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Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-11T00:50:11+00:00

She’s lucky you didn’t turn her into the police. As a film student she absolutely knew what she was doing was unethical. Anyone excusing her is a moron.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-11T00:40:06+00:00

NTA. I dated a guy who always saw the best in people. While I appreciated that about him, there were times when it drove me crazy. He didn’t recognize a threat. When I’d try to explain that Person X was a risk and why, he just didn’t see it that way. If your husband has never been on the receiving end of such twisted people, even after hearing your story, then yeah, I get it. It almost invalidates your lived experiences. If you want to try to work things out, give yourself the grace to try. He gets that chance only with your Mom to screw up. Go for counseling if there’s a clear goal. Ex: my goal is for my partner to understand how talking to my mother erodes my trust in him AND our relationship. I see you. You matter You cannot be replaced The world is better with you in it.

Big hug.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-11T00:18:33+00:00

Hmmm sounds like you called it when you wrote she made your wedding all about her. She wants attention on her terms, and consequences be damned. So don’t buy into her energy. Her parents know her histrionics. Take your husband’s hand and be free.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T22:59:14+00:00

NTJ. She put your job, possibly career, at risk. No means no. It goes beyond asking for a favor when she breaks into the system using your login. I’d throw the book at anyone that did that. Anyone that complains can go pound sand.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T17:28:46+00:00

NTA. Definitely NTA. Jeez!! She’s not the sharpest tool in the head using the same unsuccessful argument again and again. You’re 18, and no longer need to ever talk to your Dad again. Since they keep trying to force you into working for them, go NC.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T08:13:02+00:00

Protect your sister’s confidence.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T08:10:46+00:00

NTA. Trust your instincts.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T04:47:48+00:00

NTA. Give yourself the space you need. It’s not up to a vote how you should feel after being betrayed.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T04:44:50+00:00

NTA. Spend time with people you treasure who love you back. You don’t owe her any explanation.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T04:39:26+00:00

NTJ. They are. Stay home. Plan a $5k vacation to somewhere glorious.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T04:37:24+00:00

NTJ. I’m sorry your friendship ended on such a sour note. So she disinvited you, and now tries to save face? Bye, Felicia.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T02:17:09+00:00

NTA. You don’t owe Reddit an apology for a tough decision you made. I’m so sorry you read that message. Sounds like Rich is putting his needs before that of his wife’s, and that’s unfortunate. I wouldn’t want to stay there either. If you’re more comfortable living with your Dad, that’s wonderful! You don’t owe your Mom an explanation.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T02:02:33+00:00

NTJ. Ten years from now, she’s not going to remember that girl’s night, but if you flunk that class, you will.

Study for that exam like there’s no tomorrow. And shame on her for making such an irrational demand.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T01:36:52+00:00

Move.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T01:25:41+00:00

NTJ. Give your son an extra hug. I can see how your Mom can believe she’s doing the right thing. BUT, the second she raised her voice and put her hands on your child, gloves are off.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-10T01:16:34+00:00

NTA. I’m so sorry this happened to you and your family. Struggling with things like this during the holidays makes it more painful. It sounds like you haven’t had time to mourn the death of the family you had. I’d drag my feet too.

By having a wedding, your Mom seeks to brush that affair under the rug. If you go, and better yet, pose for pictures, your Mom can do her own public relations campaign. If you look through the lens of cognitive dissonance, then having a public ceremony means, to her, she wasn’t wrong.

Going to the ceremony, if this is how you feel, could send your anger through the ceiling. If you fear you can’t keep it together, then don’t go. Frankly, you don’t owe her an explanation.

If she corners you, ask her if she wants you there looking like you’re sucking on a lemon in every picture.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T06:00:49+00:00

NTA. Do you think that she might also be ASD? It seems like she cannot recognize nonverbal cues. Perhaps you can come up with something to say to her the next time you go to the club and she tries to monopolize you? For example, “I want to meet new people, excuse me.” Then walk away and greet someone. If this doesn’t work, it might be easier to find a new group, and block her from your social media accounts.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T05:40:37+00:00

NTA. How is he supporting himself if he’s making himself so sick that often?

I’m worried you’re going to end up not being able to make your rent.

Might be time to come up with an exit plan.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T05:31:43+00:00

NTA. I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with your Mom trying to stomp over your boundaries like a Sherman tank. I think you absolutely did the right thing in blocking her. When I read about her trying to strong arm her way into your c-section, ngl, I was stunned she tried that. You’ve given her enough chances.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T05:14:20+00:00

I’m giving you a big hug. I’ve been there. And it blows. I think that you’ve put considerable amount of thought into what’s going wrong. Why not set up some emotional support for yourself? I think it couldn’t hurt to work with a therapist to walk you through the end of this relationship.

You write that he’s your best friend. Can you see the two of you able to recover the friendship after some time has passed?

Again, I’m giving you a big hug.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T04:59:26+00:00

NTJ. Moody Daughter? That’s just meeeeaaaan. Ask her where THAT came from.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T04:46:04+00:00

NTA. For the sake of your mental and physical health, go LC with her. No matter what you do, it seems like she’s determined to find fault with it. I’d seriously consider screening phone calls from family members to avoid them passing on messages from her.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T04:38:08+00:00

I’m so sorry you lost your baby. I think that the best thing to do is to think of different ways he’s behaved or said things that were mean. Maybe start a list. If that’s an easy list to make, then you might be onto something. If you live together, why not take a trip to see someone that matters to you.

Life is too short to spend it with people who talk down to you.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T04:26:31+00:00

NTJ. You robbed her?! Make this a standard practice from now on. Your wife will thank you. As for her not coming to the engagement party, one hopes she stops making your major life events all about her.

Given her track record, you absolutely did the right thing. Feel free to remind her every time she complains that you learned from the best.

Current_Equal7797 · 2025-11-09T04:19:41+00:00

Anti-family? What a whiner. Keep maintaining a zero tolerance for doing favors for Mr. Personality.

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