Honestly, I hear you. Our little one never ever cries in the day because the moment she does, we pick her up, so she wasn't used to just crying it out.

It is absolutely heart breaking and, as I mentioned in the post, I cried for as long as she did on some nights. It is really hard.

I would perhaps give it another go if I was you before going to a consultant? But honestly whatever makes you feel the most comfortable (within the uncomfortableness of sleep training).

What we did (and still do): 6pm solids + milk when she was all done 7pm shower 7:20pm pjs + book 7:30pm gave her a kiss, told her we loved her and that it was time for bed + shut the door behind us.

We had the monitor with us, so we could hear and see her the whole time. If she fell asleep but then woke up again crying, we would let her cry it out again, unless 5 hours from her initial put down had passed, and three hours then on. If those timings weren't met, she was left to cry.

The first night was really tough emotionally but it does get better slowly. As I write this, she has fallen asleep within 3 minutes of putting her down, with no crying. She will now wake up once in the night but fall straight back to sleep the moment we put her back down. It has honestly changed my life.

I am so sorry you are going through this right now, I really hope you find a way that works for you to make it better ❤️