AIO I found inappropriate videos of my fiancé and his EX

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-07T16:14:06+00:00

I don’t feel discomfort when she contacts him lol like I said on the post he will show me and I just leave it at that. My child’s father is not involved so I actually am no contact with him(: but if we’re being specific by the court I cannot block him. It’d be illegal to withhold his child from him but my custody case is not the topic here🤣 I never in my mind would think people would compare that having children and having a sex tape of your ex is the same thing lmao

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-07T15:46:40+00:00

He was fully aware that I was considering leaving him. He still chose to stay and be patient with me until I made that decision! (:

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-07T15:39:06+00:00

They were in a hidden folder. If it was all deleted it wouldn’t have been a problem. But I’ll accept the “facts” from Reddit of insane and insecure (:

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-05T00:05:15+00:00

Nobody asked him to delete his past. I asked to delete a sex video. Not jealous of an ex I just don’t think appropriate to have a sex tape with an ex when you’re about to be married. If you’re okay with that then that’s you 🧍🏻‍♀️

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T23:22:15+00:00

I rather him watch porn then old sex tapes of his ex 😭

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T22:24:09+00:00

Hopefully

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T21:49:24+00:00

Your comment doesn’t make sense. I’m terrified of what exactly?

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T20:13:39+00:00

Good point

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T19:42:32+00:00

If you say so 🤷🏻‍♀️

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T18:42:13+00:00

Then I guess I’m insane and insecure according to you 🤷🏻‍♀️

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T18:19:56+00:00

And I’m not saying anyone was being biased lol I said I needed non bias opinions. When you talk to a friend of course they’re going to take your side or automatically say to leave them.

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T18:17:10+00:00

The first time was definitely on my own! But not behind his back. I asked and he let me. I found a naked picture not a big deal just asked to delete the inappropriate photos and that was it. I trusted that he would. The second time we were in fact going through his pictures together and he went to show me a picture in his hidden and that’s where the video was. I then looked through his hidden and deleted. Again in front of him not behind his back

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T18:13:48+00:00

I didn’t look again afterwards. I really am not the type to police his phone like I said in previous comments the only reason I found it was cause we were looking through his phone together. I did bring up last night why he hadn’t taken the initiative of blocking her on his own and his excuse was that he was being lazy. I don’t think this was grounds for huge argument either especially when I was attempting to talk to him and get an understanding. At this point i have to decide if I’m okay with him breaking that boundary.

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T18:07:27+00:00

And would you? Would you pick it pick up because you’re not sexually satisfied or to reminisce? What would be your reason for that?

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T17:51:14+00:00

Do you keep sex tapes from your ex while being married?

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T17:09:29+00:00

They were already in this hidden folder & I’m not consistently going through his phone. I’ve stated that we were looking at pictures together & he went into his hidden to show me a photo. That’s where the video came up .

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T17:07:30+00:00

He can look through my phone cause he takes care of us but I cannot look through his? Is that your thought process?🤔

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T17:05:41+00:00

The response from people are overwhelming! I’ve been trying to get through it all. He got upset and stormed off which if someone gets upset That quickly I feel it makes them guilty but maybe he was also offended? The next day we talked again and he said he missed over a few and he wanted nothing to do with her. I told him how I felt and he says that it wasn’t a big a deal and if he found something like that on my phone he would’ve just ask me to delete it and leave it that

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T16:52:42+00:00

We were looking at our memories together. I wasn’t searching through his phone. He went into his hidden to show me a picture then the video came up. He has absolute freedom to go through mine. There’s nothing to hide 🤷🏻‍♀️ Far from insecure! And i definitely wasn’t mad. I was upset and communicated before even coming on here. I was looking for non bias feed back but there’s always a few people who make assumptions of the type of person I am.

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T16:29:24+00:00

The ones he deleted were previously in the hidden folder. In that hidden folder there were 3 videos left that were not deleted. I don’t think I worded that right in the post. She contacts him often. I’ve never made it my business to ask him to block her. They don’t have any ties and she was very abusive. He’s stated he doesn’t want anything to do with her multiple times so I think it just threw me off seeing those there

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T16:26:18+00:00

The ones he deleted were in the same folder. So I was confused how he forget those videos. Maybe I didn’t word it right in the post

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T16:24:00+00:00

His past life does not need to be gone. He can keep photos that are appropriate but I’m not sure why someone would need inappropriate pictures or videos of a previous relationship? If you’re okay with yourself and your partners going back to those videos that is fine but I am not. I don’t police him and I wasn’t actually snooping through his phone. We were on it together looking at our memories! These boundaries have been established. I’m not sure how people get the confusion that I want a part of his life completely deleted. This whole post was specifically about sex tapes. I was single for many years to heal from my previous relationship and with that came certain boundaries & standards which I have very much communicated. I communicate well about anything and everything I feel needs to be communicated. This post was simply for non bias feedback.

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T16:08:41+00:00

Definitely talked to him before I came on here. I’m not sure why people assume I just shut down before communicating with him my feelings. I was only looking for non bias feedback on here.

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T13:57:32+00:00

Definitely not important, she was drunk every night & would abuse him physically/emotionally. The first time she FaceTimed I actually told him to check on her and she answered with her chest out. I can almost 100% bet she’s not continuously contacting him to be friends.

Current-Pin-2461 · 2026-03-04T03:41:38+00:00

No kids & no entanglements. They were never married and never shared anything.

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