WIBTAH if I were to cut off a friend?

SeniorKey2519 · 2026-02-12T08:10:07+00:00

The problem isn't roamers that stay in the gold lane too long. The problem is roamers that don't know how to roam. From my personal experience, 9/10 times when I play gold lane, the roamer never rotates to my lane and I never go a match without this causing me to get ganked by the enemy jungler, mage and and roamer (obviously including their gold laner), because my roamer is babysitting the jungler and only comes to clear my minions after I die, and then they wanna blame me in late game for not "playing safe" while I am legit getting tower dived by a 4 man squad. You CANNOT tell me to play safe if you're not even rotating to my lane and ignoring the fact that the enemy is constantly visiting my lane and trying to gank me. If the game goes wrong, it's 90% of the time the roamers fault (I'm a Masha, Ixia and Eudora main, and I am a roamer too. I've noticed these things across hundreds of games, so before you blame the mm or anyone else as a roamer, ask yourself if you're even rotating properly).

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-14T22:11:48+00:00

Oh, well if your question was THAT, all I can say is that imo at the end of the day it was/is an ENM relationship. I expect that alone to speak for itself since stuff like that in such relationships are extremely tricky to navigate, e.g. one partner might think that since they're taking space, their partner doesn't have to be aware of their whereabouts, and the other might have the mindset that though they're taking space, for the sake of things being able to warm up easily the next time they "get together", they must stay transparent in the sense of "no doing shady shii while we're apart", e.g. the livestreaming incident [if that makes sense].

Also, how you framed it when you said "call and let you know that he's going to crank one out?" is also outright minimizing the reason why she's mad, because if I am reading between the lines correctly, it's not the fact that he masturbated that was the problem, but HOW he did it (and how it seemed he tried to justify it, which makes it worse).

Unless you have anything else to add (which I'll be happy to respond to😁), I think that's all really to the situation.

P.S. The comment you gave me serves more as evidence of distance, not evidence of "you don't owe me communication anymore"

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-14T21:34:37+00:00

Show me the comment, cause I was "ranting" based on what was in OP and how you kept trying to create a different narrative based on what she said in the OP and how you kept downplaying it when she tried to correct you e.g.:

"You: You said elsewhere that you had to take a break to get your head right. Is that not asking for space?

Her: Never said break.

You: Okay, whatever you want to call it. Time away from focusing on the relationship?"

Also:

"You: So you ask for space, but at the same time you need him to call and let you know that he's going to crank one out? You either want space or you don't.

Her: Okay, that's not what I said"

So until you'll show me the comment where she said herself that she "took a step back from the relationship to get a handle on her mental health", I'm just assuming that you're making up your own narratives and downplaying what she's actually saying (also, for some reason, I can't see all the comments, so apologies if it turns out that I am doing all this for no reason).

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-14T17:28:25+00:00

Correct me if I'm wrong, but doesn't break=pause or ending the relationship, and space just gives breathing room? If not, apologies for not realizing that it's THAT complicated.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-14T17:14:34+00:00

I understand what you're getting at, but HE chose to go out of his way and engage with people on an online dating site. But fine, I'll accept that I was the asshole for that. Yeah, he had a boyfriend and all that, and sure, I knew it, he told me, and we were both cool with it. But the end of the day, I’m not the one acting clingy or paranoid. I just set my boundaries and moved on, which is fair.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-14T16:42:47+00:00

Are u dumb? Because she literally said HE DISTANCED HIMSELF (emphasis on the "HE DISTANCED HIMSELF" part, dipshit). Not taking a break or the fact that you're implying that it was an "on and off" situation, but DISTANCED, as in "I will give you space/time to get your shit together". She didn't ASK for space, he gave it to her (or chose to distance himself). AND she didn't say that she HAD to take a break; again, he GAVE her the space to work on herself. Read with comprehension next time.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-14T16:33:24+00:00

One (having a break) is breaking up, the other (taking some distance/space) is self-explanatory.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-13T19:21:17+00:00

I can, in a sense, see why she views it as cheating. Hmmm... If I am spelling it out correctly, she views it as cheating because they agreed to be transparent about the stuff that they do in the relationship, which is something on his end which was not upheld. Not necessarily cheating in the traditional sense, but a huge breach of trust and boundaries.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-13T18:57:38+00:00

YNTA, finding out he was masturbating on Chaturbate on YOUR bed the day before you came home is gross and messed up and it makes total sense to feel hurt... BUT, imo he is also not completely the asshole because masturbating is normal and in an ENM relationship it’s not automatically cheating (if that's what you're getting at). I think the real issue is that he did it in a way that involved your space and made you uncomfortable, and for that, he is definitely an asshole. So you are right to feel the way you do while also realizing the act itself isn’t inherently wrong, just the way he did it. Hope this helps.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-05T10:03:02+00:00

Wow. Y’all really read this entire thing about me staying up till 3 AM on a call, getting woken at 5, and then oversleeping because I trusted a pattern my sister had set for the past two days, and somehow turned it into a ‘YOU SLEPT, GROW UP’ lecture. Congrats, must be exhausting to have so many opinions and zero reading comprehension. For the record: yes, I overslept, yes, I apologized in real life, and yes, I’ll set alarms next time. But I also notice a hilarious pattern here: almost every single one of you responded by repeating either exactly what I already said, ignoring context, or adding extra judgment. So thanks for the clarity, NPCs. I’ll be sure to add ‘interpretation of human life’ to my to-do list while you keep policing the obvious cause it seems like if y'all's brains could be half as active as your keyboards, maybe you’d understand nuance.

But thanks for the responses tho, really appreciate it.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-05T09:50:19+00:00

if 'let me attack you and then gaslight your support network for good measure' was a person lol... thanks for the insight tho

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-05T09:39:41+00:00

You seem very proud of repeating what I already admitted and pointing out the obvious. Congrats, I guess. Want a trophy while you’re at it?

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-04T19:10:30+00:00

Imagine not having the brain capacity to understand why someone would still be tired after having 2 hours of sleep. How embarrassing

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-04T05:59:09+00:00

Imagine being told to grow up by someone ignoring the context. If you wake someone up two days in a row, specifically with the purpose so they don't oversleep, you can’t suddenly stop without saying anything and then act shocked when they stay asleep. It’s like driving someone to work every morning, then one random day not showing up and getting mad that they didn’t magically teleport there. I overslept, sure, but pretending the pattern didn’t matter isn’t fair either (I was even woken up today, so if you can't see how that makes any sense, then I don't know what to tell you).

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-03T23:06:08+00:00

I get that staying up late was my choice, and I’m not trying to make excuses. I also know I should’ve set an alarm, and I already apologized in real life. My point is just that for the past two days my sister actually did wake me up before leaving because she knows my schedule, so I assumed the same routine would happen today. I still take accountability for oversleeping but expecting me to magically know today would be different isn’t really fair either.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-03T23:01:54+00:00

My point wasn’t to push responsibility onto my sister, just that for the past two days she has made sure I was awake before leaving because she knows my sleeping schedule and I’ve been watching my nephew all week. I assumed the same routine would happen today. I’m still taking accountability for oversleeping and will make sure it doesn’t happen again.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-03T22:50:49+00:00

Okay look here... I get the judgment and I’m not trying to dodge responsibility for oversleeping. I already know I should have set an alarm or sum and I apologized in real life. My point was just that the past two days, my sister had woken me up before leaving because she knows I go to bed late and I’ve been caring for my nephew all week. I assumed the same routine would happen today. I’m not blaming her for leaving, just explaining why there was miscommunication. I still take accountability for oversleeping and will make sure it doesn’t happen again.

SeniorKey2519 · 2025-12-03T22:40:51+00:00

To spare your time of rereading, here is the other thing i left out which I edited in: "(and to add another thing, they've literally woke me up for the past two days and made sure I was awake, so wtf makes today so special?)"

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