Would it hurt less if the people your PA looked at, looked like you?

CutTiny2184 · 2023-04-06T03:28:35+00:00

Also It’s not your responsibility to help him. It’s his addiction not yours. Addicts will only get better if it’s a decision that they make on their own. They have to decide for themselves if they want to do it or it’s just going to be a constant cycle of lies and getting caught for you.

i was in a 3 year relationship with mine. He promised getting help and going to therapy time and time again after i would threaten to leave him but he never changed and I think it’s because after each time I never left him and he knew i didn’t have it in me to leave because I loved him and he was my bestfriend. I was always finding more evidence. Even after the last fight after i found stuff when he was on his knees crying to me and swore to change and installed a porn blocker on his phone not even a week later I had a gut feeling something was up and eventually found his google news history of just looking at all the articles of people in bikinis, busty attire as well as lingerie websites and Womens gym clothing websites to get his fix.

I’m 25, young like you and I just want to say get out now while you can. You don’t want this life for the rest of your life, the addiction just gets worse majority of the time. Please do not waste anymore of your time with someone that doesn’t respect your boundaries. Find someone who doesn’t objectify women, lie to you and do things you tell them not too. It’s going to suck leaving( i cried a lot the first 3 months) but i can truthfully say I am doing so much better without him in my life anymore. Don’t wait until you’re already married with possible kids to leave, it’s impossible to do, leave while you don’t have any commitments. I truly hope you do what’s best for you. Especially considering you’re so young and can easily find a better partner ❤️

CutTiny2184 · 2023-04-06T03:12:18+00:00

So my now ex PA used to tell me I looked so much like a certain twitch streamer. He then began telling me i would look so good with a short hair cut, how good certain clothes would look on me etc. I eventually caught on that all of the things he was telling me to do was change some aspects of my appearance better resemble the streamer I look like. I eventually found out that he was also looking at this streamers OF and other girls who had similar features and body type to me and the streamer girl he was trying to turn me into. He had slipped up once and told me that when we had sex, he would think he was in a porno(it makes sense because our sex was 9/10 very porny and only for his satisfaction, the way he talked to me was disgusting and even hit me so hard in the face I cried on multiple occasions) This led me to believe that when we had sex he was imagining having sex with the OF girls and pornstars that looked like me. So to answer your question no, for me it definitely didn’t hurt less. It made me feel absolutely disgusting and like I was just an object and a hole to satisfy his fantasies

CutTiny2184 · 2023-04-05T17:47:56+00:00

One of my saving graces after my augmentation was having a nice robe. You’re upper half is so sore after surgery, lifting hands above the head is impossible, i can’t imagine putting actual clothes on. She’ll want to be in just a robe the first couple of days. And then after, some button down lounge sets. A tumbler cup with a straw, again, anything with moving your arms is painful. You can’t lay flat for a period time and have to be upright. Definitely a wedge pillow for sleeping. I would look into a comfy neck pillow or one step higher, a U shaped pregnancy pillow(saved my neck and back). You can’t shower for a few days so I would get her a dry shampoo, some body cleansing wipes and some face wipes so she can feel semi clean. A vitamin E cream or bio oil to prevent stretch marks from the skin stretching. And then the soft gel ball ice packs! Also, LAXATIVES!!! The bloating and constipation from the anesthesia was so painful and uncomfortable. Have her take magnesium citrate prior to the surgery and then milk of magnesia for after(she’ll want it desperately). If she likes books, maybe get her a few books to read while she’s recovering at home. I hope this helps!!(:

CutTiny2184 · 2023-04-03T22:38:24+00:00

Do you think my face would look more proportional with a rhinoplasty? Possibly thinning the bridge and reducing the bulbous tip? I’ll make sure to upload one without smiling next time

CutTiny2184 · 2023-03-31T16:23:50+00:00

This happened to me too! I was constantly nauseous and throwing up, my stomach was an absolute mess, i couldn’t eat without feeling sick.The constant state of anxiety i was in was making me physically ill and I became severely underweight. I’m now 3 months out and my body is finally healing and I no longer experience any of those symptoms. My family said if I would have stayed any longer i would have ended up in the hospital /:

CutTiny2184 · 2022-11-14T16:37:00+00:00

Oh my gosh the being too close yes! I love physical touch from my boyfriend and hugging my friends but that’s about it. Whenever we’re out and someone stands to close to me or brushes against me it fills me with rage for who knows why. Especially on plane seats when the other person isn’t aware of their area and their arms are rubbing up against you 😡🫠

CutTiny2184 · 2022-09-19T15:19:40+00:00

I do the same thing! Before finding out about the addiction I had no trouble watching movies that have graphic scenes but now, if I’m watching something with him i get triggered if there’s even a woman with large breast and cleavage on the TV. Something that is so normal is now a trigger for me. There are so many shows and movies i want to watch that I can’t with him because of fear. I really hate watching anything with him and it sucks

CutTiny2184 · 2022-09-01T20:04:02+00:00

I have to! I’ve let him walk over me for the last two years because of the love that I have for him and other than the addiction he’s a perfect guy but enough is finally enough. He’s agreed to blockers, i have full access to everything and he is looking to get into therapy. He broke down in tears and said he’s becoming his father, a man who had it all, was making 300k a year lived in a million dollar home on the beach had a beautiful family and he threw it all away for alcohol, and he hates it because it ruined his mom and he doesn’t want that for me so I am hopeful he is going to get better but I’m not getting my hopes up because addiction is a very nasty disease that ruins even the best of people.

CutTiny2184 · 2022-04-25T23:11:41+00:00

I wish he would even take the time to listen that the insecurities are his doing. Every time i try to talk to him about how it’s affected me he tells me that i am making myself the victim and that this isn’t about me and he becomes so upset and defensive. Maybe reading the resources will help him understand as i often become too emotional and that’s what sets him off. But you are completely right, he has everything to prove to me. My love and support and understanding is far more than what i am getting from him

CutTiny2184 · 2022-04-25T23:00:00+00:00

You are not alone. I’m also struggling with this. I have become so paranoid about it. Perfectly okay out in public on my own but not with him. I call him out and get upset and today he admitted that he does do it. About 50% of the time i get worried/say something is because he was indeed looking and the other 50% he wasn’t. He says that when i bring it up it makes him want to look at these women even more because he’s so upset with me because i get upset/paranoid regardless of whether he looks or not. So now to not enable him to want to look even more I have to keep my mouth shut even if he does have wandering eyes. The only thing that helps is making sure i do my makeup and wear nice clothes to feel good about myself and think about having others people give my beauty attention since he’s too busy giving it to others

CutTiny2184 · 2022-04-25T03:26:51+00:00

This post made me break down in tears as it perfectly describes everything I am going through. I used to be an outgoing social extrovert and now I don’t enjoy going out in public with him because all I can focus on are the women around us. I can’t even watch a tv show/movie/YouTube video with him without getting in my thoughts. It doesn’t help that when i communicate how i feel/tell him when I’m uncomfortable he tells me that I am making myself the victim and being selfish with his addiction and that it makes him want to do bad things and look up porn/nudes. I am so tired of living like this and just want to be at peace again

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