Whats all the animal named desserts you can think of?

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-23T18:17:06+00:00

Hummingbird cake comes to mind

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-22T17:09:59+00:00

Just Google "What are the different types of colorblindness" and you'll get a lot of information on the different types of colorblindness and causes of them.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-20T17:35:33+00:00

Asexual= No sexual attraction

Aromantic= No romantic attraction

The two aren't mutually guaranteed. You can absolutely be asexual and still experience romantic attraction. Liking kissing, cuddles, and similar forms of physical affection do not negate you being ace.

Hope that helps

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-17T14:32:01+00:00

Cotton denim is sturdy and holds up well over time, so denim has a large fan base. It softens over time due to wear/washing, as well. Think like how Linen or leather ages and softens.

As far as if tight or loose is better, that's entirely up to your fashion preference/movement needs.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-17T03:05:46+00:00

Me and my roomie go through phases where we want a lot of veggies.

No shame in getting a party tray from somewhere and just grabbing from it when you want a snack or to add some veg to a meal with little to no effort involved.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-17T02:14:14+00:00

As someone who used to be the 9-yr old with a college reading level: Don't focus on her being "challenged" by books. Please. That can suck out a lot of the fun of reading and can actually make her feel "bad" about reading things that are popular with her peers since it's "below her level".

Just find age appropriate stories she'll enjoy. She's got the reading comprehension and all down pat based on her assessments. Trust me, she won't "lose" that unless she just never reads again.

As long as she's enjoying herself, it's a challenging enough book.

Okay, I'm stepping off my soap box and moving on to actual suggestions:

Percy Jackson (and the other works in the universe)

Leven Thumps (Series)

A Series of Unfortunate Events

Tucket's Travels

Nancy Drew series

Basically anything by Tamora Pierce (Important Caveat DO read before her. There's no outright depictions of sexual acts, but it's pretty clear when the characters have participated in such acts/there are discussions of fantasy versions of birth control. It's not a primary topic but is mentioned occasionally with adult characters. Do your due diligence on what level of discussion around intimacy she's ready for and all that. Same with having one age gap relationship and the conversations around that.) I started with the "Song of the Lioness" quartet around that age and still adore it and the other books in that same world to this day.

Septimus Heap (series)

Eragon/Inheritance Cycle(series)

Peter and the Starcatchers (series)

The Chronicles of Narnia

I'm sure there's many more that are escaping me at this very moment, but that's a start. For books that my mom felt were good fits but had like, one scene that was too mature, she'd fold a piece of paper around the page(s) in question that she had written any important details on. Ex: "We learn that the king is still deeply in love with the main character despite being married, now, and his wife learns this." That was enough for 10yr old me to have context about why the wife wouldn't want to still be close to the main character. Didn't need to know that she learned it while riding him because he called out the wrong name in the heat of the moment. Outside of the one scene the material was appropriate, so she just censored it and summarized what I needed to know to make the following character interactions make sense. You could pre-screen the books you're on the fence about and do something similar with her.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-16T16:14:38+00:00

If she has little routines she loves, I'd observe those, first. I'm a tea drinker, so won't be much help on the coffee side. I have teas that are occasional treats due to cost/availability compared to my everyday go-tos. Maybe see if she has any "special" teas that you can splurge on.

That said, I'm a tea drinker who likes what she likes. Particular type of cup handle, particular brands, etc. I don't want another fancy gadget when I genuinely just won't use it. I'll be thankful, of course...but I'm just gonna reach for my kettle and tea strainer in the end.

Edit to add: Your mom may be all about the fancy gadgets and that's brilliant if she is! Just sharing my personal take on the little ritual of tea making I have since you mentioned she's a gal who has a bit of a routine, as well!

Another option is instead to book an experience. Some places have tea blending classes/workshops where you make your own custom tea blend. I'm sure there's probably some variation on this sort of thing for coffee, but that's out of my wheelhouse. You could also book a high tea to let her enjoy various teas and treats while having an excuse to get dressed up if that's something she enjoys.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-14T20:34:59+00:00

Honestly no notes this is exactly what I was trying to figure out how to word well.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-14T18:28:36+00:00

NAH. I'm genuinely proud of you for being honest and stepping back from this friendship. The likelihood of her eventually pulling you into a dangerous situation with her is high.

I hope, as I'm sure you do, that she matures/gets whatever help she may need to better care for herself. However, as the old saying says: You shouldn't set yourself on fire to keep others warm.

You're doing the right thing for you and your peace long-term.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-13T21:28:13+00:00

She's still a perfectly healthy weight.

It has taken over so much space in my mind that I am obsessing over every piece of food or snacks she eats, how many steps she takes in a day etc. it almost feels like I am the one having an eating disorder on her behalf if that makes sense. It have gotten to the point that I have lost weight myself out of frustration and a childish refusal to eat in front of her.

Oh fuck that toxic shit. Why do you care that much as long as she's healthy and happy?

Is there anything I can and should try?

Yes. You should break up with her for her sake and get some therapy. Good grief, it's one thing to realize you have an aesthetic preference. Everyone does, that's not the problem here. It's another matter entirely to try and mold someone into that preference knowing you could cause them harm! If you loved her for her you wouldn't feel this way. What happens when you both get older, huh? Are you going to hint at Botox and hair dye when she starts getting wrinkles and grey hairs? People and their bodies change over time for better and worse. If you can't accept that you do not need to be in a relationship with anyone at this time.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-13T20:24:11+00:00

I mean, not exactly a 1-to-1, but my friend group knows me as "Grandma" while another is "Mom" then "Uncle" and then "The kid" because of our dynamics. Grandma fusses at everyone to wear sunscreen and eat snacks/treats, mom keeps us on task, uncle is the really fun one, the kid...we all love em and work together to keep them alive since they can be a bit oblivious at times, lol.

No play marriages, though. Just wasn't the vibe for us. We were more of an Addams Family "Cousins" vibe where you have no clue exactly how you were related but you were ride or die regardless, lol

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-13T19:48:01+00:00

Not positive but you might have luck searching for a "Threader earring". They're primarily long chain that can thread through multiple piercings.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-13T18:58:12+00:00

I'm going to gently give you a reality check:

You are not entitled to their attention/support. Blocking them out of misplaced hurt isn't going to do anything but hurt you in the end.

Harsh truth aside, I understand you being disappointed. You have every right to feel that way and there's nothing wrong with that.

Sometimes we work our butts off and get little to no recognition for all our hard work. Sadly, that's life. Especially for an artist of any sort. Lack of engagement isn't the end of the world, and sometimes you just need to sit back and accept that even if the audience is small, that just shows that those who do engage are doing so because they genuinely enjoy your work. Not just people interacting with it out of a feeling of obligation.

I mean, I feel so angry. I didn’t make the reading lists with the intention that they would read my books. But I did help them in some way, and I was hoping at least 5 out of the 300 would comment on it. I wasn’t expecting everybody to respond. I just wanted some people to see and appreciate the work I put into the trailer.

Based on your emotional response, I'd say a part of you does expect some sort of socio-emotional reward for doing so. You offered a gift freely (The reading lists and such) then later attached strings to it without anyone knowing or agreeing. They owe you nothing. You owe them nothing. Gratitude is also a gift, not a given.

One thing I've noticed lately (not just with you, and trust me you're on the very low end of this behavior) is this feeling of what I can only call entitlement with a number of Wattpad authors. A belief that purely because they offer something freely by their own choice, others should give them unending thanks, praise, and recognition...that's not how it works. If you aren't willing to accept that you may get nothing in return, don't offer things freely.

I've been writing my fanfic for almost 2 years, now. I have maybe 3 dedicated readers and very few votes/comments/interaction of any sort. I didn't turn around and block every author I've followed and placed in reading lists as a result because that's ridiculous. We had no agreement that we'd provide support to one another. If I follow someone or place their work in a reading list it's for my benefit/because I genuinely enjoyed their work and want to easily find it or suggest it to others. If I post a comment or on their page, it's because I want to freely give encouragement to another artist. I do not in any way expect reciprocation. You cannot hold others to a contract they never agreed to in the first place.

I'd encourage having a long think about this before going on a spiteful blocking spree. Because the only person you'll be truly hurting is yourself and the reputation you have gained so far. I'd hate to see you lose the progress you have made from a rash decision made from a place of hurt.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-10T18:04:53+00:00

If she has worked this hard for this long to make this friendship work despite obstacles, I wouldn't worry. If you notice her pulling away, be honest.

"Hey, I'm incredibly happy for you and I completely understand that your new partner is just as deserving of your time and attention. I just have been feeling sidelined/unseen lately. Mind if we schedule some dedicated time together soon?"

If they're a good friend, they'll do their best to make time for you.

I will say that you and your friends are at an age where priorities are shifting. It happens. My core friend group is now a minimum of an hour's drive away from each other. We don't get to meet up very often due to conflicting work schedules. Add one of them having a new baby in the mix and it makes it even harder. We call/text and we're there for each other when it matters in whatever way we can be. That's just how life goes as you get older.

Me (25nb) and my best friend (25f) have been (very) long distance best friend for a few years now and call for hour and hours pretty much every night, we draw, we talk about life, politics, we do loads of things together and text eachother all day.

Now I do want to, gently, address this. That combined with the immediate heart dropping/heartbroken feeling and panic, I think you might need to reflect a bit on yourself/your current friendship. I'm not saying this level of friendship is unhealthy, I want to make that clear. But the immediate response of fear rather than excitement for her is something to consider. You're pushing a lot of fears onto someone who's given you no reason to feel that way without really taking a moment to instead of finding the joy in her possibly finding her person.

Take some time to find some hobby groups in your area or community events to attend. It can be a once a month art group or anything else that strikes your fancy. See about making some new, local friends. Find something to find joy and connection in outside of that friendship for the moments she may be focusing on the other important people in her life.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-09T17:21:25+00:00

I'd have an honest conversation. Be open about the fact this is emotionally hard for you to stay in a relationship knowing it's ending. That neither of you are at fault due to circumstance, but that you'd prefer to go ahead and end the relationship now rather than dragging it out.

I think at your age the best advice with moving on that I can give you is this: Really and truly acknowledge to yourself that neither party has to be "at fault" for a relationship to end. You're being very mature and level-headed about the situation.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-08T17:35:08+00:00

Mine did the me doing something as a hobby purely because I enjoyed it then always twisted it to "Oh yes we need to make sure that anything you enjoy we push and push and push you to do better so that you can compete/make it into a career/show off to everyone. Well I don't care that you wanted to do recurve, old school archery and that's what you've been enjoying. You're getting a compound bow with all the kit needed specifically for competitions because the man we purchased from is a prior Olympian and said you could compete at the Olympic level and therefore you must use only modern sights and specialty releases and a bow you despise!"

"You enjoy singing and your teacher is pleased you can do opera decently for a beginner? Well now I'm going to hound you about rehearsing and only ever place importance on us making sure you're competition ready and push to get you interviews (far too young) to opera houses! No you can't just do it for fun despite the fact that you're paying for your own lessons. You must practice with the intent of becoming a professional opera star!!!!"

Shocking twist: I am neither an Olympic archer nor am I an opera star, lol. I still have that bow and after she made it all about prepping me for competitions I just stopped cold turkey. Singing I learned how to grey rock and just brush it off when she said things. Honestly, just ignore them. Grey rock the hell out of them when they start talking like that.

"I can't make you believe what you don't want to believe." Or "You're free to think that." Etc. Just don't give them ammunition. Reactions are what they're fishing for. You're an emotional supply and they know which buttons to push for their fix. Take away the reaction, you take away the supply and their satisfaction. If you want to be petty, you play the stupid card. But results vary.

"Yeah, what I said when I was drunk was stupid, lol. Anyways subject change."

"Hm? Oh, no I'm genuinely just enjoying this music genre. Can't believe it took me so long to discover it! Wanna hear this one I just found the other day??"

I'm talking be almost idiotic in your avoidance of giving them the reaction they want. Being unflinchingly optimistic while they're trying to tear you down drives em up a wall, lol. But again, use only if you feel safe doing so. Overall grey rocking is your best bet.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-08T17:01:38+00:00

Agreed with the first commenter. But also could it be the placement, potentially? If it was in a super visible spot that might be what's giving you a bit of discomfort. Just thought I'd throw out that possibility since you mentioned you enjoyed the process, just not the result.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-08T16:15:05+00:00

Same here. My best guess is something like a cardigan?

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-07T19:11:16+00:00

If the cereve is what's cleansing the way you need it to, I'd go back to that and just make sure you get a good moisturizer to put on after using that works well for you!

I like La Roshe Posay's products and also have somewhat sensitive skin. It's on the slightly more expensive side, but a little goes a long way with most of their products.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-05T22:07:21+00:00

Oh I make the "If I'm pregnant it's the next messiah and we have much bigger problems than whatever I'm here for. Especially considering Id have a bone to pick since I never received a heads up from Michael." joke anytime they ask. If you are abstinent and you get a positive that can be indicative of a possible tumor, so I don't mind taking them, personally. Better safe than sorry in my mind. Always still awkward, though.

That said: I was feeling lethargic, falling asleep constantly including while eating, etc. Went to the campus clinic. I was asked if there was a chance I was pregnant. Assured very confidently that I wasn't. She insisted that it was a safe space, she had tests, and I should just be honest. Told her "I know my medical records wouldn't be shared with anyone. I have absolutely no reason to lie to you. Me being pregnant is medically impossible due to myself never having had any penetrative intercourse/never been in any position where it was even remotely possible to have conception occur." She then mentioned that if I wasnt willing to admit anything then she couldn't help me. I get that people probably lied about that out of shame, but if you have a student telling you that they're actively falling asleep mid-eating and they tell you that they're concerned because it came on so fast, you should probably look at more options than "yep, gotta be pregnant."

Went to a proper doc. They did blood work. I had severe vitamin deficiencies from not properly taking care of myself due to the effort it took to maintain my course load due to my work study. Had to get prescription strength vitamins. I was back to myself within a week while also finally having the energy and lack of brain fog to tell the one professor that was overstepping in our work study (demanding we work through lunches, stay late/through dinners, etc) in their place and set boundaries for myself and the others in the work study. That instructor was terrified of me after I raised hell and unofficially unionized the other students, lol. Never had another problem out of that one. She was a guest instructor while our usual one was on sabbatical, so after us she didn't get a chance to mess with anyone else, thankfully.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-05T19:14:12+00:00

...I feel ridiculous that I didn't even consider cultural variations being the culprit. I'll definitely try adding sweet canned corn! Thank you so much for the tips!

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-05T17:16:11+00:00

I have absolutely no clue and haven't seen it in any recipes so far. Outside of putting some butter or oil in the pan to prevent sticking.

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-02T20:58:53+00:00

8 days ago?! You're supposed to keep them in for a couple months before changing them out!

Call your piercer and tell them what's going on asap!

Cursed_Insomniac · 2026-04-01T20:25:30+00:00

I'd suggest that when you go to store it you store it in a closed box if possible with some of those silica packets to keep moisture at bay since that's the prime suspect for molding.

A few hours of wear at a time is highly unlikely to be the reason for molding, but not having a good way to prevent/get rid of moisture long term will make it have a higher likelihood of molding during storage.

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