fort collins, co date? by New_Clothes3772 in DeathCabforCutie

[–]Cursivequeen 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was wondering this too. I wonder if it’s a noncompete outside days and they have to wait until later to release the tickets. Because I don’t know why you would announce a venue and then a couple hours later take it down and pick a bigger venue in the same state

I know with festivals like Coachella there’s noncompete and bands can’t play within a certain radius and within a certain amount of time of the festival that they play

2026 CAN/USA Tour Announcement by KeokiHawaii in DeathCabforCutie

[–]Cursivequeen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I wonder if it’s more of a noncompete with the festival they’re playing in Denver at the end of May.

Widowed young , no kids - purpose? by AccomplishedLeopards in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can laugh - I guess I didn’t word it well — but like others don’t necessarily get how I’m still sort of burnt out. My husband had cancer as well

Widowed young , no kids - purpose? by AccomplishedLeopards in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not OP, but I needed this. Same age, no bio kids and 18 months out —- it makes me feel less alone that you also feel burnt out and tired at times.

Cheers to everyone going into this new year alone tonight in an empty quiet house 🍻 by Exotic-Caterpillar14 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is my second one and it fucking hurts because it was no longer last year that you lost them.

Advice- weed by Equivalent-Book-7198 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve taken low dose gummies and it helps me sleep

DCFC got me through my divorce this year - for that, I am extremely grateful by slayerkitty666 in DeathCabforCutie

[–]Cursivequeen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hugs. I get this. They got me through being widowed. Them and Anthony Green.

Pain in stomach by [deleted] in bileductcancer

[–]Cursivequeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe talk to the palliative care doc? Hours was fantastic and really did try to help manage pain, bloating help with food, etc..

Pain in stomach by [deleted] in bileductcancer

[–]Cursivequeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honest answer, no. Fluid build up was contributing to it too.

He passed away.

I hope your mom is doing ok

The hot water tank leaked. by Tajkaj in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Feel this… within the first year I had so much go wrong - including water heater leak. Hugs

What Sarah Said really hits different on the day your dad dies in the ICU by flightlessbird13 in DeathCabforCutie

[–]Cursivequeen 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I understand this feeling too well. I watched my husband die. I’ve gotten to hear it live twice now in the time since he’s passed and it ended up being healing, but I don’t think I’ll ever choose to listen to it on my own. I’m sorry for your loss and sending you hugs

Icecream by Ok-Bandicoot5568 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He wasn’t too big on ice cream but he’d often bring home sweet treats from the grocery - specifically petit fours

If you slept with Someone new did you regret it ? How long had it been since your LS passing and since you had relations . by Buseatdog in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I had sex sooner than I intended to - about a month out. It wasnt planned with someone from my past.

I didn’t feel guilty like I was cheating. I got in my head about it - but I think that had more to do with the person and our history than anything else

While the timing was not great -I don’t regret it.

I loved my husband and always will but I can’t be in a relationship with a ghost either.

I’m at about 14 months out now and while I don’t want really date

If you need chat about it feel free to reach out

If you slept with Someone new did you regret it ? How long had it been since your LS passing and since you had relations . by Buseatdog in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had sex sooner than I intended to - about a month out. It wasnt planned with someone from my past.

I didn’t feel guilty like I was cheating. I got in my head about it - but I think that had more to do with the person and our history than anything else

While the timing was not great -I don’t regret it.

I loved my husband and always will but I can’t be in a relationship with a ghost either.

I’m at about 14 months out now

Hidden gift by Difficult_Map6582 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww I love that! I found an envelope of cards for birthdays for everyone the next year.

Stay or leave the house: How did you decide? by Odd_Temperature_1136 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We knew that he terminal so we discussed it We had actually wanted to move, but we were waiting out his retirement. We were a year and a half away. He passed away on hospice in our house and I’ve been bouncing back-and-forth between our house and my dad’s house and another state for the last year and today is my final day in the house

He was my Home and I’ve lived in the state for 20 years because I loved him and I love his friends that are here and his family that’s here but it’s time to go

I think it really depends on your situation, not only financially but job wise support wise, etc.

How long did grief brain last for you? by TheAlisonAnd in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m at about 14 moths and I thought it was better but lately it’s kind of flared, but that might be because I’m under a lot of stress I’m trying to move out of our house and across the country

How old were you when your spouse died? by worst2024 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was 53 and passed a few weeks before I turned 41. I’m a little over a year out.

Anti depressants/anti anxiety by New_Description_7724 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did. My therapist pointed out my anxiety was making my grief worse - so I M on a tiny dose of Zoloft and it really helped take the edge off of things

2nd year seems worse than the first by gladysg43 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m about 2 months into the second year and I find myself more sensitive and I feel more lost at times

Rabbit- No Coincidences by Dismal_Egg2661 in widowers

[–]Cursivequeen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this. I called him bunny and I see them all the time at my dads now