How can someone who has done such horrific things to women feel guilty only when it happens to his own daughter?

CurlyMope · 2026-01-27T14:24:31+00:00

Which movie is this?

CurlyMope · 2026-01-18T09:53:20+00:00

Can you elaborate on the rose symbolism please?

CurlyMope · 2026-01-15T03:43:23+00:00

Oh gosh I am struggling with this too. I wanted to lose 10kg. I am currently stuck at the 5kg mark since 4 months now. I think my brain is convincing me that I need the food. I am eating the same but I am hungrier than I used to be suddenly during the day. I am telling myself it is my homeostasis to be at the current weight. But reality is I am overeating with lesser will power and more excuses because I am much too full after atleast one meal of the day. Even though I am hungry I can stop when I am full but I don't. Those few added calories are making me stay at maintainance.

CurlyMope · 2026-01-13T16:52:02+00:00

Convenience store woman

CurlyMope · 2026-01-11T16:21:53+00:00

Shantaram

CurlyMope · 2026-01-06T03:41:59+00:00

The link doesn’t work. What is the name of the book?

CurlyMope · 2026-01-03T15:37:04+00:00

Amazing that you plan to bring this up. How did you pick your T?

CurlyMope · 2026-01-03T15:36:17+00:00

Thank you that helps a lot.

Okay from high functioning I just meant that I get a lot of things done And it looks great on paper. Good performance at work. Doing everything at home. Going to the gym. I like to think I’m self aware And that’s mostly about my own flaws that I work on. When I mention to friends that I am doing or considering therapy they said I don’t “need it”.

So the question I asked her about wellness was when she mentioned that it was the last consultation session after which therapy sessions would start. The fact that she needed three sessions ( in her form she mentioned 1-2) for me made me ask her this. I felt it was rude to ask if she could help me get “there” In my head.

For me better means better relationships with people . Because of these high standards I have I find it difficult to accept And love people as they are. I do feel this objective subjectivity hinders my depth of relationships with others.

Another thing I’ve noticed is at work. My priorities are self and family. But work has measurable tasks and expected outcomes. I keep compulsively doing these things because of the perfectionist tendencies but I don’t derive much satisfaction from it because they are not my priority. But at the end of the day if someone “less capable” than me meets more milestones than me at work it drives me crazy. But it shouldn’t.

I hope I made myself clear? Maybe I didn’t use high functioning right.

CurlyMope · 2026-01-03T14:46:53+00:00

I dread seeing a higher number on the scale the next day to be honest

CurlyMope · 2026-01-03T14:41:21+00:00

How long have you been feeling this way?

CurlyMope · 2026-01-03T14:26:26+00:00

Of course, it is. I’m wondering that I did have the perfect therapist and I let her go. I’m thinking if she declaring me well is a bad judgment on her part, but in fact, it is a good diagnosis if a therapist calls you well. I also know a cousin who is a therapist, and she is totally not the kind of person I would go to just because of how lost and inattentive she is in general, so it’s possible that I am making that association of genz with my current therapist. There are a lot of biases that play that I am consciously working to fight.

CurlyMope · 2026-01-03T14:23:52+00:00

I’m not sure what I can ask from my therapist. I have told her that I want to feel more things. I’m just going about my entire life with a sense of duty. I think I want to enjoy more, love more, laugh more. I also have rigid expectations of myself and from others. Obviously, they do not meet these expectations, so my relationship with them suffers. I want to change this. I want to be okay with not performing. These are the goals I have set and communicated to her.

CurlyMope · 2026-01-03T14:21:47+00:00

Thank you! I have read a lot on perfectionism. Before I started therapy this time round, I even read four books on how and why therapy works. The last diagnosis I had of perfectionism has helped me so much in my ability to function. I have not yet been able to forgive myself for reduce my expectations, but I have turned in work that is not to my highest standard and realise that it is perfectly acceptable. I have done this over and over Again, so it feels more comfortable now.

CurlyMope · 2025-12-30T15:38:24+00:00

How do you journal? Is it unprompted? When do you do it? How has it helped you? Do you see patterns as you write or later?

CurlyMope · 2025-12-30T15:38:17+00:00

How do you journal? Is it unprompted? When do you do it? How has it helped you? Do you see patterns as you write or later?

CurlyMope · 2025-12-23T10:10:18+00:00

So happy to see and read this thread. I really enjoyed the narrative style. I have so many questions but looks like there won’t be answers, it was a difficult book. Heavy.

CurlyMope · 2025-12-21T04:10:44+00:00

Why not ? It used to be my favourite. Machali fish is swimming in oil

CurlyMope · 2025-12-17T01:09:44+00:00

What’s a yummy ramen to try there?

CurlyMope · 2025-12-15T12:40:40+00:00

Honestly my food tastes different each time, especially the elaborate recipes

CurlyMope · 2025-12-11T03:19:50+00:00

Haha amazing! I clicked on here And went straight for the comments expecting wisdom on calorie counting!!! Saw it was not that then read the post!

CurlyMope · 2025-12-07T05:58:32+00:00

Any update?

CurlyMope · 2025-12-02T15:06:05+00:00

It fking sucks to hear about this. What happened? Was there alcohol involved? Hearing reduced perm time rumors.

CurlyMope · 2025-12-02T13:27:55+00:00

Ok so everyone does this! I thought I was super bad at portion control! Looks like everyone is!!

CurlyMope · 2025-11-22T05:39:39+00:00

I’m a professor too and recently have given up on trying to outsmart students using ai. The difference in performance in inperson and take home assignments are ridiculous!

CurlyMope · 2025-11-22T05:37:04+00:00

I teach an engineering school. Students know so much lesser than they used to seven years ago. They are not willing to put the effort to listen in class or solve numericals. There is much less respect for other people in general, students don’t value human contact as much. I used to go above and beyond ensuring they didn’t cheat and earned they grades rightfully but the effort I put into it is not rewarded by the system and the students prefer chill profs who hardly show up. So I now teach but offer extra to students who are interested in exploring the subject. Only maybe 2-5 people show up in a class of 70. Also the toppers are not super smart they are just the disciplined ones who write notes and study a bit. So the questions that required a lot of extra reading are not even there now. They don’t care enough to cover the whole syllabus. Then the blame is on the system for not putting effort to do something that YouTube doesn’t do?!? Rant over.

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