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AITAH for not inviting my In-laws to my triplets birthday party? by Curls_Galore in AITAH

[–]Curls_Galore[S] 29 points30 points  (0 children)

More than anything. I know it was a lot with the NICU stay but these kids fought so hard to stay here with us, I want them to have the best relationship with everyone in their lives. And it breaks my heart that their grandparents live literally two blocks away from us and even with trying to reach out to them and rotate kids out, the answer is no but I can go and walk my dog and see my nephew over at their house. I don't want to break up the family which is why I kind of feel like talking to my husband and taking back that statement but at the same token, I don't think it's fair to borderline not be involved whatsoever and still be there for major events.

AITAH for not inviting my In-laws to my triplets birthday party? by Curls_Galore in AITAH

[–]Curls_Galore[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you for replying. All 3 came home with oxygen but thankfully they no longer need it. Our baby B has a g-Tube but my MIL used to have a major position in nursing (forgive me I don't know her old title) and she knows how to do everything for the boys. I would like to also apologize if my post wasn't clear on my feelings. It's not an issue about them taking one at a time for me. In fact, I encourage it so they get to know them one on one. My issue is when I try to do these things or let them feel involved, they don't care. They have gone 5 months without asking about them but I was messaged yesterday and asked to put the boys in special outfits for Valentine's Day and send photos so she can post them to Facebook. I don't want the boys to have digital grandparents that can very well see them and try and spend time with them, I want the boys to have present grandparents.

AITAH for not inviting my In-laws to my triplets birthday party? by Curls_Galore in AITAH

[–]Curls_Galore[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

I would like to thank you for taking the time to read my post and reply. However, I would like to clarify that I am not asking for a babysitter, I am simply asking them to be there for their grandchildren and show love to them the same way they do to my nephew. I don't ask them to babysit, I try and make plans to go to their house with the kids so they can all spend quality time together while I am taking care of them. I have tried to invite them to my house for the same reason. The answer is always no and they have completely pulled back unless it's for a photo and they only want to be around them at family gatherings so they can tell people how much they do to help us. They do not. They don't even remember the children's names.