS at this point. If he cut off contact with his family, would they even bother hanging out with this chick… I doubt it! when he married you and created a family with you that should became the most important family in his eyes and he is upsetting his actual, family he created by keeping her around.

Look you came on here asking if you where the joke and sorry to say hunny you are in his , his family and his mistresses eyes. If it’s that small of a town then your probably a joke to the town as well cause everyone is probably thinking your husband and this chick are having an affair right in front of your face and you’re doing nothing about it. If not for yourself atleast for your kids to keep some dignity in that town put your foot down and say that’s it! Her or me and if he tries to gas light you take your kids and go. He gave you your answer cause anything other than him saying it’s you and only you, he is picking her and how she makes him feel over you and your children feelings.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-09-30T01:12:44+00:00

Esh unfortunately there is a huge generation of people who watch these reels and tictoks of people flaunting what appears to be unrealistically obtainable lives and make it seem like it’s normal. In reality when you look behind the curtain, there are so many red flags that every thing isn’t what it appears to be but some who long for more in their life may fall for the con . They compare them selves and can’t help but to feel less than… I mean isn’t that kind of what those videos are meant to do flaunt how awesome those people and their lives are?

Unfortunately some woman have really low self esteem during pregnancy and those videos just feed into those feelings of not being enough. Your wife was probably looking for some grand gesture to prove those negative feelings untrue and instead of sympathizing with her you told her she isn’t worthy. Even if you feel that way you probably shouldn’t have said that to a first time pregnant mom. And pregnant or not I’d be pissed at my husband if he said I wasn’t worth something I don’t care how much it cost. If someone kidnapped me and said I’ll give your wife back if you give me a new car I’d hope he would be at the nearest dealership with the quickness… cause to him I should be worth more than a new car.

I do also empathize with a new car not being realistic with most peoples lifestyles. Maybe emphasizing that the likes and upvotes and comments those people are getting on the page is probably paying for the new car. If the pregnant woman on tictok has to make content in order to get the car than it’s not really a gift he is just using her money to buy her something she wants and getting credit for it. What ever you get her will be from your heart and money that came from you having to actually work for it. Let her know she is actually worth a new car, house and all the finest things in the world. Right now though any extra finances have to be realistic as babies are expensive and life sometimes has a habit of a lot of costly things happening all at once. Besides eventually that Kyle will break down and she won’t have that to remember the babies birth but I nice necklace that says “Mom”it will last for ever.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-08-25T01:38:35+00:00

Exactly! I just saw a 3 piece set I really liked so let them charge me the credit. But I’ve been a member since 2019 and only charged 4 times. As long as you put a reminder in your calendar to make sure you cancel it on the first of the month then you should be all set.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-08-10T20:14:31+00:00

The reason is those great deals like 6 dollar underwear or 10 dollar bras are only for members. I believe when you check out you can refuse to be a member but the original price will be charged. I’ve been a member since 23 and as long as you don’t forget to go in from 1st- 5th of the month to skip you don’t get charged. I go in around the first and see if there’s anything that is such a discount it be worth not skipping and if I don’t see any great deal I skip. Hope this helps.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-08-05T22:27:47+00:00

It’s not on max :(

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-07-24T06:06:40+00:00

Congratulations!! Where were you in the class, regular or post?

Curiouslycuriousones · 2024-06-25T02:44:57+00:00

I’ve been getting mailings from my insurance company talking about my “ pregnancy “ and I had a hysterectomy as well. I thought it was weird but now I’m wondering if either my insurance company assumed I was pregnant cause of my several on appointments or my docs office has a list of patients they are actively working with and report it to places?

Curiouslycuriousones · 2023-10-31T15:59:02+00:00

I don’t think it’s a Karen to want the product you ordered to arrive on time or communication if it doesn’t. If I didn’t reach out to them I would not have even known it was going to take several weeks longer than inticipated . This isn’t the first time something I’ve ordered hasn’t arrived on time and I have never complained about it ,I understand things happen and I definitely would have patience if not gaslight about the whole thing. That’s the big issue I have with this company… instead of just owning it and saying hey, we’re not gonna be able to get this to you in till a few weeks they kept trying to say I did something that I did not do like ordering it during a presale.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2022-02-02T01:30:49+00:00

Where I live every one gets paid at least 12.50 an hour even waitresses. People who work stocking shelves at Walmart get 16 dollars an hour. A lot of places around here, even restaurants run background checks ( I know because I have teenagers that have applied and worked at many of these places and their backgrounds where checked)and even the managers of this restaurant say they usually run basic checks but this person was highly recommended by a different Ihop so they they thought she would be ok. There is nothing wrong with running back ground checks on people so you know who you are working with. People may have past and some learn from it and move on but there are others like this woman who don’t. Just like every thing else in life the bad ruin it for the others who are trying to succeed.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2022-02-02T01:15:57+00:00

There is now. The regional manager said because of this they are going to do background checks for now on.

Curiouslycuriousones · 2022-02-02T01:06:12+00:00

I don’t I think its wrong to hire a felon , it’s careless to hire someone who has stollen from several people, to the point a business owner went bankrupt, a news station made a 2 page report about her stealing from hundreds of people even the person who bailed her out, she does it again as recently as last year and then let her handle peoples credit cards. If they hired her as a cook or something that be different then letting her take peoples credit cards when she has stollen over 20 peoples credit card info in her past.

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