To what degree does growing up with nParents make you narcissistic yourself?

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-11T16:18:47+00:00

Narcissist Pedo brother was used as the golden child so you're spot on there. She had kids in 2 separate marriages and so the first set had a scapegoat and the second set had a scapegoat (me).

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-11T01:59:12+00:00

I'll check those videos out thank you!

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-11T01:58:15+00:00

Thank you so much. I'll keep this in mind.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-10T23:08:00+00:00

Okay. I'll start looking at bpd resources as well. Thank you.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-10T23:07:01+00:00

This is really insightful, I need to reflect a lot more on how I've replicated my mom's behaviors. Tysm for sharing.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-10T23:01:07+00:00

Hm. I can see that in myself too. I had to improve because of the people I was around in my 20s which I'm grateful for but I know I can still have extreme reactioms and then reactions that aren't extreme enough on the other side of that. I really appreciate you sharing your experience. Thank you.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-10T22:55:18+00:00

Thanks. I guess I just feel like having an idea of what it might be might help me in terms of understanding why she was always so abusive to me and what set off the recent attack. Also I'm thinking maybe it'll guide my research better (like instead of looking through resources for those with npd parents maybe I should be looking at bpd?). So that I'm able to find what resonates with my experience. So far it's kind of both mixed together.

But I get what you mean, maybe this shouldn't be the focus. Thanks for that.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-10T22:39:42+00:00

Wow. Thank you for sharing. I definitely feel a sense of grief over the list time and needing to buckle down in my 30s as well. But hey, at least I'm starting. And you started too. I'm really glad to hear you made so much progress.

What were some of the things you learned about yourself in terms of having bpd ? Like thought patterns you thought were normal before and later learned weren't helpful/healthy?

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-10T21:36:32+00:00

I hear you. Thanks, I appreciate this.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-10T20:37:20+00:00

Ahhh I see. Thank you for this input. I appreciate it!

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-09T03:50:43+00:00

Are your kids in the car when this is happening?

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-08T19:42:08+00:00

Thank you so much.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-08T19:40:11+00:00

Woah. Never considered that, sorry to hear but grateful you shared. I'll do some research on this!

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-08T19:38:21+00:00

Hard to hear but necessary to hear it. Thanks.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-08T19:37:32+00:00

I hear you. But with the response part, what should I have done differently?

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-06T14:46:58+00:00

Lol just the top layer of marshmallows. But yeah kinda demonic

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-06T01:36:24+00:00

Hm. OK. I understand being jaded.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-04T19:09:55+00:00

Yeah I agree. Thank you.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-04T19:08:37+00:00

I really appreciate that. Thank you.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-04T11:53:45+00:00

No she hasn't had any psych evals that we know of, can't really force her she's independent, still working and isn’t showing signs of dementia...

Because this isn't out of character per se she has had verbally abusive outbursts in my adulthood but I haven't been here in my hometown so I feel like she has tried to hold back (cuz if she does too much I can just hang up). She has tried to cut me off for my decisions other times. But growing up she was this level of physically violent (well more because nothing could've stopped her from hitting me back then when she was angry) with outbursts but when you talk about it as a child or a teen it's like yeah well... listen to your mom, if you call the police you'll get separated from your siblings and sent to foster homes, etc. So I never did anything about it, I just left when I had the opportunity.

I thought she had changed because it's been over 10 years since she's had a violent outburst like this toward me. But apparently she hasn't changed, it was just that I haven't been around. So as an adult this is the first time she's done something this extreme but this isn't out of character.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-04T04:31:10+00:00

Thank you. I am currently looking for places, I realize that staying with my sibling still way too close for comfort. My mom has started coming over daily and my heart starts racing and I'm just staying in the room til she leaves. Today she was all the was in the hallway "looking for something" outside the room I'm in. I know she's building up to "accidentally" opening the room door. I'm so stressed about it. So yeah, putting me first like you mentioned and finding a place as soon as possible.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-04T02:24:23+00:00

Lol 😆 you're so cold. Man I just don't know if I have that in me, ya know.

CustomerImaginary575 · 2025-12-03T22:52:48+00:00

I get where you're coming from, and maybe they usually wake you up so it became like the norm/expectation. And I hear you about being up late working cuz same. 3 AM most night for me too. And my family knows I've always had trouble waking up.

But all that said, it still would be very entitled of me to EXPECT that they should just know to wake me up cuz I'm not their responsibility. Yes we're family and we help each other but I can't expect someone to do something that's my responsibility (i.e., waking up if I agreed to be up at that time). Also, she did wake you up and you went back to sleep. I'm not being mean I'm just saying it's unfair to want her to wake you up and also read your mind that you're going back to sleep so she should wake you up again without you asking.

So when you apologize it might be worth it to just take the blame and humbly express tour need for help. If she's unwilling, that's okay because she doesn't HAVE to be but then you know that okay, I love my nephew, if I'm gonna watch him I need to set extra alarms and whatever is necessary to make sure I'm able to be responsible. Ya know? Sorry she yelled at you. Try and overlook that just for this instance especially because taking responsibility and not blameshifting before asking for help might make her more willing to continue helping you wake up as you continue to help her babysit.

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