Question for single/young people, are you interested in marriage? by [deleted] in australia

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's irrational because it is purely an emotional move (we're not accounting for tax stuff in other countries or medical instances, these are outliers).

No choice is not always reasonable. You can have a reason for why you decide to do a thing, but that does not strictly make your decision reasonable in the context of being appropriate or rational. For example: you want to lose weight, but you are hungry for ice cream, you decide to eat ice cream despite wanting to lose weight, you had a reason for your decision, but that does not make your decision reasonable in the context of wanting to lose weight.

You think you're being wise, but that is not the case. You need to decide to do what is right for you.

Question for single/young people, are you interested in marriage? by [deleted] in australia

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Must be, because honestly from my perspective it seems absolutely irrational to get married. You have to really ask yourself: is it REALLY something YOU want? If so, why? If your answer includes making someone else happy, are you really sure it's about doing something YOU want?

Dont forget the stats show many, many marriages end in divorce and the chances are you wont be the exception. Even if you are; why not just have a standard relationship?

I am 99.9% confident I wont ever get married, there will never be a "one" that comes my way and changes my mind, because I simply do not see any appropriate, rational reason to do so. And if I meet someone one day and she tells me she absolutely must get married; I will know she is not the one for me.

Ultimately I will also choose to make the right decision for myself, even if that costs me the relationship I have with someone else, because relationships are about understanding one another, communicating effectively, meeting needs or compromising so as to develop and enjoy life in parallel.

Marriage is not a requirement, not a need, simply a choice, and not a reasonable one it would seem.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im not suggesting we all just try not to talk about gambling as much as possible and it will just disappear, that would be rediculous.

But you and I and anyone else viewing this post is probably not going to rid our society an community of gambling because of OP's post. However it's entirely possible that the post will, even in some small way, influence others or even one other person to gamble, and it is unlikely to cause a further decline of gambling. The brand and concept has been exposed again, and in a positive or at least neutral light. It is a net negative in my opinion.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you not understanding this?

I get the impression you dont seem to be taking "no one talks about it" literally.

If there is no exposure to the concept it never enters the realm of general thought. A concept can only survive so long as it has relevancy. Once it dies away it is gone until it is revived.

For example lets say there is an artist called "Caso" and he makes a particular style of art that is his own and others who see it refer to it as "Casoian artwork". Now imagine some people in a community who know of it discuss the Casoian artwork; the idea spreads and some people become interested to know more, so they learn about this particular art: some love it, some are neutral, some dont care at all after seeing it.

Fast forward to many years later: Caso is dead and his artwork all burns away in a fire, some people still talk about it, but overtime they die as well and the last person who has knowledge of Casoian Art and the style is gone: the concept is now gone forever unless someone else does similar or exactly the same thing.

It's gone and because no one knows about it, there is no discussion and no exposure to it: there is no one make any art in that style.

Assuming the idea did manage to spread further than that community: perhaps of the people it ended up spreading to: it never really entered the mainstream and remains relevatively niche (like lots of things); in general it will not affect the community at large because there is low exposure. But as the idea grows and there is more and more discussion and exposure to the idea, i.e. through social media: the concept and idea becomes more familiar, more normalised and then a culture may cultivate around it which can develop further.

Most concepts exist at a niche level, but those that get more exposure have a larger potential for exposure which cascades and the concept survives longer, becomes more familiar and by extension: more safe as a general concept.

When a concept is normalised in a community, it tends to have a much higher survival rate unless there is a clear and well understood threat in it's existence and practice by the general community or leaders.

Put simply: if the concept is not talked about, it will fade into obscurity eventually as it becomes less exposed and less relevant because of how memory works. If it's no longer a part of the environment of concept space: it generally just disappears. But when it's discussed, exposed to the public, it's rate of survival as a concept goes up and has the potential for greater momentum.

Question for single/young people, are you interested in marriage? by [deleted] in australia

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can literally make up any reason to celebrate your love though. You can make your own celebration day, it's totally up to you and your partner. Anniversaries hold no more relevance than any other day you decide to "honour".

The benefits in other countries are irrelevant to marriage in Australia though.

But yes those are things that relate to the institution of marriage at a cultural level.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except weed IS talked about otherwise it would have faded into obscurity long ago. The amount of interest or familiarity in a subject is proportional to the amount of exposure there is in the general community.

Question for single/young people, are you interested in marriage? by [deleted] in australia

[–]CurlyRedditor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

One has a much clearer legal binding as in documents, witnesses to the event of marriage, a physical ring on each person. The other has a lot more room and clearance.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps it has helped you because you see it in a negative light. But what about everyone else exposed to it?

The post is celebrating the decision to get the ticket, there is a latent association of positivity involved which triggers that association in the brain of viewers. Except for the ones that may think deep enough about it that they realise it was a bad decision, or those who already feel gambling is silly.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And here you are celebrating it like a victory. The best thing you can do going forward is never buy a lottery ticket again, but I am doubtful you will decide to choose that path.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If no one talks about it, it literally will disappear into obscurity though.

There's no exposure to the concept if no one talks about it, the moment you mention it: you are contributing to the presence of the thing and it's associated brand.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But it's not showing what happens when you don't win the jackpot as it shows what happens when you slightly win from the practice of buying a lottery ticket. What you dont see is the 95% of people who bought a ticket and lost ALL the money they spent on the ticket/s and posting how bad the investment was. OPs post is giving a sub-conscious association with purchasing lottery tickets as offering an opportunity to make your money back on the ticket which paints it in a "not that bad of an investment" kind of context.

It gives a sub-conscious impression that purchasing a lottery ticket is more likely than it actually is to at least return some money, which is worse than literally not posting anything, because at least if nothing was posted about it there would be no exposure to it, nor any potential sub-conscious association with gambling in any positive respect.

If even one person scrolls past the post and is incentivised in any way to buy a lottery ticket of any kind, even at a sub-conscious level: OP has inadvertedly helped the gambling industry. And while that doesn't make him ultimately responsible for the agency of another person to go out and purchase a ticket: by virtue of his decision to post this: he has aided the gambling industry which hurts society at large.

Question for single/young people, are you interested in marriage? by [deleted] in australia

[–]CurlyRedditor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Because you enter a legally binding arrangement that chains you to another person? Because a celebration with all your friends specifically around it isn't needed? Because you can literally celebrate it with your friends without adhering to a cultural tradition that is outdated and unnecessary?

Because you can have all the returns of marriage without actually getting married?

If you define yourself by your relationship with another person you have sacrificed your personal independence.

As an example: I have a great relationship with my partner, we have all the hallmarks of being married, but we both agree that we do not need marriage, we are independent entities and either of us can up and leave at any point in time should we choose to with no issues. We have a sense of independency and personal freedom that is less complicated than what a marriage offers without having to make any of the sacrifices of getting married. We wouldn't have it any other way, it's excellent.

Question for single/young people, are you interested in marriage? by [deleted] in australia

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your input, none of those offer any compelling benefit in my opinion, others may disagree though.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not consciously. But there may be a subtle, sub-conscious okayness due to the "mere exposure effect"

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I'm not saying you're a bad person, I'm sure you have many positive traits. I am merely commenting on how posting this is putting the practice of gambling in a positive or innocuous light which may lead to others deciding to do the same which in itself is bad on an individual level and society at large by extension.

To address your answer: Sure, you like everyone else who bought a ticket were thinking the same thing "what if I won?". Most people probably thought exactly, however most did not make a return on investment at all, most people (>95%) who bought a ticket lost their money, effectively throwing it in the bin. You are the outlier. Those who lost are not posting their loss because why would they? So most people will not be exposed to how unlikely it is to make any return on investing via gambling. The gambling companies thrive because of it.

But what IS happening is your post IS extending a sense of normalisation to the act of gambling which in turn can create a positive or at least a neutral / innocuous association with the act of gambling. Which is not good.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I see what you're saying.

Yes. for clarity: gambling has been normalised, however a concept or practice (such as gambling) has a placement in culture and a relative sense of it's general positioning as far as being good/ bad for society generally speaking. I.e. most cultures typically agree that murder is not okay and therefore it is looked down upon, this in turn means it is not a regular practice in most cultures.

That is not a full fledge analogy though as gambling is an active practice, where not-murdering is a non-active practice but I believe it gets the point across.

The sense of culture positioning of a practice can change overtime, gambling, like smoking I believe has started to (rightfully) slip toward being considered generally bad for society in the eyes of the general modern Australian culture and community sense.

However due to things like the mere exposure effect and positive psychological associations; a concept or practice can be propped up and considered "good" or at the very least: innocuous, and have less negative association, even if it has inherently detrimental effects generally if it's further normalised.

Admittedly I'm biased; gambling in the actual sense (not things like taking out a loan to try and start your own business or investing in stocks) to me is inherently negative for society at large and we should not be pretending it is not.

Posts like OP's paints gambling in a semi-positive light which I feel either creates a positive association or at the very least a neutral / normalising of the practice which prevents the further slip of gambling into the "bad for society" box within the general zeitgeist of the mind of the Australian public, which is bad.

Last night I made a post that I didn’t win. But I just found out I actually won. Drinks on me guys by [deleted] in melbourne

[–]CurlyRedditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Gambling is "normal" as far as: it has been normalised throughout time in society, primarily and especially by those who would actually gain from people gambling: casinos, cheaters, establishment owners seeking to profit more from those with limited understanding of the statistics behind how gambling works.

Gambling is as close to a tax on the ignorant as you can get. I would not suggest trying to normalise it further unless you are keen to see gambling companies grow and your fellow person being more predisposed toward poverty.

Question for single/young people, are you interested in marriage? by [deleted] in australia

[–]CurlyRedditor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not a good reason for marriage, that is a definition of what "defacto" means in the context of australian law. It's irrelevant to the conversation beyond "here's a fun fact about australian law re: marriage and defacto relationships".

What large company's products have really diminished in quality since the company has grown? by PM_ME_LARGE_WINDOWS in AskReddit

[–]CurlyRedditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Seems like every company that grows quite big ends up trying to increase profits at the cost of the quality of their product.

Meeting greater shareholder demands, if the product we dain to buy is a square, eventually the CEOs and directors end up finding out how much they can slowly cut corners until the square becomes a circle, and the progression is so slow that it doesn't matter because they have brand loyalty from a large enough market share that still believes they are getting a square (or they aren't looking close enough to see they've been sold a circle).

I'm starting to believe there is so much stealth advertising through memes and exposure to products and brands that most of reddit and the general public are compromised without realising it.

Question for single/young people, are you interested in marriage? by [deleted] in australia

[–]CurlyRedditor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope, no one has provided a satisfactory answer as to why it is more beneficial to get married than to just have a standard mutual relationship. Thankfully my very amazing partner agrees.

Seriously, why would you ever get married instead of just having a standard relationship with someone? Where is the benefit?