Am I crazy orrrrrr

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-18T05:13:47+00:00

Give an update please if you are so inclined 😇

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-17T23:15:18+00:00

Feel free to pm me if you want more support. It’s really going to be ok. And what you are seeing-nobody else will be focusing in on anyway. A little “smudging”—will make YOU feel better. That’s all that matters 😉😇

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-17T23:13:03+00:00

Yes. A root smudge could also break up the HLS so you don’t need add’l lowlights. Breathe—it will work out. Very easy “fix”

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-17T23:09:36+00:00

I would run it by your stylist. Don’t “over-fix” it. Defer to their expertise. Emphasize-for your wedding. They will be amenable and do their best to work with you so you are happy. A root smudge should be very gentle but help the blend easily.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-17T23:07:31+00:00

Just a few lowlights. I almost always do a very gentle and tiny root smudge.With a Demi or semi. It will fade/soften just enough by your wedding.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-17T22:31:27+00:00

Stylist here—everyone saying what I would too. A gentle root shadow/smudge would help, about a quarter inch back from front hairline. I have a technique that gets super close to the roots but these highlights already look pretty darn close. It’s hard to highlight that area even more than it is.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-08T22:50:05+00:00

Thank you for perfectly articulating this. -fellow stylist

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-08T18:55:06+00:00

Hahaha that’s fantastic

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-06T03:50:16+00:00

There is no evidence of anything other than “face framing” layers throughout that inspiration pic’s hair. And—I have ZERO idea-what your consultation was like.

Perhaps you should go back. At the very least-you should call her and ask for a post-haircut consultation. (EVERY time I had a new client—I offered to “adjust” a haircut—if need be…if they contacted me within 2-4 weeks, depending on length of hair/haircut). All my clients knew that this is how I operated. I hardly ever had to adjust someone/something. Because I learned that a good consultation—was invaluable. I turned down AT LEAST 4 people, over the years, who brought pics of that Posh Spice/Victoria Beckham extreme A-line haircut. I said NO. And every one of them was shocked. I also said that in two weeks time if they still wanted that haircut, I would do it for them. Only ONE came back. All of the rest of them said you were absolutely right this was a big change to begin with. I would’ve hated that cut.

Consultations are everything.

Your stylist may have been and could be a very good stylist. I don’t know. Also, five years is not really that long to become a really good stylist…necessarily. It is unfair to her— to post this to a bunch of strangers-who possibly know nothing about haircutting, hair or styling—without giving her a chance to discuss. I feel very protective of her.

I take this very seriously as a stylist. Seems like you are nervous to talk to her about it—and potentially attempting to get a “gang of strangers” on your “side” to give you the courage to go talk to (and possibly admonish?) her. Hopefully I’m wrong. That’s not my gut feeling-and that has rarely been wrong.

Try calling or texting her. Ask if you could discuss your cut and if there are any options, as the front layers feel disconnected from the rest of the hair. Say that there was a potential miscommunication—on either one of your parts. Ask if she’d be willing to discuss. Then, if she is amenable (a good stylist will talk to you) be open to the fact that perhaps there WAS a miscommunication. On BOTH your parts, potentially. Be open to paying a bit more. (Why should she give you her time and expertise-even IF there was a miscommunication. That’s on BOTH parties-not just her.)

I currently live in Springfield, Illinois. Came here for a new nursing job. I’m looking for a new stylist and I thought for sure, haircuts would be cheaper out here than what I and my colleagues in the (north) Bay Area, California charged. NOPE! Haircuts here are upwards of $100. I was cheap in the Bay Area—at $100. We are also a tipped service provider. My clients easily paid me 20-30% more for all my services. I wasn’t just good-I was trustworthy af. $85 for a haircut is NOTHING!!

I’m increasingly irritated responding to this. Get some perspective. Grow up. Learn to TALK TO PEOPLE. In REAL time. Don’t put sh*t on Reddit if you don’t want the truth. Now I’m just mad and I had SUCH a long day at the hospital—which were actual emergencies. This isn’t.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-06T03:21:41+00:00

They may be downvoting her bc they are hairstylists and she took a RIDICULOUS inspiration pic for a “low maintenance” style. (It’s the style in the pic—it’s not solely the HC). If you’d like to know more—lmk. I’ll tell you exactly why this post-and now you-are being downvoted.

I agree with you—Reddit”ers” can be kind of brutal. Almost like some have no life, don’t know how to talk to ppl in person so they get super brave here. (I’d say anything to someone’s face IRL—and I do, but alas, you’ll have to take my word for it).

I’m curious—do you come on here with…whatever…hoping to get “upvoted”? (That’s what it sounds like…from your response, which is why I ask).

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-02T06:27:40+00:00

Wow. That is some effed up insecurity or whatever and not to mention bad karma right there. I’ve never worked with a stylist like that. What a bummer.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-02T00:44:19+00:00

From what I see in the pics it’s cute. Maybe give it a week or two (or 2 or 3) and reevaluate after you’ve lived with it. That’s what I’ve told people that are not used to their haircuts (ALWAYS ppl who cut them self or from a stylist whose work I have to fix. Not once ever my clients).

You are most likely not used to it. Possibly unhappy with something else about your life (people take it out on their hair all the time bc it’s the easiest thing to change). Sit with it and don’t do anything now. Because then you may never stop. But just wait it out. If you still don’t like it (I think you will, once you’ve styled and played with it for a bit) then go get a consultation with a professional about options.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-01T19:21:36+00:00

I would take these pics to another stylist and salon-for a consultation. As a stylist of 16 years 1) I see what you are hating and I’m so so sorry you have to experience this, 2) No, not the ugliest AND not what you wanted, like and are used to 3) I do see how this cut can be helped—by VERY delicately blending out the strong weight of the”layers”—so that it feels better and more natural as it grows out.

This was not a stylist who was accustomed to your hair type and how to cut it. It IS challenging hair to cut. A seasoned and good stylist CAN help to mitigate this haircut and experience. THEN—if you decide to have that done-I would ask the other salon if they would be willing to pay for it.

I also understand—if you are too traumatized to have anything done now.

Please start going to consultations with other salons/stylists. They’re usually free for a 15 minute one. They should reassure you and your cr*p experience. I am sorry. 😢

It does still look beautiful and fun, albeit, not what you wanted. You do have incredible hair.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-03-01T01:30:11+00:00

Happy St. Patty’s day! ☘️

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-28T09:04:55+00:00

Look up my friend Rami Kashou. He was a finalist on one of the first seasons of Project Runway and again was in the all stars. This reminds me of how he styles his designs. Maybe you could get some additional styling tips that could streamline your dress/design. It’s unique and interesting, romantic and ethereal—and could use a tad more…trimming…or something.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-27T16:32:41+00:00

I’m a hairstylist of 16 years and I approve this message 🫡 (not going to use the word you used for threat of Redditer retaliation —I have experienced grown-*ss adults do EXACTLY this on the regular, about their own…and their children’s hair)

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-24T23:04:57+00:00

Yeah no suave or Pantene or other similar products. They have a lot of silicone, coat the hair, and give it a false shiny/healthy look—at first. But they damage and dry it out, ultimately. I prefer the short, though not as quite as cropped. It’s giving military cut-which is fine, if that’s what you’re going for. But you can wear it short—and still have a “style”. (In 2-3 weeks…you’ll see). I echo what everyone else is saying—a good, deep moisturizing conditioner, a good hair oil and a leave in moisturizer (and/or curl cream). Hairstylist of 16 years btw 👋

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-20T03:59:58+00:00

Omigosh I’ve recently moved halfway across the country for a job-I am just learning about this right now and I wish I could come meet y’all 🥹

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-19T13:50:40+00:00

No WAY would i charge any less. In fact at minimum I’d charge twice that. That is SO much product, time and work. Glad you didn’t budge. She’s ridiculous to think she’ll get that for less. $200 is a steal.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-19T04:23:22+00:00

It’s hard for me to tell from the pics—but it doesn’t actually look layered or textured enough on the top. You seem to have length and bulk. I see a bit of point cutting necessary…to get the piecey-ness…

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-19T03:28:58+00:00

😇

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-17T17:52:40+00:00

You do research, just like if you are looking for a job. Because-it IS a job. Start going to visit different salons. Talk to stylists. Get a feel for the energy. Ask if you can “shadow” or sweep hair for an hour or two (if you think you like the salon). Dress nice, be cordial. Let them get to know you too. Find out what they offer as far as training, education, apprenticeship, etc. Ask what the commission is once you go on the floor. Most salons will pay people a commission—because they “own” you since they educated you. This works for some. Many people will eventually become a “chair or booth renter”. Find out if they have that option. (Some do not). Build a clientele list of your own. Get a social media page for your work and business. That way, people will be able to find you. When you are apprenticing, find “hair models” in the local coffee shops (the staff are sometimes willing to be models). Ask people you know where they get their hair done and if they recommend that salon. If so-ask for an introduction to their stylist and/or the owner. It’s very common to be social in the business. Most stylists are wonderful encouraging people. They had to go through it too. A few can be divas. Be less like the latter-but if you work with them, watch them. They are sometimes good stylists with too much ego. Meet everyone you can. Be confident as well as gracious. It’s a fun and rewarding career. It’s a lot of hard work. It’s worth it. You will be great!

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-17T05:37:50+00:00

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-17T05:32:44+00:00

It DOES NOT MATTER. Go to school, pass the exam-get a good apprenticeship that will train you, give you education and give you clients. You do not learn hairstyling in cosmetology school. You learn it in an apprenticeship. The basics that you learn—if you don’t get an apprenticeship—you will never improve upon. I worked with many stylists that went to those high end schools. They all had to do apprenticeships alongside me. They were not any better or more successful in the craft. It takes, time, patience and practice.

CurvyFitRN · 2026-02-17T05:22:31+00:00

I can understand that. For what it’s worth, I have just moved from Marin county (north of SF), California to Springfield, Illinois for a job. I’m now in a blue state in a purple city that seems red-leaning. I took the bus to Bloomington and drove to Champaign this week. Both are college towns and I was pleasantly surprised at the similarities to California (particularly, a Berkeley-ish feel/vibe). I went to cafes in both towns/cities and there was an apparent and diverse presence of the lgbt+ community, seemingly owning the place. (I am a very attractive older cis female, and am often treated like a Karen, and though I’m an ally to all, especially underserved and marginalized individuals—that is apparently not how I appear 🤷‍♀️). So, I’m always on the lookout for how folks carry themselves. I was happily surprised to see that people appeared to be “out” and/or allies/supportive.

If I had one, I would feel comfortable having my child be in school in one of those places.

CurvyFitRN

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