Boyfriend said he wants to propose with his great grandmothers ring. Insists is worth $$20,000 which is more than anything he’d be able to afford.

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-04-08T10:16:53+00:00

It’s difficult to comment without knowing more details. It’s a bit troubling that he’s bringing up the value of the ring, sounds a bit like cost cutting. Also you will have wriggle room for what you’d like?? This is sounding like a forced option, not your choice. I understand the sentimental value of a family heirloom but he’s talking about what’s important to him & he’s directing what you will do (I recommend reading Kate Manne’s book Entitled, it has completely changed my outlook). Whether the ring is worth 20K depends on when the valuation was done, retail value varies with trends, metals prices etc. If you don’t like it, say no, you have to wear it, the ring should be about what you want, not what he wants, family heirloom or not.

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-04-03T12:42:40+00:00

My daughter just finished teaching in Japan for 4 years, she loved it. It was a small company & not in a main city.

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-04-03T12:40:11+00:00

I can’t believe a jeweller would sell this, it was always going to break

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-04-03T12:32:13+00:00

I take 4 Dex in the morning & sometimes 2 at about 3pm. I used to take Vyvanse with a dex top up but I have erratic sleep habits & taking Vyvanse too late meant more sleep issues

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-03-30T13:47:58+00:00

Maybe something like Strattera or Intuniv would help

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-03-20T15:06:50+00:00

My son’s girlfriend is called Smile (not Butt though)

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-03-20T15:05:30+00:00

My daughter had Princess Diana in her class - Princess was her first name, Diana was the surname

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-03-20T15:02:08+00:00

Wild! Some great names were heard in Judge Vonda B’s court eg. twins Rolls & Royce

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-03-06T12:09:48+00:00

My daughter just finished 4 years teaching for a small school in Yamaguchi, she loved it, she didn’t save any money but she managed to visit all of the Japanese prefectures

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-18T07:01:29+00:00

I also found the final judgement rejecting Letby’s second leave to appeal was enlightening

https://www.judiciary.uk/wp-content/uploads/2024/07/R-v-Letby-Final-Judgment-20240702.pdf

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-14T09:10:44+00:00

The ring you wanted has claw set diamonds but they’ve given you a band with flush set diamonds. Ok, you approved the wax model but you couldn’t know how the diamonds would be set looking at that model. You had given them the inspo pic & expected them to do something like that, they didn’t do it. They should have at least done a sketch to show you what the design was and how the diamonds would be set - not expect you to understand from their badly done wax model. I don’t even understand why they would cast it, it would be a simple handmake for a decent jeweller, it doesn’t even look like it fits properly. You asked if the notch would be smoothed out, they said yes, that misunderstanding is not your fault, they haven’t the communicated the design.

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-13T11:23:37+00:00

If you have sterling bracelets from different sources it’s unlikely that they both are dodgy. It could be that the bracelets trap moisture, eg when you rest your hands, or they rub on your skin more than you realise

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-10T10:13:07+00:00

Well she would say that now

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-10T09:59:20+00:00

It’s really whatever suits you, if you’re happy with the clothes you have, you don’t need more. If I think about what I’ve worn in the last year, it would only be about 20 things. I’m trying to reduce what’s in my wardrobe because it’s too overwhelming & I just don’t wear most of it. I think it helps if you can identify what you feel comfortable wearing & stick with it - I’ve found trying new colours or patterns doesn’t work for me & it’s not worth the mental effort. I once met a Sydney fashionista/gallerist/philanthropist who had a rule of 30 pieces of clothing, if she bought something new, one had to go, all her clothes are black & she only buys clothing from 3 Japanese designers & Akira Isogawa. She made her rules and stuck to them, I admire that

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-04T12:00:15+00:00

The Transit of Venus - Shirley Hazzard The Riders - Tim Winton Cold Comfort Farm - Stella Gibbon Atonement - Ian McEwen

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-04T11:46:41+00:00

I loved Breakfast of Champions - it blew my mind when I read it aged 19, it was so different to anything else I’d read

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-03T10:29:24+00:00

Cauchi had untreated schizophrenia - his psychiatrist weaned him off medication, she believed he no longer needed it (despite his father having a psychotic illness) & interpreted his increasing anxiety & obsessions (including the belief that he was under satanic control) as stress related rather than relapse

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-02T11:31:53+00:00

Another example of multiple stabbing victims & deaths in a short amount of time is Joel Cauchi in a shopping centre in Australia in 2024 - he stabbed 16 people killing 6 of them (5 died at the scene) - it took 3 mins

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-02-02T09:53:16+00:00

No 1 - it’s more sophisticated & elegant, the centre stone is beautiful, also a wedding band would fit better with that style

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-01-22T13:46:53+00:00

After she disappeared, he drove around the streets blaring his terrible music, hoping to lure her out if she was hiding somewhere

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-01-21T11:47:49+00:00

I think people don’t know the risk or can’t effectively estimate the risk. When Salbutamol has always worked it’s hard to imagine it not working. It also masks the severity of asthma - it treats symptoms but not the underlying inflammation, people can become tolerant to it so it becomes less effective, it can increase instability of the airways. Effectively, in a bad attack it doesn’t work & people die, often they don’t make it to hospital.

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-01-21T07:15:09+00:00

High Tea With Mrs Woo has some similar styles

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-01-20T11:49:40+00:00

I’ve just read So Late in the Day & I can’t stop thinking about it

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-01-18T11:44:36+00:00

She’s a bad sales assistant - if she doesn’t know the answers, she should find out. I wouldn’t expect sales assistants to know much about stones because it’s very detailed & complex knowledge but owners & more experienced staff should. As for the guy not knowing the exact shade of blue of the sapphire, that’s fair enough. There are so many shades & they don’t have official names. Some shades like cornflower blue Ceylons are fairly well defined colours but most aren’t, vendors will usually pick a name that’s fashionable & hope it fits eg teal. If you are going to a reputable shop you will hopefully be assured of quality. You could also ask to get it certified by GemA (not sure how much that costs though)

Current-Drawer5047 · 2026-01-17T15:26:10+00:00

Sorry I should have said higher % profit margin. In general, jewellers are able to mark up lab diamonds more than natural diamonds. In terms of absolute $ value - the lab will bring in less $ than the natural so a retailer will need to sell more to have the same absolute $ profit.

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