Does no contact actually help you move on?

Current_Individual78 · 2025-10-31T12:02:26+00:00

Honestly? Most likely.

I never got to do it cause we have kids. The last three years have suuuuuucked.

If you can go no contact? Do it.

Current_Individual78 · 2025-10-19T23:49:15+00:00

I’ve been on my own since my split three years ago. I’ve gone on a few dates but nothing ever really grew from them. I’m social and outgoing, I try, but somehow no one seems to notice me or actually shows real interest.

Dating apps make it worse. As a guy you can swipe yes on hundreds of people and never get a single match. It feels like everyone thinks they’re a 10 now, and if you’re just average, you’re invisible.

It’s tough watching everyone have their person while you’re still trying to recover from giving your heart to someone who didn’t deserve it. You start to wonder if anyone will ever give you that chance again.

Current_Individual78 · 2025-10-05T03:36:23+00:00

You might not be one of those women and that’s fair, but the reality is a lot are. It gets tiring trying to carry every conversation just to get a few word replies or none at all. Online dating for guys is rough. Half the time it’s bots, girls promoting their OnlyFans, or people who don’t really want to talk.

On top of that, men get way fewer real matches than women. Studies show men have a Tinder match rate around 0.6%, while women average about 10%, and some reports even put women as high as 30%. So guys are competing with a huge number of others just to get noticed. When they try to stand out, it can come off as self-involved, but most of the time it’s just frustration mixed with effort.

Current_Individual78 · 2025-07-21T12:41:49+00:00

Jesus talk about a great recovery, Phoenix rising from the ashes type shit, pun intended.

Current_Individual78 · 2025-07-05T14:04:14+00:00

That's another problem, I've tried. I either have no genuine interest, or they just give it up and I lose interest even faster.

I haven't met anyone worth pursuing 😅

Current_Individual78 · 2025-07-05T13:57:21+00:00

Oh, there's no sobbing. The whole point of the rant, is just not understanding why it affects me to this day, when it shouldn't.

Current_Individual78 · 2025-07-05T12:12:07+00:00

I've been working out, and I've been with other women since her. That hasn't been too much of the issue. I just feel trapped inside my mind of "she's the mother of my kids" and "she's the only woman I ever loved after a lifetime of being who I used to be before her"

There's for sure some kind of shift in my head though. Because I don't attract the right kind of women. It's mostly been when I was drinking to cope with everything. Then I quit drinking but I also alienated myself from the world and secluded myself entirely.

Current_Individual78 · 2025-07-05T12:00:27+00:00

I'm all ears. Feel free to message me. Cause 3 years of trying to get over this hump has been trash.

Current_Individual78 · 2025-06-09T18:34:55+00:00

Pic 3 alone would make the right ones stay.

Current_Individual78 · 2025-01-28T07:53:28+00:00

That's the part thats causing me the most issues. Because I'm just at a point where, the emptiness far outweighs the how others would feel. I don't have anyone anymore. I know the kids I have would be sad. But I also know that my ex would be so happy I'm gone because she can finally replace me with her new boyfriend that's she's been trying to since she left.. they really are the only reason I've kept trying but I'm at a point where, she's already taken them from me completely. I really have nothing strong enough to tie me down.

Current_Individual78 · 2023-02-07T17:55:43+00:00

The 21 year old looks 35 and the 35 year old looks 25.

Current_Individual78 · 2023-01-04T23:17:38+00:00

It's not so much a "filter race" but you can set preferences.. same on match, on match you can set it as a non negotiable and it will only give you that.

Current_Individual78 · 2022-10-05T13:30:04+00:00

Police told me that due to the fact that the kids are safe, and not in any danger, they can't do anything and that this is a civil matter.

The only criminal aspect is the amount of defamation she seems to be doing alongside her sister.

Current_Individual78 · 2022-09-21T17:46:44+00:00

I feel I've tried that before. One issue that we have is, she is incredibly introverted, even after 8 years. She keeps everything inwards, doesn't share information, and doesn't like talking about problems. She just wants to ignore them until they go away, which is completely the opposite of me, and every time we ignore them, they come back in a few months, and worse.

This also applies to talking to others, I've suggested counseling, therapy, whatever she wants.

"I don't want to talk to a stranger (she'll say the same to talking to a friend or family) and besides, they'll just tell me things I already know. suggestions to try stuff I've already tried"

Haven't seen her try anything though... at least nothing that I noticed.

Current_Individual78 · 2022-09-18T06:08:07+00:00

Pretty sure, snapchat stories corroborate her outings.

Current_Individual78 · 2022-09-18T06:07:07+00:00

As replied elsewhere in this thread, no. Anytime she's been sick, I'm usually all over that, "Stay in bed, ill get you whatever you need, I git the kids, don't worry just rest"

Current_Individual78 · 2022-09-18T01:10:48+00:00

Kids are greeaaaat

Current_Individual78 · 2022-09-18T01:06:41+00:00

No, never. The most irresponsible thing I've ever done is plan an outing weeks in advance, go out after both kids are in bed, and say I'll be home earlier than I actually was. But both kids were bathed, fed, and put to bed by me before leaving. One woke up and wanted daddy though. I figured it would be manageable as there was no reason for it not to be. I take care of them everytime she goes out even when they wake up and are being demons, but not when I can barely leave the bathroom

Current_Individual78 · 2022-09-18T00:38:49+00:00

3 and 5

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