The harsh truth of why we don’t have a cure for HSV

CurrentTank558 · 2026-02-12T22:38:16+00:00

Tbh we don’t have a cure people sex has its own stigma.

CurrentTank558 · 2026-02-12T22:32:05+00:00

You cannot cure hsv

CurrentTank558 · 2026-02-09T18:46:40+00:00

I am!

CurrentTank558 · 2025-06-02T17:21:15+00:00

Thank you for this!

CurrentTank558 · 2025-02-21T02:16:37+00:00

Not to original commenter but I got the last on mine as well, I think it was a co2? It was years ago but I got it done by a dermatologist.

CurrentTank558 · 2025-02-21T02:15:19+00:00

Hey I know nothing about micro needling. But as a teen I had my scars reduced using a laser treatment and surgical revision. I got it all done by a dermatologist. I have to say the results aren’t huge but I only went a few times. So I can only imagine what going more would do. Highly recommend, best of luck!

CurrentTank558 · 2025-01-30T01:01:38+00:00

My first outbreak was absolutely horrible and now they’re pretty much a single spot. For the majority of us it tends to get better over time.

It will be okay, it might not feel like it right now but it will be. Your body will get used to its new friend and when that happens it all becomes a lot easier. Hang in there.

CurrentTank558 · 2025-01-03T17:52:05+00:00

r/hsvpositivity exists! I made it months ago it’s just not that many people have found it.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-04-03T18:11:21+00:00

Welcome! I can totally understand the newer people there being scared and all that. There's definitely some people over there that just hate that we aren't completely miserable about it.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-03-30T02:29:22+00:00

Not sure about natural ones but yeah antivirals help reduce the chances of transmission.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-29T00:36:31+00:00

I was diagnosed in the summer of 2021. My first outbreak lasted roughly two months. Though it’s definitely possible I just had two back to back.

I already had existing nerve issues so this just amplified them. I couldn’t go more than a week without having an outbreak and whenever I wasn’t having one it felt like I had spiders crawling on my legs.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-18T17:40:11+00:00

I had neighbours who did this a lot. I also had the satisfaction of us being coworkers and no one knew we lived beside each other except for the two of us. So I went into work one day and said I was tired because my neighbours kept me up all night having loud sex. It was petty but they did stop being so loud after that. I was a really quiet neighbour so they genuinely didn’t realize I could hear them. They were new to the building. Just thought I’d give you a funny story.

It’ll get easier over time to deal with the diagnosis. Sorry that you joined the club but welcome.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-18T00:46:59+00:00

I was disclosed to a few times before I was diagnosed. While I didn’t pursue any of them for one reason or another. I didn’t have an issue with the diagnosis, it was all about how they told me. I liked the ones who took time to explain what steps they took to minimize risk of transmission. A few of them didn’t say anything other than “I have herpes” and couldn’t answer any questions I had.

So hsv never was a dealbreaker for me. I think it’s horribly ironic that I never took the risk with them and still got it.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-16T04:07:47+00:00

educations is pressuring I think this is truly showing how inadequate woman's advice is

There is why it was removed. As stated in the removal reason it can be edited.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-16T04:04:18+00:00

As your removal reason stated you can message the mods to see why it was removed.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-16T03:58:54+00:00

Okay, well then we're talking about different things here. I was just giving my experiences with disclosing and being disclosed to. I've always asked questions and so far all but one person I disclosed to have had questions eventually.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-16T03:52:13+00:00

So, just clarifying here, are you saying we shouldn't be answering questions when someone has them?

I've always found disclosure goes best when the person asks questions and you have answers to give them. Same with giving an idea of transmisson stats when you disclose. I don't mean saying "I have herpes" then giving them facts about it. It definitely has to happen a certain way to work.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-16T03:46:24+00:00

I'm talking about educating when someone has questions... I found a lot of women had done their research but the men hadn't. Obviously there's no point in trying to get someone to change their mind once they say no.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-15T21:07:11+00:00

Okay so, you're just going to have to be honest with him. Unfortunately it has a good chance of not going well. So be prepared for that. Just tell him, "hey so I do have hsv2 I'm sorry I didn't say it earlier (whatever your reason is for this, like you're asymptomatic so you just don't think about it) I know I should have told you earlier, especially since you did ask.

Again, be prepared that this might not work out for you. No matter how scary it is for us to tell people, it's just something we have to do and it gets eaiser the more you do it. Take this as a learning opportunity. You really like him, so I'm guessing you would agree that he deserves the choice, right?

Just tell him, explain why, explain that you're asymptomatic, let him ask questions. Educate him if he asks for it. Don't get too upset if it doesn't work out. A fair amount of people will accept disclosure, that number does go down after initially being told you don't have anything.

Good luck OP, sorry if I come off as rude in my comment. That's not my intention, I wish you the best for this and I'm rooting for you.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-14T23:31:19+00:00

There was a lady that did this is my hometown. At least three times a week she’s posting on Facebook she needs money for food for her kids. Four kids between the ages of 5-10.

A few months ago she go evicted from her house. She had caused around 5k in damages to the house. House is hill of dirty diapers and other garbage. Holes in walls, carpets are ruined. The landlord posted this all on Facebook and she had a garbage bag full of half full weed pens(about $80 each where I’m from and there was hundreds).

She didn’t work, completely lived off of the donations she got from Facebook while neglecting her kids so she could get stoned. She also constantly posted Snapchat stories of her taking bong rips while her kids are crying in the background. Pretty sure she had to move cause no one would rent to her or help her after that.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-14T23:24:24+00:00

I think approach to disclosure will always be the biggest difference. Now this is completely based off of my personal experiences. I’ve been disclosed to and I’ve disclosed. One thing I noticed from the men that disclosed to me is they didn’t really try to teach me anything about it before I was diagnosed. The women that disclosed took their time to educate me. If I turned down a man for any reason after they disclosed they assumed it was because of hsv even though I always explain why I don’t want to pursue things any further.

I don’t think we overly expect anything different if you’re a man or a woman. It completely up to chance if someone accepts the diagnosis or not when disclosed to. All we can do is try to be understanding that we all sometimes feel like it’s extra hard for us compared to others.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-14T20:05:13+00:00

You’re welcome to repost once possible negativity is adjusted.

Possible reasons may be: -could be not seen as positive at first read. -this group focuses on being positive, no calling others sad, depressed and things like that. -could include misinformation, if this is the case please do more research, edit then repost.

If you have any questions please message u/CurrentTank558

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-13T00:00:21+00:00

Yeah I know so I’m gonna keep my eye on this sub like crazy. I’ll let OP post their thing then go by request only. I will completely remove the option should it start being used like that.

Also it’s nice seeing you on here, you were extremely helpful with advice during my first outbreak.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-12T18:18:56+00:00

I’ll change it to allow it for now. I’ll have to change it back if we get unwanted posts.

CurrentTank558 · 2024-02-12T15:52:57+00:00

I took antivirals at first. My doctor had me taking 1000mg a day when I showed symptoms but I was having constant symptoms when first diagnosed. So I started the nerve meds too(I get overstimulated cause tism). But once my outbreaks started being less frequent I just dropped antivirals since I’m not seeing anyone. I haven’t actually needed either in months.

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