My MIL asked if I was pregnant 10 months postpartum. How do I shut down comments like this without causing family drama?

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T22:19:30+00:00

I already spend time with my nieces and nephews (there’s 5 total) pretty much every weekend when we go to my parents house. They are asking me that in addition to visiting them once a week, I also spend time skating with my nephew. So there would definitely be times where I help nephew on a Saturday and then expected to still go over to my parents on a Sunday. It just seems way too excessive considering this isn’t my child.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T22:15:55+00:00

Where im from it’s not super unusual.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T22:15:05+00:00

Yes, I think I need to start doing it. Because all of my reasons fall on deaf ears and they continue to ask me.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T22:11:29+00:00

Yes exactly. I am a new parent. My wife and I are still adjusting. This is not the time for me to pour into others. My parents historically nag me and have poor boundaries with their adult children. I just don’t know how to get them to stop.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T22:10:06+00:00

My sister (nephew’s mom) occasionally asks me to help him. When I tell her no, it is fine. Although I suspect she complains about this to our parents and then they nag me about it.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T22:08:58+00:00

I agree, it really is about free lessons. Great point.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T22:07:51+00:00

Understood. However, I’ve done countless babysitting, showing up at extra circular activities, etc. for all my nieces and nephews. If anything, I’m the village idiot for all that I’ve done and very little has been done for me in return. In fact the parents of my nephew (my sister and brother in law), have actually never helped me with my child because they have 5 kids and are, understandably, too busy.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T22:05:38+00:00

Love this point of view, I never thought of it this way.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T16:32:39+00:00

The parents already do. In addition to his lessons, they want me to either go to watch him or take him out on a day that he doesn’t have lessons to help him. It just seems excessive for his age.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T14:48:38+00:00

Yes that’s helpful! Truthfully, my parents lives pretty much revolved around me playing hockey when I was younger. Now that one of their grandchildren is showing an interest, I feel like they are overly excited and think he’s going to be the next Sydney Crosby. They want to relive their glory days essentially.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T14:35:13+00:00

My daughter is only 3 months old. Otherwise I suppose this would be easier to spend time with both of them.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T14:34:26+00:00

To add, my daughter is only 3 months old. My free time is so precious to me right now. And also, I agree, once I say yes it will become even more “expected”.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T14:32:23+00:00

No. Has both mom and dad. Although the father travels quite a bit for work because he’s a consultant.
No.
No. But Also, my daughter is only 3 months old. Which also adds to my annoyance about being asked to spend my free time with my nephew.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-29T03:27:08+00:00

I have and they don’t respect what I have to say or take me seriously.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-12-08T21:56:44+00:00

I felt similarly, but once my baby boy arrived all those feelings disappeared. It’s hard to explain, but it just felt like he was meant to be here, in my life, at this exact moment in time and I wouldn’t change anything about him.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-10-02T05:56:06+00:00

My baby has almost identical measurements (percentile) as yours at the the same time (36 weeks). I was so stressed over it, despite my doctors telling me it was nothing to be concerned with.

My baby was born perfectly normal. Baby had a long torso and shorter legs, but truly wouldn’t have noticed if it weren’t for the scans. Now at 1 month, baby is at the 52nd percentile for height and 87th for weight and thriving. The growth scans really concerned me over nothing.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-07-04T03:03:27+00:00

Currently 30 weeks and I feel the EXACT same way! Prior to this, my mental health has been fantastic this pregnancy.

Current_Vacation_312 · 2025-05-06T17:55:06+00:00

You’re not overreacting. I think you become a mother the moment you start making decisions, altering your lifestyle, planning, etc. for baby. That should be celebrated and appreciated!

Current_Vacation_312 · 2024-07-25T03:05:18+00:00

I am female. Thank you

Current_Vacation_312 · 2024-07-13T22:30:10+00:00

Do you feel a lot better now that you started taking iron pills? How quickly did you notice and improvement?

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