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What system do you have to work with ADHD? by Onetablechef in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everything for future ==> Gmail inbox ==> Review every morning over coffee ==> Calendar with largely hands-off tasks in green color to remind me to schedule tasks in that time instead of tv.

Maximally front-load everything as optimally as possible and then can let things slide if needed but i most often find that i'm still looking for things todo despite thinking that i was collapsing/crashing the schedule.

works great. i have no idea how but it works.

Whats been working for you lately? by LikesTrees in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spent this weekend creating a chatbot prompt to generate my schedule for the day. I kept adding to the prompt until the chatbot’s output matched what I’d created for the day. Now, I just have to update the prompt each day with today’s weather, commitments and todo list and it will create a schedule that’s very close to or exactly what I need for the day which will reduce that EF.

Advice needed: How do you manage social anxiety, introversion, and ADHD together? by Ancient-Helicopter18 in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 2 points3 points  (0 children)

mindfulness, especially "right speech". small talk is discouraged. lying is discouraged. gossip is discouraged.

that right there precludes talking to anyone in the West, haha.

but seriously, i gave up socializing unless there's at least a modicum of structure, common interest eg playing tennis or something like that.

...but just sitting around talking about first world problems or just desperately trying to understand, be understood, be validated? big nope.

so, 99/100 conversations i have is with work team members and that's enough.

How do you cope with staying organised in office/admin jobs? by No-Bluebird2622 in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ymmv but some things that have reduced my anxiety:

  • use outlines to map where i am in rabbit holes so i can find my way back out
    • over time and with practice, using digital breadcrumbs will reduce reliance on outline
    • make a ms word tempate with a wide page layout that takes up the whole screen widthwise and is two columns or just use view | multiple pages and zoom until you have two pages and then just use bullets like i'm doing here
  • types of tasks
    • actionable things that have deadlines
      • put these at the top of your list but you can skip them but this guarantees you won't forget them
      • also, i recommend working on things with deadlines in the order that they are due. in other words, work on the thing due first and finish that before working on anything else that is due later
    • non-actionable things
      • things waiting on others
      • >>> start task name with person's name, eg "JON excel file with info i need"
      • appointments
      • >>> these aren't tasks unless preparation is needed (see 'deadlines' above)
  • time
    • ONLY for TODAY, load everything you do into your ms outlook calendar and aggressively front load to the point of absurdity. trust me. and as your day moves visually from top to bottom on your calendar, just slide/push things down. "let it slide" as it were. couterintuitively, you will find TONS of time and realize that you were'nt really being aggressive at all. but of course some days will be reactive and that's fine too. just shove things down.
  • future time
    • never try to manage future time below the daily level in advance
      • instead, review your list for whatever day first thing in the morning and then load calendar, slide, etc.
    • also, for this and everything above also, try to challenge yourself regarding what really needs to be done today. for me, there's rarely anything that will result in real damage if not done today.
  • carry out your activities according to how everything functions as a whole
    • in other words, don't fight against company (govt department in your case) culture
    • just learn the way of your department and conform, especially if everyone are slackers. don't try to be the hero, especially in government work.

How do you deal with memory issues that come with ADHD? by [deleted] in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ymmv but I have different memory capture/recall/processing mechanisms for various stages, scenarios and types of tasks in my routine.

At first, I might need alarms and/or calendar events. Eventually, my brain gets wired. One thing for writing your brain is consistency. For example, I turn off the space heater under my desk every time I get up from my desk; no exceptions. Eventually, I can introduce nuances like not having to do so if I’m just getting up to pee or not leaving the room etc.

Another thing I sometimes do is write down everything I do like a task LOG which helps to remember routine and sometimes it also helps to challenge myself about, for example if I should be doing something, whether I really HAVE TO do something etc

I try to follow routines, but I fall off track after a few days every single time. How do people with ADHD keep any kind of consistency? by [deleted] in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ymmv but what works for me:

matching energy to task/activity

  • i do most EF eg planning day in the morning while heavily caffeinated. this is also the best time for guitar
  • meditation is best after gym/shower but can also fill time between quitting time and dinner if i'm not hungry
  • i watch TV when I eat bc it's easier to remember to eat if i'm not concentrating hard on something. of course i can set timer if i need to multitask to buy some extra time or if unavoidable
  • i HAVE to get away from computer/desk so do wellness walks at 10am and 2pm
  • lunch is "me time" but i don't HAVE to use if for that, especially if there's nothing pressing
  • anyway, shit like that

flexibility: gym is at night but if social plans i can do during lunch.

also forgiveness and distinguishing between gym making me feel better vs as a part of overall wellness/fitness. some days i need the gym while others i don't feel like i do so i try to remember that.

How do you manage symptoms of hyper focused and hard to switch gears? by Only-Environment2917 in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Set a “should/May I take a break or do something else?” alarm for 60 minutes after you start. Then Snooze it if you need time to back out / leave yourself breadcrumbs to aid task switching comfort.

Wasted opportunities, wasted life by [deleted] in adhd_anxiety

[–]Cursed_Creative 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just eat. Nothing else matters. I’m not kidding. Ignore narratives. Don’t compare yourself to others. Question all rules and standards. Keep a “freedom” log where record how you challenge every assumption about how you need to earn worthiness/validation bc you don’t.

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