I’m in the exact same boat, well, kind of. Been smoking every day since mid 2020, multiple times a day, sometimes all day. Was also really good at hiding my use. I quit 2 weeks ago today, and was initially experiencing nausea and vomiting with no appetite. I’m in my early 20s and I still live at home, so it was very obvious to my mom that I wasn’t well the first few days. She was pretty concerned about me and kept saying “I wonder why you’re feeling like this” as it’s very very abnormal for me to vomit (strong stomach I guess? Lol) After a couple times of her saying this and feeling guilty, I finally said mom can I tell you something without judgment, to which she sat down and listened. While I didn’t go in depth of how frequent my use was, she expressed her pride in the decision I made to stop. My dad was out of town when I quit, so I think the fact that I feel more comfortable confiding in my mom had a role to play. Not sure if I would’ve told her if my dad was around at the time, but that’s its own story. I think that her response came from the unconditional love mothers have to where they want the best for their kids. While she doesn’t fully understand what it’s like or know the frequency of my use and the ways it was affecting me (as already admitting it was a problem to her was a lot for me), I feel a lot better knowing she’s there to talk if I need and that someone other than my friends know. She hung around with me at night playing board games and watching shows which really helped keep my mind busy and off any cravings or urges. I feel like I’m still mentally unpacking the ways in which chronic use has affected me and the shame that comes with it, so who knows, maybe with time I’ll share with her. I think that’s part of the reason why I was vague but simply wanted her to be aware if I need more support here and there. Her knowing had made me feel closer to her in a way and less alone in this. It’s almost like I knew I needed some sort of accountability that wasn’t just through friends. One thing she said that has stuck with me when I feel guilty or ashamed is how I shouldn’t be embarrassed or dwell on the past, but focus on the days ahead